We have an adorable 8year old girl and I think I'm pregnant again. In the past I've aborted becoz I wanted my elder sister to get married first and have a family of her own.She's not met her suitable match yet and I know she craves for a child and it makes me feel guilty to have another baby while she's craving like that! I can't even give her my baby (if I decided to go ahead with this one) as I'm not sure my husband will like the idea. I'm torn between providing a sibling for my daughter and my sister's pain. Can anyone help me resolve this?
2006-10-14 01:44:19 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2006-10-14 01:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by Profe....llikr 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Listen 1st of all u aborted a baby.. u r an idiot for doing tht.. if u aborted a baby because u were raped.. then it wld be ok.. but just for u r sister happines u killed a child.. u r sick.. and nw u want to gv ur baby up.. r u a mother do u hv feelings.. u hv any idea wht ur husband will do if he knws abt this.. he will kill u can u blame him also if he does.. and for ur sister if she really loves u she will never let u hv done tht abortion or giveup ur child.. if she wants a child go for adoption or tell her to met some guy or go for artificalinsemination... but wht ur thinking its wrong.. u r mother its ur duty to help ur child be with ur child god gave u the blessing's to be a mom.. not every1 gets tht.. dont misuse it..
rest is up to u..
2006-10-17 22:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by vinkewl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A life, a precious life you would just get rid of it? How sad a person are you? I don't understand your feelings for you sister, you and your husband have created a living being. Your sister's situation shouldn't even be a consideration in your having another baby. I don't have very high regard for someone who would abort a child for this reason. You should be ashamed of yourself and never allowed to have another child.
2006-10-14 02:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in abortion. Have the baby. It is a blessing from God. You are married and there is not a good reason to not carry the baby to full term. Your sister should love the fact that she will be an aunt again. I have a sister and I love her children just as much as I love my own.
2006-10-14 01:52:51 · answer #4 · answered by Daphne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel that somewhere down the line you blame yourself for your sisters marital status.dont take it out on your children.if you really love your sister then make her happy. dont kill your own happiness to make her feel ok. you should definitely have this child. its an offense to god to kill your child. tell me honestly does you sister hate your 8-yr old? i think the answer is no. why do you think that by not completing yourself you will complete your sister.if she is craving so bad for a child tell her to visit an orphanage and is the problem is the dna then tell her about test tube babies!its better to bring life than kill it. dont live your life for your sister but make her ive her life with you. by killing your child you will not fulfil her.imagine how would she feel if she came to know that she was the reason behind your previous abortion. if she knows and doesnt find any guilt within her then she needs medical health and a lot of soul searchin to do. luck and please have the child
2006-10-14 03:59:27 · answer #5 · answered by s4e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you saying notwithstanding, once you get a splash one from start you get this attachment and there is not any way which you will no longer love that youngster such as you very own. My mom had 4 of her organic and organic infants and she or he accompanied 2 greater infants and that i felt that the accompanied infants have been given greater desirable therapy. no longer that i become jeolous my mom become so into those childen additionally she has a million female from start and the different female become 3 years previous. ok so i become a splash jeolous notwithstanding it in simple terms comes organic given which you as a toddler want to maintain getting reliable therapy. perhaps it must be you 5 300 and sixty 5 days previous which would be jeolous, it relies upon on the kind you manage the hot toddler.
2016-10-19 09:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice to think about your sis in this manner. You must love her very much dear!
U must go ahead & have this child. Your sisters' destiny is her own. There's time for Everything! She'll get married & have children when the time is right for her as determined by her Destiny.
Stop worrying so much. You have a life to live. Don't GIVE UP LIVING BECAUSE OF YOUR SISTER!
2006-10-15 01:11:04 · answer #7 · answered by Vibs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could get you sister more involved with the pregnancy and taking care of your baby when its born.You are a very loving sister to think about your sisters happiness so much.But, has putting her happiness before yours hurt your feelings?If she truely wants a baby she could adopt or get artificially inseminated. There are other ways to have a child than to get married and have one with your husband.Let her know how your feeling and suggest that she volunteers at the hospital with the babies or adopts.Or she could become a foster mom.
2006-10-14 02:50:38 · answer #8 · answered by lucky girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister can adopt another orphone child, it will be always better, adoption from family will not give full satisfaction to her as a complete boldness without any hesitation in all the aspect of her relation with the child in near future. It will also not disturb your own personal marriage life.
2006-10-14 04:14:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was not going to answer this question because I fell your question may be a joke or somthing... I just cant see where you would even question if you were to have a baby based on your sister and her childbearing.. this is so crazy.....
I HOPE and pray that if this is for real that you have this child... abortion is not the answer to this... NOT EVER... give the child a life!!!!!!!
I will pray that you do the humane thing.
2006-10-14 03:14:21 · answer #10 · answered by caligrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely.There is a REASON for everything.Everything.I'm Sure that your baby would like to have a sibling also.Maybe your sister isn't ready to have kids.Maybe there is a health concern.Maybe,maybe,maybe.WE do not know,but GOD does.Have your baby and your sister will have hers when and if she is ready.I'll bet she makes a great aunt!!!
2006-10-14 02:39:55 · answer #11 · answered by bob a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋