We went out on our little dinner date the other night and people kept staring at us. I'm black and he's white. I expected a few stares but i was really uncomfortable. Will it always be like this?
2006-10-14 05:39:15 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Same problem. I'm white, he's black. You know, they are staring because you're looking so damn good together:)
2006-10-14 05:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by Boginya 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The stares could be for a number of reasons not just because of the differences in skin tone.
Admittly it is a curious thing for people yet in most cases it is exactly that curiousty nothing more. This is a challenge that you and your b/f will have to handle. Though make sure that you do not judge others for looking or stareing. Unless someone actually says something to you then consider it flattering. Mixed couples are all around us every day. Just live and be happy dont let others control what you feel or do..... ;-)
2006-10-14 12:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by scotdic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are people that are still in the box. I have been faced with the same situation for the past four years with my parents. I am west indian and my boyfriend is black. We have been together for four years and my parents still have not come around to reality that it does matter that he's black. Its saddening and hurtful, but there is nothing that you can really do. People will always be negative towards things that make you happy. If you love him, then stick it out, like I have done. It might be worth it someday. Good luck and God bless!
2006-10-14 12:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by Stefanie K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think anytime people see someting "unusual" they tend to do that. I am 10 years older than my boyfriend and we get stared down at times too. He looks younger than he is even and it makes it look as though we are further apart. I say just learn to let it roll off. I understand how stares can be uncomfortable, but I just refuse to let people get to me. It's your life not theirs and if you are having a good time more power to you :). We can't control the stupid behaviors of others, but we don't have to allow it to ruin our happiness.
2006-10-14 12:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by Nathan arrived 8/4 :) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it probably will. No matter how much we thing our society has changed for the better, you will always find very rude people out there. Next time you and your mate go out on a date. Ignore them or ask them if you have a booger hanging. You know just to make them embarrassed that they were caught staring.....
2006-10-14 12:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that....yeah, people stare, but it depends on where you are. I'm in Alabama....big no no to even be SEEN with someone of a different color. Forget them. I learned to turn up my blondeness and become oblivious to their racial attitude. If there's a guy who shows you respect and the love you deserve, don't worry about what other people think. Live your life...it's too short to let someone else live it for you~
2006-10-14 12:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by shynomore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how "politically correct" the world becomes, you are always going to find people who will not accept inter-racial couples. For too many years such dating has been taboo amongst both blacks and whites,and minds are a hard thing to change.
2006-10-14 12:44:39 · answer #7 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably, im black and ive dated a lot of white girls, and we always get cold stares. the only real accepted innerracial are Black+spanish, white+spanish, and white+asian but black+white, black+asian, black or white+ indian are usually frowned upon, but who really cares, if people want to live in a little box then i say let them
2006-10-14 12:42:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends where you live,i live very close to the city and it is normal to see interracial couples and personally i take no notice,but in small towns its not so common so therefore you could get small minded people staring.Ignore them and enjoy what you have.
2006-10-14 12:42:32 · answer #9 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people will always act like this
I dated an asian woman and I have gotten some bad stares and comments from other asian people
It's wrong of them to do so but you can only pitty them
2006-10-14 12:41:14 · answer #10 · answered by Karce 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fraid to say it but probably yeah! but if you want to hear how we get stared at and get double takes here it is: my dad is Dutch, my mom is Korean, my first daughter is half Laos, and my fiance is 1/2 white 1/2 Mexican. and we have a daughter also, so we get all kinds of looks. but what i figure is that way more people can see my beautiful family!!
2006-10-14 12:50:54 · answer #11 · answered by Stacey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋