And how do you get over the feeling as i get on great with guys i dont fancy yet guys i like im a nervous wreck and my words come out all wrong is this normal? Also the guy i like is also shy like myself yet hes comfortable round loud types yet hes nervous round me. Any advice is appreciated
2006-10-14 05:19:30 · 18 answers · asked by joanne100uk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, it's because there is more at stake with this person because you like them.
Talking to someone you look who you fancy can be more nerve racking than the big business deal, the interview for the dream job or meeting someone who is famous or important.
Again when you think about it there can be more at stake again then any of the above scenarios. Chemistry is very powerful.
The way to counter our nervousness is to be grounded and take it for what it is and not build it into anything too soon. Many people certainly in the Uk tend to get involved too quickly into relationships and this starts from lift off and we forget about reality and dive in too quickly.
The thing to remember is that he may look great and on paper hes a great guy but just like everybody he's just a person with character traits some good and some bad, You don't know if he's relationship material and if hes's compatible with you.
Think of him as just a candidate for your love and affection, that's all, don't give your self away too soon, get to know the real boy and then if you like what you see go for it. Oh and i do not mean go too far the other way, and act all superior, hard to get, and don't be someone you are not, this will only get you hurt.
Keeping him as a candidate for your love and then spending low presure time with him will have you meet a great guy.
Keep grounded around great guys, they are people just like you.
Good luck.
2006-10-14 07:22:51 · answer #1 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal to feel nervous and awkard around someone you like. It happens all the time. If the guy is cool around other people but nervous when he is around you then he likes you too. Because if he diddn't then he would just carry on like you were just any old other person. So chill out loosen up and spark up a converstion with the guy next time you see him. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-14 05:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by Future Nurse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yer its normal everyone does. you two are meant for each other if hes the same then there is no need to be nervous as hes going through the same thing as you. he is feeling the same so pluck up the courage to talk to him. the worst that can happen is your words might come out wrong its not a problem just correct yourself. in time youll get over the nervousness. be patient and soon you two will w talking fine
2006-10-14 11:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's normal, maybe he doesn't need someone as shy as him, this is why he hangs around the loud type to bring out his character a bit. I am not saying, convert to being loud, but making your presence known in a ladylike fashion is a start.
Asking questions about sports, T.v shows, and etc can generate a ongoing conversation
2006-10-14 05:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by Breann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I suppose that people feel that they will not be liked in return, so their are nervous about being "not accepted". The older you are the more experience you will have had about being "not accepted" and you will not be as nervous - cause you will know better how to handle it. Maybe the same disappointed, but less nervous, I believe.
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2006-10-14 05:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the anticipation that's doing it to you. The best way to get over it is to tell the other person how you feel about them. Yes, it's awkward,but it will let you know how you stand with him. Good Luck
2006-10-14 05:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal.
I usually feel awkward around girls I really like, especially if I don't get a chance to see them very often, but I always feel perfectly fine around girls I don't fancy.
2006-10-14 05:28:58 · answer #7 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep telling yourself that hes not that special.He's still a person at the end of the day and even though your nervous and you know he is just try talk to him like you hes a brother or something.It might help.
2006-10-14 05:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him over the phone or im and when u start getting nrvous tell him u have to go or something like that become friends with him then you wont be scared to talk to him in person
2006-10-14 05:22:52 · answer #9 · answered by HELP! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
corse :-)
if u werent like this u obviously wouldnt fancy the guy
i'm ALWAYS like this round boys i'm mad about but i became good m8s with one of em n eventually became cool n confident!!
good luck
x
2006-10-14 05:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by SophieKayy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋