For the past few monthes I've been either depressed, angry or paniced, more often than not. Either it's a panic attack, a bout of depression or a moment of rage, it usually happens once a day. Last night I was angry, then depressed, then paniced. Today I flew off the handle and screamed at my mother, sobbing and yelling, which I never do. It seems like a pretty angsty teenage thing to do, but I did it. There was no real root to the anger, I just blew up. I'm angry most of the time nowadays, and yeah. It's starting to annoy me and worry me a bit. I'm not the type to scream at my mother, but I did. I'm not sure whether these problems are root of my parents seperating or not. I don't think it is, because although it's a strange transaction, it doesn't bother me to the extent that I'm experiancing with my emotions. I'm 15 years old. Any ideas?
2006-10-14 05:46:09 · 7 answers · asked by Ellie 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
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2006-10-14 05:49:51 · answer #1 · answered by super stud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents separating may not seem to be bothering you much, but I bet it does. These are the two people who are raising you. The three of you have been together for all of your life. Add to that the fact that in teenage years, many things change for you emotionally and physically. Your hormones are definitely changing and they can play havoc with you.
Please DO NOT THINK THAT YOU'RE THE REASON YOUR PARENTS ARE SEPARATING.
I would suggest having a complete physical to make sure that you don't have any physical illnesses. Then talk to your parents or another trustworthy adult about what you're feeling and thinking. Sometimes seeing a counselor can be most helpful.
I am angry a lot and scared and panicky, and I can't always identify the triggers or the reason, but I'm taking medication and am in the process of changing doctors. Things can be scary even at my age which is 59. I was not always like this.
Please seek help. You don't deserve the pain you're going through. God Bless You.
2006-10-14 05:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by Juanitamarie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like hormones, regular teen angst, and sublimating the impact of your parents separating (not really dealing with it). There's almost no way you can't be angry about it. It's a type of abandonment and deep inside you're probably feeling a little abandoned, too. There are books on dealing with divorce, and maybe talking really honestly to a school counselor or some adult that you trust about all the ways that the separation affects your life would help. Convincing yourself that it's not a big deal is about the worst coping strategy you can use. So, working on recognizing the affects will probably help a lot.
2006-10-14 06:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by Alex62 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are out of control because events around you are out of your control. This is pretty normal behavior for kids who's parents are making decisions for themselves and you have to deal with the repercussions with no say so.
Find the group at school for children in this situation, at my daughters school it was called the Rainbow group for kids who's parents were seperated or divorced(or divorcing). Go to your school counselor and tell her what is going on and ask for help. If you are active in a church, go to the minister or youth minister and ask for help. If you are close to an aunt or grandmother, and they are safe to talk to, talk to them and ask for help.
This is just a personal opinion, so if its not right for you and your situation, ignore it. But don't let anyone put you on medication. If you don't learn to cope in any other way, this will just become a crutch and in ten years, you still won't know to cope. Take up a sport, exersize(but do not do it to an extreme and do NOT diet)take up dance, painting, sculpting, writing poetry. In essesnce find a physical or creative way to express your anger and grief.
I am sorry you are going through this. Its hard and not fair and just awful. Its also not your fault and you have no control over it at all. Your parents most likely love you, and don't be afraid to tell them that you are angry, hurt, and sad about what is happening between them and you need to be reassured that they love you and will take care of you. You sound pretty mature for your age, to even recognize what is happening and that its a problem is pretty impressive. Don't let adults blow you off, if one doesn't take you seriously, then go to another.
I think when its all over, you will be ok. Learning to cope with the stupid stuff that happens to us in life is something you will carry throughout your life and it will give you something alot of people don't have, an ability to accept it and move on.
Good luck to you and be strong.
2006-10-14 05:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find yourself a hobby that's worthwhile; and it doesn't hurt to help MOM around the house; it'll defuse your anger and also burn up some calories so you don't end up looking like a couch tater.
EXERCISE outside/hiking, swimming, even just walking with friends; NEVER walk alone.
Make yourself useful to everyone and most of all,
GO TO CHURCH.. You'll find answer there when you can't from anyone else
Go in HIS light, little sister
;)
2006-10-14 05:51:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-14 05:51:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have bi-polar disorder. go see a dr, they have medication that can help control your anger and mood swings. good luck.
2006-10-15 18:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋