i love a girl she works with me i told her that i love her and she replied i like you but i am not in love at the moment ... what does that mean and i have asked her sevral times to go out but she said we will go some time as she is studyin and working havent got enough time .. how do i know that she is intrested in me or not... because i love her that much that where ever i am going she is in my eyes cant sleep dreaming about her in open eyes i want to get married with her please tell me what should i do to find if she love me or not .?????
2006-10-14 01:15:51 · 12 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Write it all down. It really helps. What makes you love her and what qualities in her make you love her and if you have/want those qualities and how you can start implementing them in your life and how it would change things if you had those qualities she potrays in your life. Seriously, think about it, for at least a week before you write it down. It takes a lot of self control.
Don't speak to anyone about it, except yourself/a therapist if you have one. In 5-7 days, eat, have some liquids (NON-ALCOHOLIC) and NO WEED, etc. at your disposal, make yourself comfortable and undisturbed for at least 1 day, and have lots of paper. If you can get a wad of scrap paper from someone - A3's are always great cos you can just write, draw, express without having to change the pages the whole time. Write, write, write, until you can't write anything more. Everything about her, everything about you, and everything you are together. Try it. See how it goes. Have patience. Try it a second time if you like (for a second day of writing or as many as you need - you have to eat and sleep! or try a second week of the above and try writing again). Here you are learning to control your emotions and give them a specific time where you will allow them to be expressed.
A piece of valuable advice...been impulsive doesn't get one anywhere...it only got me into trouble. after 23 years only...i'm STARTING to recognise where I am impulsive. not easy.
Good luck. reward yourself with a nice cooldrink/icecream - something you can enjoy with you for good work. sleep late, relax. you know? have a nice breakfast...give this advice to someone else and see it work. it feels great. try it...you'll see what I mean. may take a few people. but doing good stuff for others definately works-but don't hound/harrass them.
The chick...get an education...she's already told you she's not interested...love is a strong word. be friends with her, and tell her that's ok with you. if she wants only friendship, then you'll love her as a friend and nothing more. hang out as friends, treat her as a friend, don't do mushy romantic things, cos she'll push you away - experience!!!! yup...feels uncomfortable...feels perhaps even worse for you cos you love her and she keeps rejecting you. she's young (I take it so are you)...it's natural. enjoy been young. just plain be friends, and enjoy each others company, if you're meant to be anything else you will be...naturally...it'll happen on it's own...you don't have to do anything. you'll see that more and more as you grow up. what's right for you takes no effort. so...good luck man.
Light W.
2006-10-14 02:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by Light W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the one to tell you this but here we go:
I am not sure that you do love her. You maybe infatuated with this girl. Being in love means really knowing someone and if you are't even dating then not only do you not love her, telling her that you do freaked her out.
Saying that she will go out with you sometime but she is busy...that is an easy let down. She doesn't want to spend time with you. She likes you enough to barely be able to talk to you at work.
So stop freakin out about this girl. She isn't attracted to you.
Now once she gets to know you...maybe she will find that she likes your company but telling her you love her is too much too soon. You came on too strong.
2006-10-14 01:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to slow down. You seem to be scaring her off. Remember, you cannot make her love you, you just have to go with the flow. Slow down on the hard sell with her. Be nice to her. This is the only thing that will work. As far as marrying her, you have to go one step at a time. Relax, you may be blowing a good thing by being too POSSESSIVE and NEEDY with her.
2006-10-14 01:22:00 · answer #3 · answered by great gig in the sky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flat out: she is not ready for a relationship, even if she was not with you let alone marriage, although this is a selfish way for women to get men off their back, it always works. Look for someone else or try being friends with her maybe time will tell.
2006-10-14 01:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by zulusoul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to have to say this but she is not interested. I know it hurts to hear and you will probably find fifty reasons not to believe it but it is the truth. You sound like you have a big heart and alot of love to give so give it to someone who wants it and will appreciate it. I hope this helps
2006-10-14 01:25:40 · answer #5 · answered by momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she already told you how she feels you just need to come to terms with it.
She likes you, but is not interested in pursuing anything romantic with you. If you continue to bother her about going out it's doubtful she'll even want to remain friends and start feeling you are harassing her. Move on.
2006-10-14 01:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by Ericka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to tell you that she likes you as a person but is not romantically interested.
This is probably for the best because workplace relationships usually don't survive.
2006-10-14 01:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.. first off.. don't tell her the stuff about marrying her... you are gonna freak her out.. .second.. she's probably really busy right now or something so if she's worth the wait then wait for her.. next.. she probably not ready to say "i love you".. some people wait to say that so that it means more..
2006-10-14 01:19:45 · answer #8 · answered by comemychildren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously as she said she likes you that's exactly what she means....how can you love her you've not even been out or anything!
2006-10-14 01:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by diane c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs TIME.
give her time 2 take d right decision
2006-10-14 01:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋