I recently told one of my best friends how I felt about him and he replied that he felt the same but was really scared of what might happen to our friendship should things not work out. We have since talked about it but done nothing. After one of these discussions I told him to be straight and honest with me no matter what the answer, but I need to know how he feels. He was quiet for a couple of seconds then got up and kissed me. Then he asked if that explains it. We have since kissed a couple of times and he has stayed over twice. Both times we were fooling around and kissing, but not having sex. In the week after a short visit he (unexpectedly) gave me a goodnight kiss. This morning when he left my flat though, no goodbye kiss. Same previous time he stayed over. I realise both times we had a couple of drinks and maybe he's just processing what happened in the mornings, but i'm really confused. All say take it slow see what happens, but thats really hard! HELP
2006-10-13 22:41:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your really overthinking this, to the point of putting a paragraph on Answers. It sounds like it's going well, but your getting caught up in what does this mean, what does that mean, like whether or not he kisses you good by in the morning, meanwhile he's spending the night with you and not pushing for sex, sounds like a good guy. Relax, if you let your head freak out you will drive him away. You both are friends and you are begining to have romance, let it find its way, don't worry.
2006-10-13 22:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by daniel a 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
More or less to said your friend had fall in love with you, and maybe he is taking you as his girl-friend, does this scare you?
Mind if you tell the true, did you or did not touch each other penis?
If yes, than he must be a litter holdmone sexes to say this. Cause, both of you whether have girlfriend or not I don't know.He or you may have a high sex drive. If I am not wrong to say.Honest to say I have this experience went I was at the age from 11 to 25yrs, till I found my girl. LOL......
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2006-10-14 05:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by shellman8888 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, take it slow, but decide what you want. if you want to be friends, be friends, just not so close. if you want more than that, you've already opened the door. when i got with my girl, we were kinda the same. now i realize how lucky i am that i knew her for over a year and a half before we started looking at each other in "that way". i can truly say that she is my best friend, as well as my lover, and that is a wonderful thing. when you start out as just friends (i mean REALLY just friends, with no romantic feelings involved), there is no pressure on either one of you to be this way or that way. there's not as much compromise and the two of you can just be yourselves... at least until it starts getting serious. so i say go for it. so just tell each other that now you are "kissing friends" and see how it goes from there.it worked for me. and if you were already friends, you more than likely can be friends again if things don't work out. it will just take some time.
2006-10-14 05:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by That Guy Drew 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he is confused too .. one day you are just a friend and another you are .. to be honest I donno what shell I call it ... there are lots of changes that happened between two of you .. so I think he is right .. take it easy both of you and see what should this lead you to .. give it some time ... but at the end you and him should make a promiss that (if you don't wanna lose each other) that you will stay friends no matter what happened between you and him .. although that I doubt that you will stay the same ... but give it a shot ... cheers and good luck
2006-10-14 05:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this dude is horny. I've been in the same place he is. He respects you, so he doesn't want to SUGGEST sex, and probably doesn't know how to just.. innitiate it. But he's a human, and a guy, and he wants it.
If you like him like that...and don't want to have sex right now... at least let him know.
If you DO want him in that way...and are ready... you've got to step up to the plate and let him know you want him. You MIGHT need to even be agressive. Yes, it will change your friendship. But if that's a bad thing, think about the fact that your relationship is going to change anyways... because he's come CLOSE to having sex with you, and didn't.
2006-10-14 05:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by Kren777 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
sit back and relax. see where things are headed. in the meanwhile, do not do anything which he may see as forceful or pushy. just be passive and don't do anything foolish which you may have to regret if things don't work out. ur main aim should be not to embarass yourself, that's it. if ur friend's confused, which i think he is, you really ought to give him some more time and space. all the best!
2006-10-14 05:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by thehelper 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and ask him directly whats the score bet. both of you.. ask him to tell it to you directly and not by means of kissing..
2006-10-14 05:48:39 · answer #7 · answered by ettienne 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that you want to know what he is thinking because you are not sure what he wants to do and if he wants to date you let you know and not play mind games
2006-10-14 05:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by GINA D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bad breathe........the mornings are notorious for it.
Don't take it so seriously, he just didn't want to stun you with his bad breath.
What a considerate person he is!
2006-10-14 05:50:03 · answer #9 · answered by slipper 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Maybe just a "hit" of Listerine......
2006-10-14 05:47:40 · answer #10 · answered by Vickie M 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋