I took my granddaughter to the doctor yesterday. She is 11 y/o and has recently started having problems controling her bladder. The doctor did a urine test and it came back clean. Doctor said that since it doesnt happen at night that she isnt having trouble holding it so it must be emotional. She has lived with me off and on all of her life. My daughter is not the best mother and I have turned her and her b/f in for child abuse, they did nothing. I have tried to get custody of her too, but the judge said no. Please tell me what to do. This child is my heart and soul.
2006-10-13 23:12:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Kentucky doesnt have grandparents rights but thanks.
2006-10-13 23:29:08 · update #1
Her father is in prison and wont be out for another year. The b/f is a control freak and he, my daughter and I have had several arguments over the kids.
2006-10-13 23:30:51 · update #2
This is very frustrating and painful for me. There are 3 sisters and the b/f has done titty twisters on the 8 y/o. I have called social services and they wont do anything. The 10 y/o is already on anti-depressants.
2006-10-13 23:34:16 · update #3
The doctor ordered her to be evaluated. She knows everything. I asked her (the doctor) if she would write out a statement of her findings, thats when she ordered the evaluation and told me that when she got the results she would help me. The thing is I dont think the b/f will let my daughter take her for this evaluation. Thanks so much to all of you for caring.
2006-10-13 23:38:38 · update #4
If a physician is asking for the evaluation, there may be a chance you can get it turned into a court ordered evaluation. I'm not sure what the laws in Kentucky are in regards to this but it might be an option to check into.
Is there any possible way that her mother and father may allow you to adopt your granddaughter? I read your remarks on no grandparents' rights in your state but that may be an option if they're willing to give up their parental rights.
Last, I understand that the physician thinks your granddaughter's bladder issues may be psychological (which does sound like a plausible diagnosis considering the information you've given) however if it continues, I would request a consultation with a urologist to rule out anything more substantial.
Good luck! My prayers are with you!
2006-10-14 01:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child may be your heart and soul, but she isn't your child; and the judge apparently did not see reason to remove custody from your daughter.
I think all you can do is be as supportive of your granddaughter, keep your ears peeled for anything that sounds like things may be getting worse, but also try to remember that kids sometimes like to play up some things that are making them unhappy if they have a sympathetic ear. (I'm not saying this is what goes on in your situation, but it is something that goes on - a grandmother who doesn't approve of how her daughter does something and a child who doesn't like that her mother won't let her do something she wants can fuel each other.)
If your granddaughter is being physically or sexually abused call the authorities again. Other than that, your job is to do whatever you can to encourage the relationship between your daughter and her child. If your granddaughter has seen a doctor who believes her problems are emotional there is the chance that he will call authorities to look into the situation because doctors are mandated to report it when they believe a child is being abused or neglected.
2006-10-13 23:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like it is emotional. The poor little girl. Bless you for loving her so much. I know that where there are no grandparent's rights, you can still report your daughter and her boyfriend to the authorities. If she is removed from their custody, she may be able to live with you. Did you ask the doctor if it could be an emotional problem? I would get documentation from him in case you ever have to go to court again. Try explaining to the doctor what problems she is dealing with. Perhaps the authorities will listen better if a doctor reports abuse.
God bless you.
2006-10-13 23:35:05 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Isn't there a childrens advocate group?....through the department of family services, clinical social workers, who would know how to get in contact with that organization....I know there is such a thing, but sorry to say, have no idea how to tell you to find it...It may cost you an initial visit fee to go see a clinical social worker, that deals with family/childrens issues, but he/she may be able to give you contact numbers...a laywer that deals with custody issues may be a start also...as far as reporting abuse and nothing done, don't let that lie, call that place over and over and over, and get it on tape, the date, document all of what you have done, what the judge said, etc....there has to be a way to make sure your grandchild has a stable life, and someone out there will care, you just haven't found the right one yet...sincerely, the best of luck to you.....
2006-10-13 23:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult to obtain custody of a grandchild, but it can be done. You need a good lawyer, witnesses, records, evidence, etc. to show that the mother is unfit to raise her child. Any action taken like that will likely ruin any chance for normalizing relations with you. What is the dad doing? Can he help? Or is he in the same boat as your daughter? Good luck.
2006-10-13 23:19:16 · answer #5 · answered by Scott K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be emotional, but if you believe it's something medical find another doctor. Do not take one doctors word for it. Get a second, third, or fourth opinion. Also have your granddaughter talk to a counselor. It may do her some good.
Bless you and best of luck!
2006-10-14 01:15:10 · answer #6 · answered by kajunmommie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask a family lawyer for a consultation. There are grandparent rights in every state I believe.
2006-10-13 23:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find yourself a good lawyer then tell him your granddaughter has been being abused. My guess is that the abuse is making her bladder problems occur. Get help fast!
2006-10-13 23:15:37 · answer #8 · answered by italianangel41 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
She will out grow it, but professional courselling sounds in order.
2006-10-13 23:26:49 · answer #9 · answered by Barbwired 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk with a lawer
2006-10-13 23:18:00 · answer #10 · answered by maryam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋