I have an old friend who fills my inbox with junk email everyday. I haven't received a real email from her in months. It's getting really annoying...I have tried referring her to snopes.com, and emailing her when she I see she is online to let her know how I'm doing, hoping for a real response. And so far, no response, just more chain letters and cheesy forwards. I don't want to hurt this person's feelings, but on the other hand, I find it really rude that she can find the time to send out all this crap, but can't take 10 seconds to say hello. Any suggestions?
2006-10-14 05:26:20 · 15 answers · asked by Nicole M 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
tough one and something everyone deals with. I had a friend that would send on everything that came down the pike and I ended up getting a nasty little virus on my computer. After that I knew I had to address the problem, quickly.
I would send your friend an e-mail simply stating, "Hey, I appreciate you thinking of me, but I really do not want to receive any more forwards, so if you would just take me off your list of names to receive this stuff."
It may be harsh, and your friend may get upset, but do it.
If you don't you are going to end up getting really frustrated and you may fire something off in an e-mail you will regret. Or you could end up receiving a virus that will destroy your computer. I had top notch protection at the time I got hit, but I got hit about 3 hrs before my virus protection company knew the darn thing even existed.
Now, to lessen the blow to your friend's feelings, be sure to follow up with a couple of chatty e-mails: "Hey, just thought I would say hi" Stuff like that. Then she will know you aren't mad.
2006-10-14 05:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me, you have 2 questions here. First, is this really a friend? If so, and you value her friendship, try calling her and saying what you said here, if possible, in a non-confrontational manner. If you don't, I'll tell you what worked ON me. I forward things I find humorous among my friends (though I do email them personally from time to time, also). One "friend" from high school sent me a very abrupt email saying she considered all forwards to be a waste of time and would I please desist, as of now. So I deleted her from my contact list and have not responded to any further emails. Keeping in mind that in high school, she followed me around like a dog, and I was including her in my 'friends' because she appeared to be lonely as an adult also (her family have disowned her for her radical religious beliefs), I felt highly insulted by her response to what I considered a hilarious joke. This doesn't necessarily apply to you, you don't sound like a lonely, puppy-dog type, I don't want you to think that's what I meant...it was just my reaction to her email. I'm trying to say that, if you don't value her friendship, block her emails or mark them spam...if you do, you may have to put up with some bs to keep the friendship. I have another friend, who is close as a sister and sends me some of the most appalling junk...I just look at it for friendship's sake and then trash it, and respond to the good.
2006-10-14 05:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Place her name in the Blocked email address lists. Not sure which email system you use but for yahoo mail you can definitely add someone to your blocked lists under options, and block addresses when you are inside one of her messages. Unfornatualey you won't be able to distingusih between spam or real e-mails. Any mail from her will be automatically blocked.
2006-10-14 05:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by kk2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mark them as spam so they go to my junk mail box. If that is not an option because you need some of the e-mail from this person, then you are basically going to have to delete it as it comes in. I go through the same thing and that is what I do.
2006-10-14 19:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a few options you might like to try:
(i) "Can I ask you to stop sending me forwards? I don't have the time to read all of them and I mostly delete them without reading them anyway."
(ii) Send them back to her.
(iii) Change your email settings so that her emails are filtered to another folder.
2006-10-14 05:55:05 · answer #5 · answered by nangari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My own daughter in law sends tons of the chain E mails.
I hit delete as soon as I see them and determine they aren't personal.
2006-10-14 05:31:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell her. Or if you want, you can just ignore her or mark her emails as spams. That's really rude of her. Is she really is your friend?
Edited:
Ya, be honest but don't be rude. If she is your real friend, she would understand and still be cool about it.
2006-10-14 06:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell em to stop that wat i do when ALL my friends forward chain mail crap an so on. if that doesnt work i tihnk theres a way you can block their emaila and make w/e they send u put into the junk email catorgory
2006-10-14 05:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Add her email address to your "Blocked Mail". You can access this in the "Options" sections when your logged in to your email. You will never recieve another email,or forward from her again,unless you remove her address from it. Her emails will not go to your "Trash Box" either. (Also) you can "Spam" one of her emails,and her address will be sent to your "Blocked Mailbox" too.
2006-10-14 05:40:22 · answer #9 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
mark her address as spam the she cannot send you anything. Good luck, it is horrible that you have told her not to send them and she just continues. how very rude of her. God bless
2006-10-14 05:39:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋