Ok so its the 2nd year of my program in universitty. I met this girl who was in my program this year we started talking a bit when we first met. Then I had some issues with a previous girl she would give me harrassing phone calls and what not. On top of all that I had 2 of my grand parents die within the past month. I told her this and I told her I dont want you to take it personally but I need some time to get over somethings. SHe seemed thankful that I shared that info with her. We still talk almost every day but she ALWAYS acts like a ***** around me she always gives me smart *** comments all the time, but then depending on the day she is nice and smiles at me? Now I have no clue what is going on in her head. I told her what was up and she seemed kool with it, but it sure doesnt show? what is up with her?
2006-10-14 05:13:09 · 13 answers · asked by canuck131986 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only way to get the correct answer is by sitting her down one day(on her good day) and ask her whats truly going on.
2006-10-14 05:19:49 · answer #1 · answered by kodiakkia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want an accurate answer, listen to any of the female answers you get in return, and forget the guys because they don't know what's going on inside a girls head, so "immaturity" is not it.
Right now she's feeling like you pushed her away when you asked for time and space. She doesn't feel like you trust her enough to keep her close to take care of you. It's natural for a woman to want and need to nurture the wounded, so it's like a slap in the face. She may say everything's fine because she doesn't want to look stupid and insecure, but deep down she's hurting too. Let her know that if you ever need to someone to talk to, that you'll go to her first. Appologize for pushing her away because it wasn't your intention to make her feel unimportant. What's happening is that she has feelings for you, and she's getting a vibe that you don't have them for her. Whatever you may feel, you have to talk to her. Just talk to her and tell her the entire truth about absolutely everything and hopefully she'll understand. Good luck.
2006-10-14 12:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's trying to respect you and give you space but at the same time she is trying to get your attention and make sure that you don't forget about her while you are sorting this other stuff out. She just wants you to give her some reassurance. It sounds like you try that, so I just would make sure not to reinforce her when she does things that bug you, and show her that you think she's being cool when she's being cool. Tell her you appreciate her understanding about needing the space and that you think she's really cool for that.
2006-10-14 12:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by Q.Latifah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probaly got her feelings hurt when u said u needed time. and even though u were sincere she took it personal. she prob smiles cuz she still likes u but the whole being a smart *** thing is her ego trying to feel better. i would talk to her about it and if she still acts like that forget her cuz she is prob selfish if she cant understand that u were going thru alot at the time.
2006-10-14 12:17:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone needs to explain to you, what is wrong with YOU, not her. She stuck with you while you were going through $hit with your ex, why couldn't you give her the choice to help you through the death's instead of pushing her away? Sounds like you are controlling and assuming when and what emotions she is allowed to feel. She probably still likes you but is leery of being hurt, when you suddenly choose to check in and out of the relationship. I f you like her you better fix what is wrong with you, before you loose her!
2006-10-14 12:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by ptt_pntr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, try asking her in a nice way. she may feel lacking in the love area, which would make her act disrespectful. also, when we feel upset about anything, we tend to take it out on the person closest to us. and you may not ever understand her totally, because God created us different. just try to work it out now before it gets worse. if she really cares about you, she'll try to understand and work thru it with you. best of luck
2006-10-14 12:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by cupcake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe this girl felt that the two of you were close and was hoping that you would want to allow her to help you through your pain. and when you said that you needed time to deal with it, it was a slap in the face.i think that this girl liked you and wanted to be a part of what you were going through and you did not feel the same and that hurt her.
2006-10-14 12:18:23 · answer #7 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Immature, and is messing with your head
Is she by nature a sarcastic person? or did she just started acting like this toward you? She might be seeking out your attention despite the fact that it is negative
2006-10-14 12:21:57 · answer #8 · answered by Breann 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing up with her at all. You are just someone to pass time with, not someone special to her. Forget it and either don't talk to her, or realize that you are not important enough to her for her to care.
2006-10-14 12:17:10 · answer #9 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why dont you just ask her. is it possible that she might be hurt by the decision to have some space?? i mean isnt it nice to have someone who wants to shaer your pain and try to help you through it??
2006-10-14 12:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋