i have had bad boyfriends in the past, i never stayed round long enough. my boyfriend and i have been going out 8 months, its the longest i have ever been with someone. realy dont want to push him away, i get scared then dump the guys, but i realy want to keep this one. i do love him i just find it hard to trust him. and yet everything he says turns out to be true, the prob is me and i need good advice
2006-10-14 04:09:32 · 10 answers · asked by hunny jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, we all carry baggages good and bad from our past. What modification can you make in this relationship which you did not do in your previous relationship.
Without some type of trust in a relationship it is not worth starting.
Yes you may have been hurt, well, he may have been as well.
Are you scared that your trust in this person may turn out to be as painful, as the last.? Chances are 50/50. We just have to literally pray and hope for the best.
Honey, life is a gamble some you win and some you lose.
Take my advice, if you can,.do not bring in toomuch of YESTERDAY into TODAY because it will stop you from planning for TOMORROW. Live is absolutely wonderful. Good, bad and the ugly. I now a special place to deposit all that comes my way which I chose to ignore. My sister, live life, love life. Smile more if you have not. Embrass life with open arms. Do not allow yourself to be drawn into things. What has caused the instability in your early life. You cannot rely on others for your happiness. Others only help to enhance it.
You must build on you inner strength. Yes, you do possess it. Good luck.
2006-10-14 04:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by enigma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know the answers to those questions. However, your relationship doesn't sound healthy to me. If you aren't attracted to the person you are with, all around, then it isn't the best thing for you. You aren't a bad person or anything... you just seem a little confused right now, which is okay. You don't have to decide on anything today. Just tell the man you are living with what your dilemma is. Don't ever have sex if you don't want to, it's just not a good idea. Try to meet more women... join your local Pride coalition or something like that. Just get out there, if that's what you feel is right for you. Good luck.
2016-05-22 01:22:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love this guy, you should have no problem trusting him, but i understand ur feelings. Being hurt in the past doesn't help your situation either. You should talk to ur bf and tell him how you feel. trust him a little at a time if that helps, and maybe u'll feel better trusting him with big things. Relax and just roll with the punches, take it day by day and live in the moment. If you are happy now, you shouldn't worry about anything else. Good Luck! : )
2006-10-14 04:14:15 · answer #3 · answered by sadie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him your past, about getting scared and dumping the guys. Give him permission to ask you if you are getting scared do you need some room. Or let him know what can he do right now to put you at ease. Document these events so you know when you get scared. Usually one that dumps, it is because they are beating the other person before they leave them or think they are leaving them or giving them reason to leave them. You just have not found any reason to leave your current boyfriend. You look for it seems? Right.
I would not say quit looking cause you will and you should. In case he is lying about something. :-)) Just kidding.
2006-10-14 04:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by gbdelta1954 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If everyone lived according to their past there would not be many relationships out there. We all have had bad things happen to us in past relationships but you can't let it hold you back or you will never be able to truly love someone for who they are. You have to let the past be just that, the past. Move on with this new guy. He seems to be pretty trustworthy and honest. If it makes you more comfortable to take it slower, just let him lead the relationship along that way you won't be pushing him away and you will know where he stands.
2006-10-14 04:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to look in the mirror and ask yourself some serious questions... Do you want a relationship and what is it that you can do to attain your objective... Ans: Don't live in the Past!
2006-10-14 04:12:46 · answer #6 · answered by RiverRat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think to Ur self should i stay stuck on this one guy or move on to a better one that loves you.trust is a major thing in a relationship so just think.
2006-10-14 04:15:10 · answer #7 · answered by because of you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let go of the past and know that everybody is different I am sure you aren't like your girlfriends . everybody is capable of lying but don't always do give him a chance for you sake
2006-10-14 04:14:29 · answer #8 · answered by deemark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that u love him
2006-10-14 04:11:36 · answer #9 · answered by Fly_Boy97 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you fill .DON'T BE SCARED!!
2006-10-14 04:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by big o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋