I've been engaged twice to two different jerks, once when I was 18, he was 24, and when I was 21, he was 27. Now I'm 24 with a man from my company who works in another office location, who just turned 49. He's absolutely amazing, he's genuine, kind, well respected, takes excellent care of himself, he works out, eats well, and is in great health! He liked me for quite a while, and so did I but neither of us knew, until one day we started talking, and went out for dinner. We've been together ever since (5 months) We love each other, we totally click, we talk, and listen, and laugh, he's so understanding, treats me with dignity and respect and knows exactly how to make me happy. We just love being together. He's been divorced for 6 years, and says that he's the happiest he's ever been with me. I am the happiest I've ever been with him. My mother is giving me hell because of his age, and our religious differences, and I just have to know..if it feels so right, then how can it be so wrong?
2006-10-13 22:21:06 · 26 answers · asked by safireblu64 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it is not wrong at all for both to be in love. age is only a # and if you truly love each other. then that is all that matters and you are both happy and you both love each other. i am very happy for the both of you. if it feels so right for you and him then it is not wrong at all. love each other to the fullest and do not let anyone stand in your way of being together sincerely df
2006-10-13 22:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by dfboxer 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're still in the beginning and so it feels very good as this man is obviously more experienced and knows how to treat you nice much more than anyone at your age. But honestly can you imagine that you'll be just 35 and he'll be 60? And even if he doesn't have health problems or anything concerned with his age now, he'll grow into them much quicker than you and what will you do then? It's difficult to leave a man you love and it's not wrong to love someone older, but if you decide to stay with him take into consideration an future plan, because you won't always be 24.
2006-10-13 22:42:08 · answer #2 · answered by speedy eleni 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It isn't wrong. There are plenty of relationships with age gaps like that Catherine Zeta Jones and Michael Douglas. 5 months is very early and we're all happy at 5 months, 7 months, 9 months .after a year when the new excitement of love wears off see if your relationship is really strong. Mom's will always have a problem with it but if you don't live with mom then you can tell her (nicely) to mind her business, your decision not hers.
2006-10-13 22:26:03 · answer #3 · answered by 7yrs2go 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you wasting your time asking us. Our opinion doesn't matter. If it does then your not secure enough to be dating anyone.
As for your mother you need to tell her you love her and you are sorry she does not approve but you can't live the life she expects you to live. You need to live the life you chose, but you still need her in your life. If she can't love for who your are and only care about what you do then she is not a true mother. parents love unconditionally. And for the Religious differences, that is what is tearing this world apart now days. People with such narrow views cause hatred and wars. Now where did anyone say you or he has to change religions. You just have to respect each others religion and not interfere in it but support it.
2006-10-13 22:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why can not ya in basic terms be stable friends till he's eighteen as by using then you definately could have shaped an stunning bond before you the two took it extra.sure that's what others think of that's the killjoy of a friendship like this.
2016-10-16 04:34:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is soooooooooo happy because you are boosting his ego and you may be looking for a father?
Ten years down the line you want to go for ice cream and he will need a hospital bed?
Girl think twice, the age gap can tie you down once the honeymoon is over.
I have seen it and it is always a problem, it will not last.
What about children, you will find them cute and he will be happy (and proud, the ego thing,) at first and then irritated.
2006-10-13 22:44:32 · answer #6 · answered by penhabsa 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I know exactly how you feel, I'm with someone just like that...and like you said he is the best man I;ve ever know...he show so much more respect, he is mature...and truly cares about me....and knows how to please me like no one ever has too...that is one of the best things about dating older men....the sex...as for the family, well I hope that they will grow to understand, and accept him....mine is having some problems with all that took, except my mom who sees in him what I do, a little of my dad....and she is much younger than him too...so just give it some time, and go for the older man and be happy...
2006-10-13 22:44:32 · answer #7 · answered by manque 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi as a matter of fact, the man may pretend to love you now, because you people are not yet married or live together in the same house and share the same bed. So i advice you to find someone near your age, Religion can be change, But you can't change his age. You better look for some near your age..
Rgds From Harry
2006-10-13 22:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by SANDRA C 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Age has nothing to do with it. As long as the 2 of you have things in common
2006-10-14 07:52:14 · answer #9 · answered by kayef57 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it is ok if they are your parents. If he is loaded the urge to act like a wh@re in you will be very strong. But a man that age going down on you
2006-10-13 22:27:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋