It seems as if my mom hates my guts- she always puts me down and she doesn't want me to have a good life. I told her that I was planning togo to Europe next summer and she told me if I went, then she'd kick me out the house. However, my little sister told her that she was planning to go to Canada, and my mom said it was okay- no problem. Also, my mom hates that I'm a history major and she doesn't like the fact that I'll be studying to be a librarian instead of going into medicine, like my whole family did. She values my older sister, who's a doctor, but she always picks a fight with me. How can I get her to stop this? I hate it- I feel like I have a Lorelai- Emily relation with her (just like on 'Gilmore Girls!'
2006-10-14 02:30:37 · 14 answers · asked by barbaraspice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am sorry to hear about your problem. I am not sure to tell you what to do. My best advice would be to try and talk to her to see why she treats you the way she does. It sounds like because you did not follow the family line she is trying to push you into it by being mean. This does not seem very fair but maybe she doesn't know how else to deal with it. Maybr you can talk to her about accepting you for who you are not what she wanted you to be. If you were my daughter witrht the ambition you have I would be proud of you and totally encourage you. I wanted my kids to do great things and they did not become doctors or lawyers but they are pretty good people who support themselves and 3 of my oldest have beautiful families. So I am proud of them for what they have done and who thye are. Good Luck I will pray for you.
2006-10-14 02:41:35 · answer #1 · answered by wolfy1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just sounds like your mom set goals for her kids and your doing your own thing which irritates her. Not saying it's right on her part since you should live your own life as you wish to live it. Try to talk to her but instead of turning it into a argument just tell her what your goals in life is and why. If your not interested in medicine like the rest tell her why your not. Maybe this will help her to understand your thoughts a little better.
2006-10-14 03:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be proud of yourself and of your career goals. So, you're the only one not in medicine...that's what a family is. ...a group of individuals with different interests and qualities.Don't let your Mom get you down. She will be proud of you as you continue to follow your dream. She's probably just worried about you going to Europe alone with all the decinsion in the world today. Good luck. I'm sure you will be very successful if you continue to follow your passion. It's your life. Live it and be happy.
2006-10-14 03:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emily - Lorelei relation? well then you just need to shut her up and say mom this is how it is you can take it or leave it. that's not a great mother at all and I'm sorry you have to deal with it.
i have a stepmother who would question everything i said and then call me a liar, who fought with me and none of my siblings, when i laughed at a joke she would act like she was mimicking my laughter and totally embarrass me in public. it was horrible. and i think now that what i could of done differently to make things a little bit better.. i could of just let her have her say make her think the way she wants because when you move out and get your life going it just comes back to bite her in the ***.
if you dont live at home anymore theres nothing making you talk to her or call her up and invite her somewhere.
good luck!
KRISTY
2006-10-14 03:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isour mom paying your way through school, honey? Are you living at home? Move out and get on your way. If you don't get parental approval, you probably will never get it. Just do what makes you happy at your own expense whatever it takes. Some parents hold out until their kids are grown because they didn't do what they wanted them to do. The best way out of this is just to accept that you're mom will never give you the approval that you so desprately want. Even if you do everything "right", she'll find something wrong. So love her, and do what it is that makes you happy and don't worry about her approval. Godloveya.
2006-10-14 02:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel....
if she doesn't pay attention or object to what you have to say, say "I'm going to Europe next summer anyways" and "I'm going to be a librarian instead of going for medicine because that is what I want to do for a career."
Don't let your mom take control of your emotions and life.
2006-10-14 02:54:47 · answer #6 · answered by the new cookie cutter style 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 07:11:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers can hate their children--sad fact. Have a heart to heart talk with her. If you can't resolve the issue, it will be hard, but you have to live your own life. You cannot be true to yourself by living others's dreams, trying to please other people, or trying to be something you're not. If you are old enough, plan to move out and live your own life. Good luck!
2006-10-14 02:59:47 · answer #8 · answered by Joy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk to her. tell her that practicing medicine is not for you and you want to do something that you enjoy. I would rather be a history major then work in medicine (cause I am going to be!) Tell her that you love her. Hope it helps!
2006-10-14 02:38:12 · answer #9 · answered by masterurownmind 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think hate is the right word...maybe she's resentful of you for going out and doing things that perhaps she didn't have the oppotunity to do.
Maybe she was forced into something and went along with it, sees you not going with that trend and resents that she didn't do the same.
Don't try and please her. Make your own decisions. I always tried to please my mother but it got me absolutely nowhere.
2006-10-14 02:39:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋