When i am in college surounded with my friends, watching movies, etc. my dad did not even speak a word. But he scolds me when i go to temple by saying that i should learn hard. I m already learning hard. My dad always keeps finding small faults in me. What shall i do to make him happy?
2006-10-13 23:01:27 · 29 answers · asked by Parth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
A MAN CANNOT BE 100% RIGHT. THOUGH HE IS FEELING THAT WHAT HE IS DOING IS RIGHT. STILL YOU ARE TOO YOUNG YOU HAVE SEEN ONLY ONE PART OF LIFE REST IS YET TO COME AND YOUR FATHER HAS SEEN THE PERIOD OF COLLEGE AND FAMILY LIFE IF HE IS SUGGESTING YOU SOMETHING THAT IS BETTER FOR YOUR FUTURE. WHATSOEVER HE IS SAYING MAY TODAY IS NOT FIT IN YOUR LIFE BUT TOMORROW THAT WILL WORK PLEASE LISTEN YOUR FATHER CAREFULLY AND TRY WORK ACCORDING TO THAT.
2006-10-14 16:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also have a son in college. Keep in touch with your dad. Make a point of sending an email or making a phone call whenever you think of it. All your dad really wants is some of your time, to know how school is going. If you emailed him to let him know how you are doing in your classes, what grade you made on an exam, etc. My guess is that he wouldn't be telling you to learn hard if he already knew the amount of time and effort you were putting into your school work. Maybe you need to make him a bigger part of your life. It also doesn't hurt to tell your dad that you love him and admire him.
2006-10-14 08:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by Daphne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are learning heard really, then I think your father is happy.
But he didn't express that in front of you. Cause if you know that he is happy with your present performance then you will be satisfied and don't try to improve yourself farther. That's why he show you that he is not happy. And he keeps finding faults on you to help you come out of that.
So don't think that you are not a good son. Just follow the words of your FATHER.
Have a nice time.
2006-10-14 06:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by oxygen_for_u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello... Parth,
Young man, you are not alone. It's hard for some parents to let go of their Son or daughter. Be patient with him. When he talks to you try really listening to him, that way he will feel good about you because you are taking the time to listen. He will respond back to you in a positive way once he realizes that you do listen to him. Do tell him that you do your very, very best in all areas of his concerns.Tell him you need his respect in choices that you make for you life now that you are not living at home any longer. Tell him that is very important to you. He is your father help him to help you become a man in his eyes. Get close to his heart, and allow him to get close to your heart as well. Life is to short. Honesty and trust is everything. Be still and listen and never take anything he says about your faults seriously. He is trying to let go in the only way he understands for now. Please remember that your parents are the very best friends that you will ever have in your life. Don't get to wild in college okay.
Love yourself and Love God always.
Sincerely, ...J (:
2006-10-14 06:20:56 · answer #4 · answered by Jeanie N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your problem that your father can't love you for the way you are. Your father was problably being treated the same way by his father. Therefore don't take it personally. This is just probably a habit of him to find faults in people. It's not your job to make him happy. He's responsible for his own happiness. Your job is to love yourself and others around you. You can try telling him how you feel. If that doesn't work, just let your father know that you are proud of being who you are and that you hope he'll feel the same way about you because you are one great, fine person. You're unique because there's only one you in this world.
2006-10-14 06:12:31 · answer #5 · answered by Renee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he loves you very much. A good parent is not a friend to their child, they are teachers. You have friends, they won't point out even your small faults. A parent cares enough to tell you, your faults, to help you be the best you can be, because they want the best for you. A bad parent doesn't care. Count your blessings that you have a parent who cares about you enough to nag.
2006-10-14 06:12:32 · answer #6 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try identifying one area where if you could improve you can make your father happy. Find the area and excel. Not only your father everyone else including me would feel happy. Good luck.
2006-10-14 17:39:22 · answer #7 · answered by ECQC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look dude its time for you to grow up, Sounds like your in college or you graduated and your ready to start a life. Everybody has different quarks that is what makes everyone unique. You need to realize you will never be your dad. Your dad also needs to realize he will never be you.
It is important for you to develop your own personality, as well as your own character. Remember your living your life and their living theirs. We coincide but nobody is perfect.
DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY.....
2006-10-14 06:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by Financial Guru 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Relax, you're not alone.
My dad isn't bad ,but he's grumbler and I hate it!
Maybe you must say this to him ,I think that he loves you ,like all dads, he'll understand you , just keep on fun kin ,cause my learning is very hard too and I think that he just worried about you!
Just say him that you're not little ****** (boy 'll be better and more polite ;) ) or just say"ok" - it works! ;)
2006-10-14 06:07:38 · answer #9 · answered by woo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what he is doing is o.k. he is being a father to you . you already have friends, you don't need him to be a friend, you need him to be a father. he feels that you can improve yourself. do you know how lucky you are to have a father who cares about you, and takes an active interest in your well being? don't look at it as punishment, rather see it for what it is, helpful guidance. you will realise this one day , how lucky you are to have him in your life.just try to appreciate him for what he is, and i think all will be better.
2006-10-18 04:02:35 · answer #10 · answered by cee jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋