2006-10-14 01:56:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I suppose I would choose on the basis of which one lived in the nicer town, or nicer home, and be sure to visit the other often. Are the schools in both towns equally good? Do you get along as well in both towns? Which one has better outside activities, such as clubs and parks and such?
Whichever one you see less often, explain that it's not because you don't love him/her, but just that you absolutely LOVE the -- fill in the blank here -- and please understand.
2006-10-14 02:06:06 · answer #1 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in a bad spot and it will not be easy. But for your good will and safety you need to be living with the one who nurtures you, spends time with you and where you feel safe. Haveing a parent who is never there and who you can never talk to can be a drag so pick the one who is better here.
This does not mean you can not see the other one. They are still your parents and you love them and they love you they just no longer love each other.
Don;t let their hate, anger and frustration affect you. Stay out and away of their fights and don't ever take sides you will not win. If you have to do the choosing then expain why you are choosing the one you do. Make it clear you feel safer or more secure and then tell the other one you love them too and will see them often. If they make a big fuss over it tell them it is your chose and you want them to respect it the same way you respect their choices. They should get the picture loud and clear.
Keep Tough. One day you will be on your own to make all you own choices. This is the start.
2006-10-14 06:49:25 · answer #2 · answered by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you have to make that decision. Your parents don't hate each other, they apparently have grown apart and are madd at each other. Unfortunatley you are stuck right in the middle. I can't tell you who to choose, only you can do this. A parent is one who will be there all the time, to help you in what ever you need and to love you unconditionally (Your parents agree on 1 thing, they both love you). Which parent will always be there for school activities and will give you advice and has their feet firmly planted on the ground? Life is never easy and the choices in life, last a lifetime. I know you Love both your parents, even though they are not getting along right now. I hope you are doing Ok, If you need anything just hollar
Take care! and Good Luck!
2006-10-14 02:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by KIM A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry this is happening to you, but keep in mind that they do not hate you. Ignore their relationship with each other if you can.
If both of them take good care of you and both live near your friends or school, then tell them you want to live part of the week with one and part with the other, or every other week. Otherwise choose the one that will take care of you the best. Since they cannot seem to put your best interests first, then you are going to have to. Pick the parent who lives near your school and friends, who's got the best room for you and who is going to be there for you. Don't let the other parent make you feel bad for not choosing them. Simply say, "you guys aren't thinking about me, you are too busy hating each other,so I am choosing what I think is best for me". If there is a judge involved, ask to speak to him/her and tell him/her why you are making this decision.
Good luck to you.
2006-10-14 02:21:02 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first all i am sorry for your situation no child should have to choose because its hard enough they are not married..and for me it was a good thing because my dad was so mean..
But for you i would write down on a piece of paper..the pros and cons of living with each parent and how it would affect me in my life..sure you will get benifits with both but who will be there when your sick, who will help you make the best desicions of your life, who will help you with your homework, who can you tell about your day..and so on..there is alot of important points about growing up and guidence is the best thing..so i would figure all that out
And when you move and if you do dont stop seeing the other parent let them know because you left or didnt you didnt stop loving them..and one is not better then the other..because that could also make it worse..
I hope things get better, and it works out..
2006-10-14 02:06:17 · answer #5 · answered by away right now 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents may hate each other, but they really love you. I would bring everyone together and talk it out. When deciding which one to live with use logistics instead of emotions and emphasis that to them. Live with who ever is closest to school or work and which ever home you may feel the most comfortable. That is what's most important. They will understand and still love you either way. Good luck
2006-10-14 04:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by Kristen D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a ruff decision to make. Sorry your in that situation. I guess it would be best to go with the parent who has their feet the most firmly planted on the ground. Hang in there!
2006-10-14 02:01:48 · answer #7 · answered by keys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you get them to buy one house and move in and out of it on alternate weeks while you stay there? If they have jobs in the same town it could work.
2006-10-14 04:00:10 · answer #8 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live on your own if you can afford. If you're still young stay with your grand parents. Choosing either one of your parents will have adverse effects on you later on..
2006-10-14 02:04:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoever is home the least. The one with the bigger house/bedroom. The one that keeps the best food in the fridge.
2006-10-14 01:59:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋