Dating Websites?

Question

There are so many, and except for Plentyoffish, they all cost money to join, except for Mate1 which is free for women. I have registered on a few of them, esp. the Jewish ones, and occasionally get....smiles? winks? even emails. Of course I cannot respond back. If anyone seemed really interesting I suppose I would join but I have not come across anyone worth the $15 yet.

Anyway, this guy from my home town has been writing to me from POF so of course I can write back. He initially said he liked my picture and wanted to kiss me. I wrote back that I did not kiss people I didn't know. He keeps writing that he wants to get together with me and kiss me. (Hi my name is Sam and I'll be your stalker tonight).

So the question is, why are guys so aggressive on these sites? Do they really expect a woman to respond "I saw your profile, it says you like Mexican food, let's have sex"????????

Or am I just a prude?

Answer 1

Prude it not the word of choice here--it's rational.
You seem to be a very sensible woman, who knows what she wants; a trait worth ennobling, because there are very few women that will filter out the bad sheep from the rest of the flock, in order to find Mr. Right.

But the question at point, "why are guys so aggressive on these sites?" A question with many answers:

1.Men are sexual beings and for some, they will force themselves on to women.
2.Perhaps desperation. Many people resort to online dating services because their love life outside the internet has grown thin due to lacking numbers of potential lovers walking the neighborhood streets.
3.The internet allows them to portray themselves falsely. Essentially, when you meet someone online you know absolutely nothing about the person nor do you know what he looks like. Even if he were to say words of disrespect or become overbearing there are no repercussions that will make him lose face. Example of false portrayal over the internet: Me. I am generally shy in person and find it difficult to speak face-to-face, hence my coming here to answers.yahoo.com helping others with their questions.

With that in mind, I suggest registering to a paid online dating service. You will likely find more serious people within these groups who are willing to go the extra mile to have a meaningful relationship.

Good luck.