I have an ex bf, we stayed friends since our break up 10 months ago. He takes me out to dinner sometimes, and we usually talk almost every day. But he also tells me he doesn't want a future with me and I tell him sorry I wasn't good enough for him. To which he replies, why do you say that? Hmmm....because you don't want a future with me? And he tells me when we dated he always had fun with me, and still says he has fun whenever we go out to dinner. Anyway...the rare times I do go out, he asks who he is, how did I meet him, blah, blah, blah. I tell him none of his business, you don't want me, I'm just moving on with my life So, does he still care and really want a future, or is he just trying to be controlling?
2006-10-14 02:32:58 · 10 answers · asked by countrygirl0120 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe because he doesn't really want you, but he also doesn't want anyone else to have you either. Perhaps deep down inside there are some lingering feelings for you.
2006-10-14 02:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by BAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got the mentality of if I can't have her then no one can. He doesn't wanna be with you but doesn't want anyone else to have you either. He's just controlling you. Deep down he does wanna be with you but is too immature to do it. As much fun as you guys have while still being friends it's not a healthy relationship. He's trying to control you and you should just move on, no matter how much it'll definitely hurt you as well. Change your phone number and don't answer the door if he comes. He'll get over it.
2006-10-14 02:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by Steph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just forget about him. Stay friends, but who cares if he still likes you? He's obviously a bum, or doesn't see a future with you, so date away, and tell him all about the guys you date. Trust me, if he still likes you, he'll take the action, and you don't have to do a thing.
2006-10-14 02:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by smashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he still cares and is using you as a "standby", honey. Cut the cord!!! No more "dates", no more "friends", just let him go and tell him you can't be friends anymore; you find it uncomfortable. You're not obligated to tell him what is going on with your life either. Kick to the curb.....move on, as you said. He is getting something out of these encounters...probably feeling guilty or is bored. Godloveya.
2006-10-14 02:37:39 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.........first off.........dont' apologize to him. damn woman....your apologizing for not being good enough. stop talking to him every day. he may be your friend...which is cool. but you need time away from him. if your moving on with your life do it. you are still stuck in the past........at least part of you is. don't 'matter if he's trying to be controling. he said he doesn't want a future. believe him. its coming out of his mouth....take his word for it. you don't need to wait around for a what if. you'll waste to much time on a what if. take time away from him. don't be talkin to him every day. move on sister
2006-10-14 02:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of the geek hes a control freak
2006-10-14 02:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by sleepwalker69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coz hes a jerk,get rid of him ! Its the old dog and bone routine,he doesn't want the bone but he sure in heck don't want another dog to get it lol
2006-10-14 02:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by pandorasbox40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Controlling. He doesn't want to see someone better than him take his place.
2006-10-14 02:36:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
commitment phobia
2006-10-14 02:36:21 · answer #9 · answered by barbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gelusy...
2006-10-14 02:35:07 · answer #10 · answered by GgHj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋