We opened the door to our van and he relived himself on the fence. There was a car behind of us and the couple inside (who had children) freaked out saying that I was disgusting and a bad parent! I explained that he was not able to hold it any longer. What did they expect me to do? I couldn't take him in (I was the only adult) as I was stuck in between people at the drive through.
This has bothered me for a long time, 3 yrs, and would like to hear what others have to say.
2006-10-14 05:27:57 · 24 answers · asked by Tawnja N 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I love the answers that say you should have pulled out of line. Obviously the fact that there was a FENCE next to your car escaped their attention, and they must not have drive-thru's where they live that would require you to hop a curb and/or take your vehicle through a safari of miscellaneous plantings to get out of the lane. Off-roading and mini-vans usually don't go well together.
And if he was 4 and could stand IN the van and hit the fence (hello, was he standing in the van?!), the drive lane was either way too narrow or he had one heck of a distance going.
I agree that after 3 years you should probably just blow it off. Those people should be lucky he wasn't peeing on their tires. Since chances are good they have no place in your life besides griping at you for letting your son keep his pants dry, their opinions don't really matter.
The only time I've seen a little boy peeing in public and was offended was in KS, a little kid ran up to the pillars outside of Target, on his way IN to the store, and peed on the front side of the pillar in the sidewalk. At least your's had a fence on the side of the drive lane.
2006-10-14 06:16:31 · answer #1 · answered by desiderio 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
A child can't help when they have to go they are still learning to control their bladders. I can see how the people in the car behind you would be a bit surprised but if they had kids then they should know also that it isn't something that can be avoided.
When I was about 2 and 1/2 I was playing baseball with some friends at a neighborhood park and needed to go use the restroom. The park didn't have one so my mom took me to the gas station closest by. The attendant wouldn't let me use it saying that it wasn't for the public. My mom was a bit of a hot head and yanked my panties down and made me do my buisiness there on the floor. So see your lil boy going outside by a fence in a drive thru is nothing, i have to live with the shame of wetting the local 7-11 store :-) Hope that helps.
ps-dont let others make you feel like you are a bad mom in any instance..only YOU know what is best for your family :)
2006-10-14 15:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gotta do what ya gotta do! I would have done the same, better the fence than in my car. I would hardly say it was disgusting. Ignore the other couple. That is the nice thing about little boys (and grown ones for that matter), peeing is a little more convenient. We have pulled over on the side of the road so my husband could pee in the woods, no big deal.
2006-10-14 13:13:31 · answer #3 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I say forget about their uptight a**. When you have kids sometimes rules go out the window when you have to do what you have to do. You owe no explanation to the people behind you, only to your child letting him know that this is not normal behavior, but since it was an emergency that's why you did it. My son at 5 had to go and couldn't get out the car. He was holding himself and hopping up and down yelling mom. I knew he wasn't going to make it I gave him an empty bottle and let him go. And told him to stop waiting so long to let someone know when he has to go. People tend to say things on impulse, but put into the same situation they would do the same thing or worse many may panic and not know what to do. So you did what you had to do. I wouldn't think no more of it. It wasn't nothing life changing like it caused you to loose a job or something like that hey forget about it.
2006-10-14 12:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by barbie2 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I laughed sooooo hard when I read this and I want you to know that this happens to ALL of us who have sons. I have 3 sons and have had situations very similar to this happen. My advice is to get over the people and what they said. Look at it this way: are those people in your life? are they paying your bills? do they have a say in how you raise your son? do you believe you are a bad parent? Will their opinion of you change how you raise/do things with your child? I'm sure you answered no to all of those questions, and as easy as it may seem for me to just tell you to get over it, I do understand why it still bothers you. But in the end of things you have to choose whether or not to let it have a role in your current life.
By riding the fence on this I have to look at the other side of things too. As a mom who has had similar situations with my own sons, I have to sit back and think of all the times I have seen other parents do things that I personally don't approve of and think about my reactions to their situations. Alot of times I probably over reacted, just as those people did with you. Have you ever done that? If so then you should be able to empathize with the fact that they had their reaction and they are not sitting her 3 years later dwelling on it.
Good luck with your quest to find out what others have to say about this.
2006-10-14 12:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by Just me.... 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What else was he supposed to do ??? Pee himself???
Don't let it get to you. Some people are very stuck up. Maybe if they are ever caught in the same situation, they may think back and feel bad about the way they treated you.
I see parents letting their kids pee at the side of the road all the time. It doesn't make me angry. I just chuckle to myself, think of the kid saying ...." I have to go now!!!"
2006-10-14 12:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by missluly 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Little kids are not like adults, they can't always hold their water. There is nothing wrong with you allowing your child to go outside. My 5 year old son always has to pee when we get into the car, and if he cannot wait I allow him to go. Now when he's older, I won't but not its not bad while he's young. I wouldn't let my 12 year old go outside. But it is different with a 3yr old. Don't feel bad at all! Its normal.
2006-10-14 14:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by panda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your son had to go pee...He's 4 years old...not 15...you did the right thing..It's better than him peeing in you van!! .I have a 8 month old son and believe me when i am in a similiar situation, you just gotta do what you gotta do. Shame on them people for insulting you in front of your son but let go of the anger. you were in the right, not them!!!
2006-10-16 12:20:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet if their kids had to pee they would have done the same thing. Little ones can't control their bladder as well as an adult. If he's gotta go, then he's gotta go. It's not like he went and peed on their car.
2006-10-16 11:15:57 · answer #9 · answered by ErinMichelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't worry what other people think, if you can't hold it you can't hold it. if you feel you need to be more discreit have him pee just inside the van door. or you may want to consider carrying empty juice or soda bottles. this may sound gross, but you can tighten the lids and throw them in a grocery bag until you get home or the nearest trash can. having five boys, and road trips these bottles have come in handy more than one time!!!
2006-10-14 13:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋