7 years old and 15
2006-10-14 00:07:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
By nature, girls are self centered and possesive, they are very jealous and competitive. This will change over time, especially if the Dad will take the time to lead them into adulthood instead of letting Mom do all the leading.
2006-10-14 00:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The 15 year old is asserting her authority as the older more knowledgeable.. The 7 year old is balking at what she sees as a bossy older girl...
Both girls are right.... Yes the older girl does know more because she has been through more... Yes the younger girl is being bossed...
To help aleviate some of the friction between them try seperating them as much as possible.. Seperate bedrooms if you can if not make a simple curtain divider with each girls space clearly divided... There will be a few "no mans zones" a walk way to the bedroom door and such.. If they share a dresser or other space use masking tape or painers tape to clearly divide the space so each girl has 1/2 use a tape measure and be exact or the dividing will start a new "She has more space" battle...
The "no man's zones" will cause a few battles but those are easily handled by simply taping them off on the floor.. "No man's zones" also mean no stuff zones if an item of either girls is in the zone the girl who's item it is has to remove it immediately... That rule will lessen the "No man;s zone" battles...
If the girls already have seperat rooms install simple privacy locks on each door (locks that do not require a key to unock from the outside but will afford each girl her private space)... Initiate a non-negotible knock before entering policy (you have to knock too)...
Do not allow the girls to drag you in as referee in the battles they have... Don't take sides in breaking it up send them both to chill in thier seperate corners (rooms/spaces) neither one in more trouble or less trouble than the other... When they start battling they are sent to chill no questions asked...
They will grow out of this battling stage all you want to do is keep a relative peace until they grow out of it... About 5 more years max...
2006-10-14 07:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chances are that they just have completely conflicting personalities. My sister and I are just under 2 years apart and growing up we fought like nothing else. I'm suprised my mum didn't go completely mental with all the fighting that we did. Also because you have a 15 year old, around that age, things change for them. Things that they had absolutely no interest in a few years ago is top of the importance list. They might be fighting because of the changes and your youngest would be picking up on them. If the problems always been there, I would say it's more than likely conflicting personalities.
2006-10-14 07:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by kittycat_cc14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physically or verbally? I've been a nanny and found that in my experience boys are far more physical- they used to scare me! I used to fight (mostly verbally) with my sister but I've always put that down to us being very close in age and competitive and obviously that's not your case. Have you tried sitting down and talking to them both sensibly about what it is that really bothers them and how they can get along, they both should be mature enough to do this on some level, and if you explain to them sensibly why it bothers you so- e.g when you argue I really hate being in the house with you both, and explain how much better it would be if you can do things together then perhaps their love for you (if not each other!) will encourage them to make the effort and change things. I imagine that the 15 yr old maybe feels her space if being encroached on- maybe you could discuss how bedroom's are private and they can only go into the others if invited- get them both door bells( you can get pink fluffy girly ones, Argosw or somewhere maybe) and encourage them to use it rather than barging in- the novelty element migth work, and while encouraging them to leave each other alone most of the time insist on family times once a week maybe where you can go out all together, play a game or something, I'm sure the younger one looks up to her sister and probably the older one would enjoy getting down to her sister's level if she knew it was only for a short while.
Above all be honest with them and be prepared to give things time to change.
Good luck
2006-10-14 07:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by emily_jane2379 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably because the 7 year old gets into the 15 year olds stuff, or is generally annoying to her. The age gap is pretty big here, and maybe they just have conflicting personalities. Make sure each has own space and the other is not allowed to interfere. Give each individual attention where possible.
2006-10-17 12:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by Caroline 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are totally right , they fight no matter what their age was, every year I wish that they would stop but it is getting even worse , I think it is a matter of jealousy, they both think that the other one is having the best things and the best treatment, although we are more than fair but they always seem to find something to fight about.
2006-10-14 07:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi good question i wish i knew then i would make a fortune by seeling the answer i have identical twin girls and they have fought from the time they could sit up in there pram they are now 12 and still at it , so if you find the answer to this pleeeease let me know from tattiebogal
2006-10-15 07:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by tattiebogal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know why women don't run the planet?
Because yall are too busy hating each other. Seriously. As an example:
Dude introduces his new g/f to his friends. When they leave, one of the guys will say, "I need to get me a girl LIKE her."
when a chick introduces her new b/f to her g/f's, at least one of them will be thinking or say it later, "I need to get HIM."
2006-10-14 10:07:29 · answer #8 · answered by Manny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a 9 year old and 14 year old ,,, they always fight but secretly love one another . its nature , i hated my sis at that age and we are best friends now we both have kids of our own .
2006-10-17 13:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what u mean i have 4 daughters aged 15 ,12,10 & 4 ... fun and games in our house !!
2006-10-14 07:32:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋