dated a capricorn guy for more than 2 mths nw and ive been edgy eversince to knw where we are going. he says he wants to be with me but is nt ready for a commitment nw..but he is very jealous whn other men tried to gain my attention. he even told them tht im his gf so they would leave me alone.he told his mum n close friends about dating me but he didnt want a relationship yet. can u help me figure him out? i dont understand and i think he's confused. i wanted to leave him but im in love with him. wat should i do?
2006-10-14 01:58:26 · 12 answers · asked by aphrodite 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's just trying to make sure you are worthy of being his lady. Give him space and make his decision without your pressure.
2006-10-14 02:01:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've gotten some really great advice so far here. Be careful to not confuse lust and love as that is easy to do sometimes as well. I don't think that dating steadily for two months is rushing to have a relationship, but people work differently, that's what makes everyone so interesting. If you mean marriage by relationship, then, yes too fast. But to be mutually exclusive to each other and starting to be in a serious bf/gf relationship would be ok. I'll agree that as I've gotten older and dated more people, I prefer to be friends first and let things develop on their own as well. Hope this helps and good luck :-)
2006-10-14 02:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by Porterhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plain and simple - CHILL OUT - he's obviously into you if he doesn't want anyone else in your life. Enjoy the journey of becoming real friends and let love blossom - if love is meant to be then it will grow because it was nurtured not forced.and honestly wouldn't you rather have a real relationship that is grounded rather than some overnight whirlwind that leaves you insecure and unsure of who you're really involved with. Honestly there's no real down side if love doesn't bloom then you'll just have a great great friend. - Question is are you woman enough to really handle that ;)
2006-10-14 02:27:45 · answer #3 · answered by Blessed_One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea, I mean look at it this way, he is jealous and wants you to himself, but doesn't want to commit to you yet, does this sound like a good scenario. If you really love him, perhaps you should stick it out with him for a little while (but I'm not sure if that's a good idea) he may come around as you get to know each other better. Requesting to be official is not necessarily going to fix those problems, it may get worse. Take your time.
2006-10-14 02:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you are not putting out for him. This is called "Push me Pull me" It is a form of mental abuse to keep you guessing while he's having a high old time and getting all the sex he wants without commitment. Pin him down to commitment ,if he won't commit to a relationship of your liking, then move on you'll be much better off with someone who will respect you.
2006-10-14 02:11:13 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Being in love in my experience was easier to tell as I got older. I wasn't so concerned with the boyfriend-girlfriend thing but more with just being friends and letting things develop on their own. Being a friend is step number 1. The jealousy thing does not mean he loves you. Be careful.LOL.
2006-10-14 02:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by june.johnston 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it so much. This guy obviously still wants to be seeing you or he wouldn't get jealous and he must like you to be mentoning you to his family and friends.
Why not relax a little and stop trying to put time limits on things. Everything will sort itself out, just go with the flow!
2006-10-14 02:10:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no what is u're time limit for u to have a relationship with that person and then u can tell if u think this is the right person for u
2006-10-14 02:01:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until your 5th to know if every thing will work out fine but in the mist of time he might propose so hang in there.
2006-10-14 02:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by hayley cash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can simply ask him whats going on...
I would be worried if I couldn't talk to the guy about stuff.
2006-10-14 02:02:48 · answer #10 · answered by Chi_Indy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋