Now listen...this guy is the SEXIEST man I have ever seen in person. REALLY...I MEAN THIS! We went out, had a wonderful time. He opened doors 4 me, held my hand, had his arm around me, rubbed the top of my leg while sitting next to me. Then upon ending the night, grabbed me and with the SOFTEST LIPS...he LET ME HAVE IT! SOFTEST kisses I have ever had and I swear, I melted right then and there. I NOW believe in luv at first sight! He wants to call me and I'm soo crazee about him already. What do u think I should do?....Play SOME type of hard to get or just go for it? I mean...MAN...i wish i could show him 2 u. I'm just crazee about him and as i look back at my 15 year marriage...i now see soo many things that i didn't get from that man after only ONE date with another! I don't wanna look or appear 'trampy' but I really, really want this guy to stay after me! PLZ HELP ME OUT!!!! :o) Thanks~
2006-10-14 04:50:06 · 10 answers · asked by Q... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't play games. If you like him that much, start the relationship out right, without games or deception...Being honest about your feelings ins't trampy. But deffinately don't sleep with him for a while, then you WILL look trampy.
2006-10-14 04:56:08 · answer #1 · answered by smellyfoot ™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't believe in playing games, but you don't want to come off as too eager because you might scare him away.
I think answer the phone if he calls, but if he wants to see you the same day, say you have plans and suggest the next day. Also, don't tell him that he is the sexiest man you've met! I think I would be a bit put off that he had his hand on your leg the first date. I am not so sure that I would be comfortable with that. I am not a prude, but do like to get to know a guy before he starts touching me.
For some insight into men, you might look at the site askmen.com
The content is mostly written by men who are players, but I've gotten some good insight into how men tick. Also, the sight lovingyou.com has some surveys about what men want.
Good Luck!
2006-10-14 11:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not worry about which game to play, but I would be careful about how quickly you let yourself fall for him. Either way, if you don't get some perspective, then no matter what game you play, you're going to end up being super clingy and possessive. If it does go anywhere, then after that initial love struck craziness that you feel now (which is definitely an AWESOME feeling) goes down a little, you are going to face real life with this dude. Don't screw it up by seeming like you're so into him that you may become psycho (that's how guys see it -- I'm not saying you are psycho -- it's great to be in love). The best thing to do is be honest -- but don't throw yourself at him. That's not to say to play hard to get, because it sounds like a good thing and you don't want it to backfire. Just have fun and take things naturally. Let him know you're interested, but don't go overboard too quickly -- it'll fizzle a lot faster that way! Good luck! Here's to luv at 1st site!
2006-10-14 12:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by Q.Latifah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first read your question, I thought - wow, the girl's in love
big time!! Very natural - very exciting, but then when I read you have been married for fifteen years, I kinda got a little confused.
I am not saying Love is for the young, but I thought that you would be able to work things out by now.
I mean,playing hard to get or going 4 it - are not these games kinda young and foolish?
I mean, if you really like him, then that's great but don't play games. I guess don't let him go but don't rush into it like a dizzy young teenager on her/his first date.
I don't want a put a damper on it, cause "love and romance" is a beautiful thing and I am happy that you have found it.
Soft kisses, etc are lovely and he sounds like a true gentleman.
I guess, what I am saying is, don't play games.
Have you been able to grieve your 15year old marriage?
I am hoping this is not a re-bound thing.
Just be yourself. And you don't have to appear trampy or whatever. Dress in a style that you are accustomed to.
Just enjoy yourself and get to know him a little bit more.
I wish you well!!
2006-10-14 11:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, You lucky girl! Sounds like you already have this guy hooked! I think that you should play just a little hard to get, because a guy will respect you more if he has to work to win you. I know how you feel- you just found the love of your life & it all feels so great- but you've got to keep your head & play this right. Love can be so emotional that you can loose all sense of reason. Let him chase after you - it will be more rewarding for him when he wins you over completely(sounds like he allready has on the first date) but don't let him know that! Play just a little hard to get but not too much....I'm happy for you...you found the most wonderfull thing in the world...LOVE......good luck..bye bye
2006-10-14 12:09:04 · answer #5 · answered by Danica Fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, glad you had an awesome date! Second, breathe......and only go out with him again if you really didn't have anything else going on and if you really want to. There's no reason to play hard to get if you're not feeling it. Just be yourself. Just don't cancel plans you already had or rearrange your life for him just yet. If he's digging you just as much, he'll still be there. HAVE FUN!
2006-10-14 11:54:29 · answer #6 · answered by CharlieCat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Playing hard to get can backfire, and then you would be upset if he stopped calling you. Just let things flow naturally, and don't play games.
2006-10-14 11:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by LibraT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's as great as he sounds, don't hold back, go for it!!!
2006-10-14 11:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you go for it girl! just don't lay all your cards too early okay.
goodluck!
2006-10-14 11:55:13 · answer #9 · answered by bloss_83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard to get defintely!
2006-10-14 11:52:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋