A work place where we earn our daily bread is like a sacred place for us, then why do certain people spoil it?
2006-10-13 22:08:55 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Indeed! I think it is because we spend so much time in work and for some of us it is easier to connect with our co-workers (you have always something to talk about) that to do small talk or even eye contact to strangers. It is nice to have someone you like in your office and you don´t have to do much effort to meet him or her again- you just go to work. The border line is thin. It seems also that if you have a great personal life OUT the office the flirt/affair issue IN the office is getting weaker.
2006-10-13 22:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by a_N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An office/work environment can be a relatively small space occupied by a relatively large number of men and women. Multiple daily interactions are normal and comfortable. People are often well dressed. Put this mix together.
A 'fling' or a 'flirt' can be initially good for the ego. A feel good scenario then applies. It can then escalate as some people find a need to have this feeling more often. Especially if other areas in their life are not going particularly well. What is then required is some kind of catalyst to give such feelings a real kick along. Office Christmas parties are notorious for 'the next step'.
Why are these things so common?....most people have insecurities in some form. Attention from a colleague can be flattering. Attention from someone in power is recognition. Opportunity can be thrilling. All feed the ego. Even if it's short term.
Let's face it, very few people start their employment at any organisation with the intention of doing any of the above. It evolves due to circumstance, opportunity, long hours and can be hierarchical (power).
The fact they spoil it for you is interesting. Whilstever men and women are working together in close proximity, there will always be some where the above applies, irrespective of strict office rules and protocol. In fact, stricter rules can add to the thrill for these people and contribute to the problem despite dire consequences. In my view prohibition doesn't prevent this type of thing from occurring...it just creates greater ingenuity in disguising it! If you can see it on display then all you are seeing is only the top of iceberg.
It is much less common for an employee to work for one organisation all their lives than what it was for our parents. Staff turnover increases people interacting. It's not uncommon for someone in their 20's in I.T. to move on to other employment opportunities after only two years. As comparies go global, the employee demographic becomes international. And they mix. This can provide added interest....as if the affair process didn't need any more variables! Throw in the fact that others are working a long way from home and the recipe is all there.
Feel sorry for these people rather than the fact they've spoiled it for you, as you probably have something that they don't. Cherish what you have instead.
2006-10-14 06:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by Pseudo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd say there are several factors at work. Number one is the fact that many people, particularly in America, work a lot more than in the past, in terms of hours. That extra time around coworkers comes at the expense of time spent at home with family. It makes it somewhat easier for these workplace dalliances to happen. I'd also add that we live in a somewhat less puritanical time, and there isn't really as much of a stigma to the workplace affair as there was in years past. As for the workplace being sacred, unless you work in a church, I don't see how that is possible.
2006-10-14 07:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by Tommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where else do you spend 8+ hours a day working on the common cause. It hard not to feel a kinship with those you worki with. Office romances are a tough thing, relationships can only end in two ways. Mariiage or splitsville. It is a chance you have to be willing to take, and if it does not work out trying to keep that "professional" edge will be tough.
2006-10-14 05:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by Cherry_Blossom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People spend 40 hours a week with some people. That is more than most of us see our family and friends. It could also add spice to work and make the time go by faster. There is also the fact that your not supposed to be doing it so it makes it dangerous and you can both look at each other in a meeting and think i cant wait till later and know one else will know.
2006-10-14 05:19:44 · answer #5 · answered by freakhazerd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wound up getting married to someone I worked with...one of the best things that ever happened to me.(Yeah, we christened the office too!)
Face it, it's a place where you meet people you have things in common with. When you spend the majority of your time there, it shouldn't be forbidden. You have the chance of really seeing how someone behaves. Not like when you pick someone up in the bar.
Where I worked(btw we both quit because we were able to go on with our lives), in th e time space that we got together there was another couple that got together. In the history of the company there has in fact been several marriages.
2006-10-14 06:23:27 · answer #6 · answered by kardea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is only one answer. God's will. The Bible says that a woman should stay home and take care of the household and the man should provide for his family.
I know, in today's world, nobody wants to listen to the will of God. They interpret the Bible as they want. The Bible also states that in the last days, God's word will be interpreted as the world wants to hear it.
Anyway, the women go to work and see the man at work that is the man her husband could never be. The men see woman as strong and high minded. Both are attracted to the other. If they had listened to the word of God, they would have kept their first marriage and their children, parents, and social world and all would be better off. Got the idea?
2006-10-14 05:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by doglas p 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because most people think that flirting, having an affair in the workplace will somehow make them feel more desirable, for ego boost, and for them to feel accepted.
I pity those people doing that @ work. I have a an officemate (married with his family in another country) , a 46 year old guy who is flirting with this 21 year old girl (girl is living in with his BF) , how gross! I lost all the respect I have for that guy and I dont see it as an accompishment I see it as an act of desperation!
2006-10-14 10:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by Keepingmycool 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people actually think it will work out and when it doesn't it creates a whole lot of drama. I've seen it at my previous work place. Some people just like the drama and the sport of it. It is stupid I agree.
2006-10-14 05:11:09 · answer #9 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people dpemd most of there day at work and it is the only place or time they have to meet people.I have dated many women from work because i would spend most of the day at work working 12 hours or more per day.But i have seen many fights at work because of it
2006-10-14 05:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by timothycool1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋