OK, Im in a bit of a pickle, my ex just told me he was in love with me and we've been through alot n i didnt want 2 hurt his feelings so i said I loved him back and kinda meant it. But I had just been on this date with an amazing guy I've liked for ages, and me and him hit it off. We arranged a second date, I really have strong feelings for my ex but i also like this new guy. My ex gets bak from turkey in a week and although we agreed we're not going out, i feel he's going to expect some sort of commited relationship, and I have no idea what to do anymore. To make the situation more complicated my best friend is my ex's sister, and she will not be slightly amused at me and him getting together again. What do I do?
2006-10-14 03:45:48 · 21 answers · asked by lil_missy0625 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When it comes to an "ex" you have plenty of reason to move into a certain position: you know him, his behavior, situation.
Put him in a position he feels so unconfortable that its almost imposible for him to agree: offer him ano-commitement relationship (we guys hate that), tell him its ok but that you both may see other people, tell him that its not a good moment for you to have a openned-public relationship.
He should dump you the first time you go out with a guy!
2006-10-14 03:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by etherberg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people have ex's for a reason. I am sure something happened between the two of that just wasn't right. You need to look at all the bad and good points of the ex and think about if he will go back to his ways. If you really think that he will go back to his ways you need to let him go. I personally don't feel you even want to be with the ex or you wouldn't have gone on a date AND set up another one with this new guy. Sometimes you just have to move on .... and there doesn't seem to be any strings attached such as children...so now is the time, before things get to complicated.
2006-10-14 03:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by Confused 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh dear, that's a tough one. I'd say stick with your new man and forget your ex, or just stay friends. You should never let a man get in the way of your friends. Was your ex living in Turkey, or just on a holiday? He may be just looking for someone reliable to come home too and not really be serious about you. I hope i'm wrong in that! Good luck, and i hope it all works out for you xx
2006-10-14 03:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by sausagejockey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you give it a brake i now that's hard to do,
but go on holiday to some where you can relax .
not party or funfair stuff just be on your own leave your mobile at home and go .
Just be yourself and have time to think .its sounds as though you are Young and need to grow up not in a bad way its just a part of maturing in to life.
You will come across choices often in life choosing the right one can only be down to you .so take the time for the guys will still be there after a week away
2006-10-14 04:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look it's not like your married so go for it with the new man your ex is an ex for a reason,it's just one of them things if your mate doesn't understand then she can't be that good of a mate in the first place,lifes too short go with your feelings.
2006-10-14 03:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep away from your ex ..he is no good..he is your ex for a reason...he was probably shagging lots of girls in Turkey..dont feel bad or guilty....start seeing this new guy and just have some fun.
2006-10-14 04:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the key to a successful relationship ... this is YOUR life we are talking about. You have to be honest with yourself first and in your relationships second. To allow yourself to be driven by the feelings of others over your own is a mistake. True friends, regardless of their level of intimacy in your life, will want you to be happy above their own self-perceived agenda. Follow your heart and your own path, not theirs.
2006-10-14 03:51:51 · answer #7 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i was in that posistion then i would try to get to know the new guy cause the new guy really likes you and your ex and you agreed that you and him wouldn't go out any more so try it out with the new guy and if it goes sour then either go back to your ex or find someone new.
2006-10-14 03:53:42 · answer #8 · answered by soccersam522 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to be honest with your X, you have no intention of getting back together with him, and it is not fair to lead him on. Even if you have strong feelings for him there is a reason you are not together now, do not forget that.
2006-10-14 03:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump them both men are not worth the bother unless they are gay then at least they understand you an ex should stay an ex time to move on
2006-10-14 03:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by ladybird 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋