I feel bad and can't get it out of my head that I fought with my partner. We've fought about 3 times (been together a year), but they were little tiffs that we got over in the morning- this one is different.
We fought because last night I brought up something that's been really bothering me- that I wish he make me feel more special / wanted (he's very nice to me, but I don't feel special / beautiful around him). He was very offended.
I tried apologizing and even turned my car back around to go back to his house this morning because I felt so awful. He's not even making an effort to work through it, he's just acting angry. His friend will be coming up from PA tonight, so they will be having a good time, and he doesn't seem as affected by this as me.
I would go out, but he's my only friend (pathetic, I know, but he has 3 friends and they're all in different states).
I want it to blow over- this kind of thing hasn't happened to us.
Advice / comments if you relate?
2006-10-14 05:50:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And by the way, he really is a good guy and is very nice to me...
And no, I don't nag / bother him... That would annoy anyone...
2006-10-14 05:55:27 · update #1
well my dear, here is the thing, if he did not make you feel special,or beautiful, then why are you so upset? i think you know now that he did make you feel those things. and maybe you were feeling a little insecure about your self that day and that happens. give him a call and tell him again that you are sorry that he does make you feel those things and that you were just feeling insecure about yourself, then ask him if you can come over and hang out with him and his friend and have a nice night . i don't suggest you bring this up again. you hurt him and this is his way of letting you know. and one day you will realize that you need to make your self feel these things not expect others too.
2006-10-14 06:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to stop that attitude of asking him to make you feel beautiful. YOU should feel beautiful and confident with or without him. And stop being too clingy to him. He knows this thats why he's acting angry and not bothered. He knows u're there like a dog waiting to be petted whenever he says so. U're encouraging him to be mad at you. Trust me, pretty soon he'll be getting mad at u for everthing just to get it his way and u'll be giving in to every whims and fancies then finally he'll think he's too good for u. Do u want that to happen? If no, then do this. Just say sorry, and tell him to have a good time with his friends. Once u start being independent he'd want to be with u more. Stop waiting to get rewarded by him. U have to feel u're a reward to him!! Guys love confident girls and they never want clingy pathetic girls. Go out and socialize. U sound like a nice person. Get some shopping done, join a gym, an aerobics or dance class, some short courses or something. Get your focus on something else, then he'll be wagging after u.
2006-10-14 06:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by Liz^24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to reflect on things tonight. You feel guilty for what you said, but he doesn't seem to be bothered too much by it. Maybe what you said wasn't really that bad.
He certainly is not dwelling on the incident. Maybe he did not take it the way you did. Maybe you should look at it from his point of view. It may not have meant the same thing to him.
A day apart will do you a lot of good. When you see him the next day you will have had time to rest and recover. Things will be fine - just discuss the situation when it is a good time for both of you to talk.
2006-10-14 06:01:01 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone Fights. Period. The point is, women like you really take it to heart and guys like me (and probably him) have the attention span of a goldfish, let him go out, have a good time with his friend, and the next day talk to him. Just dont nag or bug him.
2006-10-14 05:53:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, one big fight is not that bad. Before his friend gets there you need to talk to him. If you talk about the problem it usually AWAYS works out. Im married and we've had plent of big fights as have any one thats lived together. We always take the time to talk about our problems (even if that means being late to work, haha). Try to talk to him about it, and if he gets offended then you know he's not he right person for you, at least thats how i would look at it.
2006-10-14 05:56:37 · answer #5 · answered by armesia_combs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop him, the guy for you will always make you feel wanted and special and if you're not getting that feeling from this guy then he's just a waste of time.
get involved in different activites around your community to meet other people and you'll find the right guy out there!
2006-10-14 05:53:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋