with me sex never seems to be any good, and theres this guy whos really sweet and i really like him and want a relationship with him, hes not rushing me into sex or anything, but when the time is right and we are gonna sleep together I want it to be good, cause hes only had sex with his one girl (his bunny boiler ex who is now out of the picture apparently) and I dont want 2 b bad in bed compared 2 her. Any tips?
2006-10-14 03:57:54 · 18 answers · asked by lil_missy0625 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be open,
2006-10-14 04:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You see right away you are making a big mistake by dissing his ex, and calling her bunny boiler...never diss a man's ex they wont thank you for it...if he wants to diss her he can because he was with her, remember stay neutral...and why are you so focused on her, you are a different person aren't you? you don't need to be focused on her...obviously she must have been something if you find yourself going on about her so much, also you don't sound too sure if his ex is out of the picture completely, you use the word apparently...why are you asking for tips....you should be yourself when your with him not follow tips or anyone else, he'll appreciate you more don't you think?.......
2006-10-14 04:07:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok most girls believe that they are pretty good in bed,but in fact lots of guys say very few of them have been really great.. so why the distance between what the women think, and the men know?
There are a number of reasons why:
* Men don't usually have as much difficulty extracting pleasure out of sex as women do, and thus aren't as demanding.
* Women don't expect, (and often aren't expected), to do very much in bed, thus they don't!
* While women are focused on the quality of their relationships, they aren't as focused on the quality or their sexual skills.
* Men don't often tell women what they want from them.
* Women mistakenly think that all men want is the orgasm, when in fact; men have many varied interests in sex
* Men are taught very early on to focus on the woman rather than themselves.
So, if you were to distill things down to their most fundamental elements, i believe these are the things that make women great in bed:
* Enthusiasm - looking forward to sex; both giving AND receiving.
* Responsibility - taking responsibility for their own pleasure and getting involved with it - not putting all the pressure on their men.
* Openness - The willingness to talk about what she wants, and to ask what he likes. Then, to really understand what he means and question what she doesn't.
* Willingness to experiment with new things.
* Involvement - Willingness to do some of the work! Don't make us do it all - get involved happily and voluntarily.
Some final points are in order:
* Obviously, different men want different things, but in general, most men enjoy oral sex. Learning to give good oral sex is a duty, not a luxury!
* Be willing to tell him what you like, and what you don't. He's not a mind reader, but he does want to know what curls your toes.
* If he doesn't know, show him! Work together to discover what works for you.
* If you're absolutely against something he wants to do, he'll understand..but just not being sure isn't the same as being dead set against, so be open to new ideas..
* Tell him ur fantasies. he wants to know what makes you tingle deep down in your depths.
* But, trust him too. He's probably more experienced sexually than you are! Take advantage of it!
* Don't be shy - he'd want to see, touch, taste and feel ur body - every part of it..
I hope that helps shed some light on this!
Best regards...
2006-10-14 04:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by Karine 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
firstly, have u done it before ... if so then i am sure u know wat u want and i think on ur first night u should guide him from this position to that seductively and slowly witout rushing and show ur real appreciation for him by making some really dirty noises. Guys like when girls take control and show him ur kinky side by blowing him or making him go doggystyle on u. If he does not know then guide him through it - doesnt take much time to learn.
Try to take it to the orgasm level and when u climax, hold onto him, look him in the eyes and shout out his name in a mourning manner. He will never ever forget the first time wit u. GUARANTEED!!
woman on top works fine too - if u arent comfortable wit doggystyle. foreplay is pretty important too.
2006-10-14 04:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by Chief 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My one bit advice would be for you just to be comfortable with what you are doing. If you are not comfortable with any element of it, then you will not enjoy it.
If you feel embarrassed about sex, or doing certain things, talk about it but start slowly, take your time to get to know what you both like. It won't happen in one night, or one week, but after it does happen, it will be most special.
Good luck.
2006-10-14 04:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by silversilver3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you find someone who you really like then you will enjoy sex..people get better with more practice..you have just got to relax and not be so shy and nervous and then you should both enjoy it..remember always practice safe sex.
2006-10-14 04:12:37 · answer #6 · answered by fajita 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will probably be taking control, it is usually us guys that are the ones that are bad. If he is a normal guy, he will just leave you and not be good in bed, and you will think that you were bad because you are still hot. Just relax and hope that he is not a normal guy
2006-10-14 04:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by showtimegk 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If its meant to be, it will be perfect. I was as nervous as hell when my finace and I first had sex but as soon as he kissed me, I relaxed and it was perfect! Don't try to set up the night, it will happen when it happens! Just relax and good luck. x
2006-10-14 04:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why not just ignoring sex before marriage? and concentrating on having a good relationship and think abt sex only aft marriage? and don't marry him just for sex.
2006-10-14 04:03:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Relax!
2006-10-14 04:01:08 · answer #10 · answered by garfet 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would only suggest that you take things slow. And if he's experienced like you say he is then he can lead you. With a woman there's no outdoing or ogoing for any of us....
2006-10-14 04:05:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋