Feeling Like a Total Fool and Idiot......?

Question

I was just recently in a long distance relationship that ended with a barrage of lies and deceit. our relationship started about 8 years ago. the amazing thing is that we met online and we truely fell in love with each other. i live on the east coast. she was living in the southwest. she moved with a sister to the east coast to be closer to me. we saw each other 2-3 times everything was great, our trust in each other was at a all time high. we totally trusted each other. she practically begged me to please hang in there with her and dont leave her because she loved me soo much and i loved her just as much. we the time was right, we was going to move in together etc. our future looked very promising. everything was great. it felt right. then unexpectly she had to move back to the southwest and everything started to fall apart gradually. we kept in touch constantly still. we made sure we used the phone. she also wanted to stay in touch online. we still talked about marriage.

we talked about me finding a apartment so she could move down here. we missed a few chances to see each other a few times because of things coming up unexpectantly, but all in all we still wanted to be together . thats the way it all sounded but as time worn on. she was becoming more and more moody and short tempered. getting mad at me more. causing me to doubt some things, but she never wanted to really talk about it. but at the same time she would talk like our plans was still intact. whenever i asked her if she was seeing other people or wanted to, she would blow her top and act like i had no right to ask her that ofcourse she wasnt since she was still talking to me. but more and more she was changing. i personally thought she was maybe bi polar or something from the way her mood swings were. but i also knew she was fustrated about our distance. but i always told her. dont worry. im not cheating. i love you. we will be ok. we still be together soon. lets look forward to that.

in 2001 she was acting stranglely moody and stopped talking to me for about 5-6 months. then called me back and told me that she was seeing someone and to please take her back. she was sorry and didnt know what she was thinking, she would have never cheated before etc. so i took her back. she just wanted to put this all behind and move forward. and got mad if i ever brought it up. now to recent events. she just broke up with me before the summer. but a few weeks after that, she broke a bombshell on me. she told me she had been seeing other people off and on for years and just recently got out of a relationship and is now pregnant. couldnt tell me because she didnt want to loose my friendship and never wanted to hurt me.and claims she still loves and misses me which ofcourse i dont believe. the worst part is. she told me all of this on the internet. no phone call or nothing. lying to me all these years. acting like we still had something. whenever she needed help i would help her.

she wont call me because she says she feels weird talking to me because shes pregnant. so just like that its over. 8 years of a relationship and friendship for absolutely nothing. i dont understand how a person can cut someone off just like that. not too long ago we was on the phone laughing, joking, she was joking with my dad, always asking about my parents and wondering if they like her or not. they all knew her. she came online , needing some help. i helped her as usual. she was obviously very grateful. i dont know how she could do this to me. she almost made sure that i was honest with her about everything and that she could trust me. and i held up my end. i feel like a fool. even now, i feel kinda lost alittle. i put in all the work and honesty and trust with her, and another guy gets to have a kid with her. we always talked about kids. she even said that i was the only guy she would be with. why say stuff like that and then lie and cheat on someone that respected and trusted you

Answer 1

Sounds like she has been having a serious relationship with someone else, the whole time. She moved close to you too see what it would be like with you in person, then decided to return back to the other relationship! You are probably right to feel like a fool and an idiot.You need to break this off and find a real, in person social life that could lead to a real and meaningful relationship.Time is wasting.If you can afford it hire a private investigator to check her out so you can find it easier to break up with her. The truth will set you free

Answer 2

Wow, that's a long time... 8 years. Don't feel like a fool or idiot for loving someone. Sometimes, for reasons we don't understand, things change and go in a different direction than we want. Try your best to make sense of what happened, then move on. You have the rest of your life, and it's up to you what you do with it. You'll find love again! Make sure it's a little closer geographically next time! :o)

Answer 3

First off, what reason did she give for returning to the southwest?

Answer 4

On line is On line.... in person is a whole new ball game and the course of the game can easily change when it is not on the keyboard of your puter..

Answer 5

MAYBE IT IS TIME TO CUT THRU THE CHASE AND FIND SOMEONE YOU CAN SEE ALL THE TIME AND HAVE A CHANCE TO REALLY DEVELOP A STRONG AND BINDING RELATIONSHIP WITH.