2006-10-14 04:58:38 · 13 answers · asked by DM 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I definitely wouldn't count on it. Especially if I was a woman in a relationship with him.
2006-10-14 05:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha, funny that so many say a good beating will fix him! He probably grew up either being beat on or watching his mom get pounded. It's what he already knows. A guy like that can be "cured" through lots of counseling IF he really wants to change and can handle dealing honestly with all of his emotional issues. If he tries doing it alone, pffft, at best he's apt to just turn the physical abuse into verbal abuse and/or go passive-aggressive; hence the counseling.
If you're living with this guy, leave him. He has to do it for himself, not for you. You probably would benefit from counseling, too, since being beaten on creates incredibly low self-esteem, your own anger issues, and worse... it conditions you to accept abuse as a part of love - it's not!
2006-10-14 12:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by Alex62 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that with treatment and counseling he could overcome the need to dominate those weaker than he is, but I wouldn't trust that it would be a "cure". Wouldn't you just hate to be there when he "fell off the wagon"? I come from several generations of abusive men and I've seen them not hit or hurt their wives for months or even years, but when they do lose their temper (or resolve) there is hell to pay. Most abusers don't see anything wrong with their behavior and all the blame is placed on the abusee. And if the abuser thought for even a moment that his gf or wife was behind a beating he received from someone else, she would probably get punished severely for that infraction. Violence only begets more violence.
2006-10-14 12:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by greeneyedladysexylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to say NO, unless he has extensive counseling, in the meantime you or whoever you're asking for needs to get some advice on an escape plan if you or them is living w/ this person...hide some money, ss card, some car keys. Stay away from rooms such as kitchens, bathrooms were there are potential weapons...find out where your local shelter is...usually in the phone book you'll find a number for a Crisis hot line or something like that...above all, don't live with it...no one deserves to be abused....Good luck!
2006-10-14 23:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by suzeq19642003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I finally ended a10 year abusive relationship with a man that I loved more than life it's self. I finally realized that he was not going to change no matter what he said and how much I wanted him to. I came to a point that I knew that I didn't want to live like that any more. I gathered up the courage and told him that I had had enough. (he spent 2 years in jail for beating me)
It may be possible for a man to change but is it worth the chance?
Now I'm bi-polar.
2006-10-14 17:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by Jeanie H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to cure a sick man like that is for him to get abused too.
2006-10-14 12:10:43 · answer #6 · answered by Manapazza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The French had a cure, but it's been outlawed by bleeding hearts. They called it Madame Guillotine.
2006-10-14 12:06:50 · answer #7 · answered by martino 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is possible, but the longer the man has been abusive, the more the odds are stacked against him. he needs good solid long term counseling, god, and a good swift kick in the shorts.
2006-10-14 12:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by Texas M.B.A. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, two ways:
1. beat him within an inch of his life the 1st time he beats a woman.
2. beat him to death for the 2nd time he beats a woman.
2006-10-14 12:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's possible. Once he is beaten within an inch of his life he should settle down.
2006-10-14 12:06:02 · answer #10 · answered by Demon Doll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋