me and my partner have done a lot to help him with the up keep of the baby. we have decorated the baby's bedroom and he still leaves her stuck in her cot which is situated downstairs all day and night. i have told him what he has to do and he says " i know what you mean". but to no avail. the baby cannot crawl or walk or even babble properly. it is hurting ourselves as nothing is being done to help the baby progress with the basics she requires!!!
2006-10-14 00:39:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
that's a rough situation. it's very good that you want to step in and help, unfortunately many people stand by and let parents deal with it, even parents who don't have a clue. you need to get serious here. your brother has a baby and he's not being responsible. sign him up for a parenting class, tell him you understand that it doesn't come naturally for many parents, but he HAS to start doing a better job. tell him you are willing to help him, and be there for him... worst case scenario, if the child's health/development continue to be at risk, you may want to discuss taking the baby yourself... i hate to say that... but the baby has to come first. it's time for an extremely serious talk and assessment with him of the situation. good luck.
2006-10-14 00:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by leavemealonestalker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has the baby gone for her proper medical checkups??? There should be some form of health care - has she had her vaccinations? She should be being assessed regularly. If not, you will have to get some help. Why don't you suggest taking her for a checkup? Your brother is probably out of his depth. It sounds as though there is no mother in the picture?
This really isn't goo. She should be cfrawling and even walking by now. Certainly saying a few words. Get a book to compare - from the library, But do something.
2006-10-14 00:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I happen to agree. I do not think that any child should be taken from the parent raising them unless they are being seriously, seriously abused. Sometimes a little bit of love tenderness and just the fact that someone cares will do the trick. Don't forget comunication. That's the key!
2006-10-14 00:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get him to seek help from someone. Do you not have anyone else to help you if you haven't ask for help from social services. The baby has to be the first priority. Is there no way you could take the baby for a while?
2006-10-14 02:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by Freakyfran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need some social services. I would contact your local municipality and see what services might be available to help with the child. You are correct, babies need a great deal of care to develop.
2006-10-14 01:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its quite clear that he's not bringing up this baby properly and you are standing by and watching this happen either you need to intervine and take care of the baby or you need to get social service involved. I understand that this could cause problems between you and your brother but for the sake of that child you need to intervine and do something to help. TODAY!
2006-10-14 00:41:41 · answer #6 · answered by Jo. 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is so not right ,speak to the babies health visitor and tell her your concerns she may be able to find some free child care a couple of times a week to give him a break,Babies need mental stimulation and she crying through frustration of not receiving it,what hes doing could be verging on child neglect .
2006-10-14 00:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem.
do what it takes.
tell him you will take the baby to raise or call social services and report him as a child abuser, which is what he is. if he's not letting this child learn the basics, he is abusing her.
one of the most basic skills as a baby is crawling.
most mentally retarded people never learned how to crawl.
2006-10-14 00:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would phone social services I wouldn’t usually advise that but he is not listening to you and the child needs to be stimulated they may refer him to parenting classes or may just keep an eye on him but at least if they are aware of the situation than he will have to get his act together or risk loosing him.
2006-10-14 00:44:40 · answer #9 · answered by carla s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This should have been sorted long before now. This is serious neglect. He is not a fit father, and social services need to be contacted. Lets face it, if it were anyone else you would have contacted them ages ago. Forget about his feelings, this is a child's welfare at stake.
2006-10-14 04:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋