i did everything to try to get over this guy but i can't help feeling horrible about not having him in my life anymore..i miss talkin to him for hours on the phone,i miss everything abt him.. i feel horrible i've got this huge migraine i'm seriously heading for a fall, i've never been this uncomfortable in my life..i screwed up things bad i dont even know who my real friends are anymore..help!and please try to answer my other questions
2006-10-14 01:05:03 · 22 answers · asked by Karine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give it a year. By then you won't remember the chump's middle name.
2006-10-14 01:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Karen,
I know this should be hard.. Leaving someone while u still love him is a bad experience. But I want you to stop & think.. Do u have any other choices? Is there a way for you back together but without selling urself cheap? (I assume there isn't or it wd have worked out without that suffering).. If not, then u have one of two options... Either head to a fall as you say, or GET OVER.. It is hard, I know, He might have been the best match for the last period.. But he is not for the future, otherwise, he would have stayed...
It is a period, you tasted something, you learnt somethings, but it is over... How long will you allow urself to keep imprisoned in it? Learn ur lesson my friend & move on..
It is up to u, but I suggest u pray too... God is kind & merciful.. He has all the peace & love that our hearts need & I am sure he can comfort you more than anyone else.
Sorry for the long reply. I do wish u soon recover, become urself once more & treat all what happend as a lesson, not a fall over.
God bless
2006-10-14 08:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by Ouzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES....it IS going to end, altho right now you may think it's not.
And I know it's a horrible situation to be in....been there, done that.
It's good you tried to do things to get over this guy....but IMHO that's only going to work once you're ready to ACCEPT he's not your boyfriend anymore!
You say you screwed up things bad......we have a saying over here : "When two people "fight", two people are to blame"!, and I so believe that's true.
So please don't think you're the only one who screwed things up, cuz you're not.
I don't quite understand why you don't know who your real friends are anymore, so I can't comment on that.
All I CAN say is that, when a couple that had mutual friends, breaks up, you're almost always going to lose some of those friends, cuz they were probably more the friends of your partner to begin with. The same thing goes for your ex-boyfriend, I'm sure.
Only advice I can give you : don't try to make your mutual friends take sides, it's an impossible position for them to be in....just try to enjoy the friendship of the friends you still have. Mind you, of course you don't have to take MY word for it, I'm not a professsional helper, far from it, and am only talking from my own experience.
All the best!
P.s. : if you're really feeling you're sliding downhill fast and can't stop yourself, it might help if you talked about it with your GP)
2006-10-14 08:24:54 · answer #3 · answered by Joshua 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's mister right, he'll be walking through fire to show you how much. If he doesn't then he's Mr wrong. In the meantime get out of the house and do something, anything... take up a dance class, or join a painting workshop, become a belly dancer:) life really is too short . Just tell yourself you deserve to be happy, he'll still be there in four months, so do you put your life on hold for a maybe? You know the answer, trust yourself.
2006-10-14 09:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by David P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've all been there- its like having you guts ripped out and left hanging out to dry.
From experience what you have to do is shift your focus.Right now your head is in a circle -a circle of your immediate feelings.These feeling only go one way-round and round and in one direction-down.
So get yourself involved with someone elses problems and worries-people really do live they're lives with far greater probs than love sickness.If you give sometime to help them -it'll put your thing into perspective and put time and space between you and your immediate situation.
Ever tried watching a TV with your nose pressed against the screen? Can't see a thing can you. This is where you are right now.Try backing off a little and things will become clearer.
Remember "What does not kill you makes you stronger".
(With thanks to Sting for this line as this was what I was listening to the last time it happened to me)
Good Luck.It WILL get better.
2006-10-14 08:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by schniedlwutz2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got over some relationships that went bad by trying to understand that no guy deserves my tears, even if he is Prince Charming. You need to also get to that conclusion, even if it takes a lot of time, like it did for me. No one is more important than you in this world, remember that. You should also try things like: changing your style, meeting new people, have hobbies that need your full attention once in a while, getting a dog (that the best remedy). Hope you get over him soon! Best of luck!
2006-10-14 08:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by crysstina_88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we have all been there and I'm sorry to say there isn't really anything you can do to get over him it just takes time. time for the pain to ease and time for your heart to see it can go on without him. sometimes the worst pain brings the biggest blessing. stop being so hard on yourself we all screw up as far as who your real friends are they are the ones still standing by you and not judging you for screwing up. they will probably not be who you thought your real friends were before all of this but the ones by your side now will be the best friends you will ever have. lean on them and borrow from their strength. Keep your head up girl you are going to be ok.
2006-10-14 09:01:16 · answer #7 · answered by momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your " everything" is not specific, Nevertheless breaking up with someone you did lots of things with can never be easy. If there's a chance for you to patch things up do so but if the isn't, remember pain change as season changes but memories last forever.
Get well soon
2006-10-14 08:17:02 · answer #8 · answered by zulusoul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there with a woman (maybe still there). Wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. Very tough situation. It takes time to get back to normal, but be tough. Trust becomes an issue. Start hanging with your friends. Make goals for yourself and stick to them. It will make you a stronger person. Good luck. I know how you feel.
2006-10-14 08:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by Obsean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm hey im in a similar situation but theres really no need to be getting physically sick over this. We are only humans & humans make mistakes. Maybe give the lad some time to let all this blow over. Some good will come out of this. I know it!! :) Smile :)
2006-10-14 08:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by Rooster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am really so sorry for u. i think u like dat guy still now.if so u just go through it.dont ever think abt d consequences and if u r sure dat u wana get out fo this guy go to a new place away from u r guy .have a new life .iam sure dat u will not hink abt him
2006-10-14 08:11:02 · answer #11 · answered by Mrs.Edward cullen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋