threesomes?

Question

do you think that a threesome with your boyfriend is a good idea or do you think that he hasnt got alot of respect for your for even asking?is it best left a fantasy?

my boyfriend has mentioned it to me i wouldnt mind trying it but feel like he'll loose respect for me if i do!

Answer 1

There is NOTHING wrong with you and your bf exploring the fun side of experimenting. You have both already talked about it and you have both decided that it might be fun. Talk about it a little more. Make sure that he is not gonna leave you for the third party. Remember, when you are having a threesome.. it's about sex and fun, not feelings and you can't allow your emotions to run wild, only your hormones are running wild. Have fun, enjoy the experience. Be careful and use condoms of course. Don't allow yourself to get jealous. (remember you already agreed to the threesome) If you don't like it, don't do it anymore! Chalk it up to an experience (neither bad nor good)..and Good Luck To Yall!!

Answer 2

I do not know the structure of your relationship. My wife and I were together for 4 years before such a thing. We now enjoy the fruits of that lifestyle on occasion. The first rule is you have to want to be with women too. If not, than everything could fall down hill. My wife, and luckily for me, likes women alot. I still do not disrespect her during the activities by saying the wrong things and she appreciates that. Threesomes can be very fun and I think that it has, in a weird way, made us closer. Keep in mind that these are things that we do as a couple and it would not be any other way. I have never lost respect for my wife at all, even after seeing her with another guy. hope it helps.

Answer 3

Keevy, sometimes I find it difficult when gurls talk about respect and all sort of things like that. To me, respect is reciprocal. The fact that he seeks your consent before embarking on it depicts that he respects your opinion about it - or don't you think so. S'ppose he has finalized the whole thing and just grab you into the action, what would be your reaction. You've just said that you love the idea, then why can't you give it a try and forget all this "respect" stuff. I think he has a good intention in seeking for another way to enrich your sex enjoyment and satisfaction. I think you'll reciprocate the respect he has for you more if you give an objective and constructive contribution to the idea rather that an outright repulsion or rejection. Think about it.

Answer 4

It all depends how committed you are to each other and how secure you both are in yourselves. If he is asking you than I doubt he has any issues with not respecting you afterward. He probably has a good sense of the difference between love and sex, which some people have an easier time of seperating than others. Would you feel different about him afterward? If not why would you think he'd feel different about you? Understand where I coming from?

For some, sex equals love. For others sex and love can be intertwined and seperate. For instance, because my wife and I are in love sex between us is different than sex with others when we include them. Sex when you are in love with someone is far different from sex with someone you just think is hot. One is soul sex, the other is like a one night stand - it's a great way to get off. LOL

You both have to be sure of your relationship before you open it up to others. There can be no doubt in yourself or your significant other. Insecurity equals jealousy. Jealousy leads to issues between you.

Also, what kind of threesome is he proposing? MFM or FMF? In my opinion, if he wants a FMF (which most men do) than he better be open to the idea of a MFM for you. The street has to run both ways or someone is going to end up resenting the other. Even if you never actually went ahead with a MFM, the door better be open to it. If not you really are not on the same page and playing on a level field. You've indulged him, he better be willing to indulge you.

That is why many couple play with other couples. Both of them are "getting some" therefore, even though there is still the chance of jealousy if insecurities exist, there is less chance of someone feeling they got the short end of the stick and being resentful toward their SO.

Basically, for some adding more people to their sex life can be a thrilling and bonding experience together. For others it is better left a fantasy. Only you two can decide which way it is for you. Talk, talk, and then talk some more. Cover every possible issue either of you might have and talk them through. Be open to the other person's point of view and feelings.

Then, when all is decided, and you've set some ground rules for who, what, where, when, and how you want to go about it do you go find someone to share with. Every negative experience I've ever heard about a threesome or moresome was from not being on the same page about what they BOTH wanted out of the experience, one was coerced into it by the other, or they were all drunk and it just happened without any prior discussion. Fail to plan, plan to fail. The old saying holds true here, too.

Read the information at the link below, it is a good starting point for both of you to open the discussion.

Answer 5

Sure If you and your partner are secure in your relationship, then you can try a threesome, or a soft swap with another couple. Start out slow. Have sex in the same room as another couple, swap partners for some kissing and fondling. A good relationship and communication about your feelings is however mandatory before proceeding. As an alternative to another partner, use a fantasy where you blindfold her and thru role-playing make believe you’re someone

Answer 6

hi there, the main point really is it a sexual fantasy that you share meaning is it something you often fantasies about on your own ?
because if you don't don't allow misguided loyalties persuade you into it just to please him,,,,
I have had quite a few threesomes and the reality is the if everybody is not equally into it ,,, it is a real let down for one or all, and just a tip don't do it with anybody that you mix with all the time as it will have a bad outcome ( trust me) .
you don't sound like your into it so back foot him and ask him if he would like to do it with another guy him and you,,
see how that site's with his reaction will let you know how sexually open he is really... also a threesome ( 2 girls and a guy) is only a real turn on for him if you and the other girl are bi sexual if you not it's a waste of time...
good luck

Answer 7

If you would like to have threesomes,you really do not need to have a boyfriend.couples who have threesomes,after become in swingers,and then never a couple anymore.That is why many men and women like to have many partners,instead to have a serious relationship.Good question,good luck.If he ask you to do it,he is showing you: that he does not respect you (nothing),and he does not love indeed.

Answer 8

Your opening a can of worms... you did not mention if it was 2 girls or 2 guys.. and if you enjoy it too much there will be repercussions.. or some crap like well you seemed to like him better.. or heaven forbid if the guy has a bigger...

Answer 9

me and my husband had had a 3some once...it was my idea,,,i was trying to be a "cool wife" it was the worst thing that we could have ever done,,,it ruined the relationship. he was jealous all the time...i turned into a jealous person.(it was another woman by the way) he thought i was into women and that i was going to go cheat with a woman, which ended up happening. It was the worst mistake ever....im embarrassed and ashamed by it.....please dont do it....if he insists...then insist that you go find someone else that doesnt want to

Answer 10

if u want to do it, and if he looses respect for u then he probably didn't really have any in the first place. be careful and safe with all parties involved.