I am dating this guy who lives in California (I live in NJ). He is an electrician and for three weeks before I went to visit him he had no work. His boss wanted him to work the 4 days that I was there to visit him but he didn't because I was there. Now that I am back home, he claims that he has been working really hard because work started picking up again. He doesn't call me like he used to (but he calls me every night before he goes to bed) and says it's because his boss has been watching him and doesn't want him talking on the phone. I told him that if he doesn't want to be in this relationship to tell me now...he said that if he felt that way he would tell me " I'm sorry but this isn't going to work out". Before we hang up at night he says "I love you" but then I don't hear from him the entire day. Should I give him the benefit of the doubt or dump him?
2006-10-14 02:48:47 · 5 answers · asked by italiana2683 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He used to talk about me moving there (living on my own of course). Lately he has not brought up the subject. Am I over-reacting?
2006-10-14 07:49:41 · update #1
You are way to needy.The guy works for a living.Why is only one conversation a day not enough for you.Most married couples don't spend that much time talking to each other.I'm sure he'd love to talk to you more,but time zones and work schedules are a fact of life in long distance relationships.
2006-10-14 02:55:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont break up with him. because of 1 day? u need to let him work. grown ups cant sit on the phone all day. he is just trying to work. besides long distance relationships are hard. dont put too much pressure on him!
2006-10-14 09:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I think he is being honest with you. Otherwise, what would he have to lose by just telling you it's not working for him. The fact that he is calling you and telling you he loves you means a lot. But, what are your long term plans? Will one of you move to be with the other? I think that's what you need to know before you decide on anything.
2006-10-14 09:52:43 · answer #3 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships don't usually work, honey. There is no growing. Just let him go, and be friends. That's it.
2006-10-14 09:52:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-10-14 09:50:24 · answer #5 · answered by sleepwalker69 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋