Is revenge okay? when i was in primary school straight up to my academy(high school) ive been beaten and humiluated..
I didnt do anything because i was scared and didnt want to hurt anyone even though they were hurting me...
i was so joyful and happy back then cause i just put it out of my head. I never called anyone names either because i knew they only hurt people cause they hurt me.
well in my 2nd year in my academy(high school) i just broke, stopped careing if i hurt anyone or what i said to anyone!..
I also got mentally ill because of them!
so ive been training hard and now i have more than enough power to get my revenge for what they all did to me!.
Ive changed so much since then and i havent even been to school in 12months but i have to go back soon. Im much much tougher and more evil than ever. ill break them without hesitation..
so whats your opinions on this?.. and i do have a phychaoitrist(i cant spell it lol) and i dont need any depression medication...
2006-10-14 01:44:39 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
lol didnt expect this much answers.. please be nice and actually read it carefully.. there isnt alot of nice anwsers like the Stop blaming other people for your problems, wtf my problems? why cant i blame them they beat the **** out of me all my life **** sake!.. okay remember nice and ill give you 10 points lol.. oh yeah and i do tell my pychaiotrist about it what else are they for? lots of stupid ppl anwsering this...
oh yeah for the what did i do to get more power than them well i just did martial arts and other things to keep me fit...
asking this on the internet is kind of stupid because theres lots of dickheads wanting to make me feel worse.
2006-10-14 02:12:55 · update #1
It's ok,if u are sure of your strength..it happened to me 2.i'm a girl.and i was beaten by a boy.it relly affected me and for a long time i dreamed my revenge.it's been a long time since then and i let it go.it would be stupid to get my revenge now.and i don't think bad can be repaired with bad.
BUT sometimes,it would be nice if someone could give a lesson about discipline to those ******* who think they deserve it all and that they can do shitty things like these and not answer for teir deeds.
Please,don't forget to remember them all they did to you.
And please,don't exgerate,u don't want trouble with the authorities because of stupid people like them.Just give them a lesson that they won;t forget!
2006-10-14 02:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by floricica 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you studied martial arts you should know that you only fight if you life is currently in danger. Revenge will not make you feel better, and it will not resolve the situation with your classmates. When you go back to school, expect them to treat you with respect and dignity. Hold your head up high, but don't look down on them. Don't go into school looking for a fight. You have a lot of anger, and I don't blame you. However, revenge will not make you any less angry. Forgiveness will. Forgive them for what they have done to you in the past and let them start over with a clean slate. You may find that these people have matured in the last year.
2006-10-14 12:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry for what happened to you and i cant believe the trama that you have experienced, but just think they are probably aware of what they have done to you and are feeling really bad themselves.
If you haven't been at school in 12 months- and im assuming you havent had contact with any of them during that period- imagine what regret and self touture that they are also feeling.
But then at the same time i can understand you agression and urge for revenge on your sanity and truthfully i can bet you dont really care about them at the moment- or that they deserve everything you can do to them but just think it through, you hated it right? So why turn into the bully now?
If the cause was known by the school they would have talked to every one as a group and been informed. The bully's themselves could have changed as well and realised what idiots they had been. Or maybe that are the same d**kheads they where before... but at least now you know that they can do and if it happens again you know to tell someone and get it sorted out before it can happen to you or anyone else.
So when you see them again i suggest not to beat them up- physically or mentally- but try and act as though you have changed. I am not sure which grade you are in now, but dont turn into the bully, you know what it does to someone.
I know you must feel so angry and just.. ready to kill them but try and release it in another way, prehaps you can play a game and get them back by making them think that your fine and see if you can decieve them.. i use that stratagy alot and it helps!!
Good luck and i 'm really sorry for what happened, but please dont be violent or your as bad as them!!
sorry if i wansn't anyhelp
2006-10-14 09:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by Pixy575 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No revenge is not ok, what happened to you is not ok. Doing it to other just keeps the problem continues. Revenge and justice are different things. Its ok to stand up for yourself and not be a victim but it does not give you a right to victimize others (even if you feel they deserve it). If you are saying you have no remorse for anything we are dealing with a serious problem. I hate to say it but the worst of the worst in our society felt no remorse. The Ted Bundies, Jeffrey Dalhmers. If you cant feel empathy then you need to get some help. Anti-depressants may not the the answer but you need to be honest with your Dr about your feelings and ask him the questions you are asking here. As you get older A LOT of people are going to hurt you. If you attempt to hurt everyone back, you will never be happy because you are letting everything outside of you control you. and most likely will end with in prison. Think about it
2006-10-14 08:57:24 · answer #4 · answered by clearwatervike 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is never OK if it involves violence. Imagine all the energy and experience you have now, and think about how you can direct it towards teaching others about how to deal with bullies and insensitive people! What an opportunity! Take whatever talents you have and direct them to prevent kids from going through what you had to.
On the other hand, if you decide to physically unleash yourself and harm the people who you feel harmed you, There will be plenty of time and opportunities to contemplate other methods of positive behavior while in prison.
2006-10-14 09:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by bumppo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are like so many that have been screwed around. My advice is don't act on it or you will be sorry. I know that is the easiest statement in the world to make, but very difficult to follow.
Before long you will be out of that situation and hopefully you will have leaned to deal with or be out of such abhorrent conditions. There are times when you definitely have to stick up for yourself, the trick is knowing when and how. I hope it all works out with you.
You seem like a good kid that was pushed too far. I have faith that this will pass and you won't go through life with a bad attitude. Its best for you if you don't.
2006-10-14 08:56:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting revenge on these people will destroy you, not them. Although, you might not believe it now, high school will pass. Most of those people will get out of high school, get a penny ante job and never be truelly happy in their lives as they did not measure up to what they knew they should have been. The best revenge is to build a happy successful life for yourself and go back to your 10th year high school reunion.
2006-10-14 09:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by bettyswestbrook 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is never ok. But don't get youself in situations where you can't get out or a way of escape (this could be mental/emotional, not just physical). You still need to do things to increase your self-esteem (learning as much as you can about schoolwork, ECA, etc). Say kindly things about yourself. Self affirm daily. Honor yourself in all things, whether in study or in play.
As for your therapist, always seek for equal empowerment. You are not the only person who is vulnerable in any kind of relationship, incl a therapeutic one. But if you can find out what your therapist needs, you may empower him/her. That makes you feel useful, strong.
Always learn to breathe deeply. Oxygen allows to think better. Don't look at your adversaries in school. Think through all your thoughts, outcome should never be destructive. If nothing else, just move thru them or keep a 'cap' on them until further notice. But never get so angry that you strike out at someone. Practice emotional 'tai-chi'. Watch how deft and swift the movements of this art is. Anger can be re-channelled and re-focused.
2006-10-14 08:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by thru a glass darkly 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
have you checked out the list of students shooting the schools lately? I know other people have made you feel bad. revenge isn't always the way to go. seek counseling for the best way to handle your anger. Don't let other people's action's make you make a choice for in which you would be made accountable. in other words don't let there actions ruin your life. Good luck
2006-10-14 14:41:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is in this case, being better than them, don't fall to their level and become a stupid bully. Focus on building a better life for yourself, now that you feel stronger. If you focus on them and how much you hate them, it means you are not so strong as you think you are.
2006-10-14 08:55:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋