I have had a huge crush on this guy I play chamber music with for about 3 months. The relationship has been pretty undefined, with some flirting, but also, with him not talking about the fact that he has a girlfriend. Finally, my friend Nikki asked him point-blank if he had a significant other, and he said he had a girlfriend. I was sad and angry, because of all of the flirting, but I also felt some relief. Now, I feel that I can begin looking for other guys again and being able to relax and treat him as more of a friend. I was thinking of writing him and saying pretty much directly that I am interested in pursuing a friendhsip with him, and suggest something we could do together, as we won't be seeing each other for a couple of weeks because the chamber music group isn't meeting. I think we can offer each other a lot as friends, but I have been uncomfortable with this unspoken fact of this girlfriend and the mixed signals and tension. Can I do this? Or should I just wait 'til I see hi
2006-10-13 22:01:33 · 10 answers · asked by calliope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, personally, I would just wait until you see him again. I would point blank ask him about his girlfriend. He may have said he had a girlfriend to your friend Nikki, maybe cause he thought she wanted to date him and he wasn't interested. That is an easy brush off. After you confront him about his girlfriend. Tell him something like, "that's too bad, cause I was really getting interested in you". Take a chance, you never know what will happen. He could say me too, now that I know you're feelings I'm going to break up with my girlfriend. There are just endless possibilities here. Communication is always a key to anything in life. Don't write a letter though. Can you call him up and ask to meet him somewhere? If not, just wait until you see him again.
2006-10-13 22:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by Jay S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being friends with him won't hurt you. Flirting is natural between male and females. significant other or not that's how we relate. He didn't lie when asked straight out so he's not a real jerk. Friends is OK just don't expect more.
2006-10-13 22:05:50 · answer #2 · answered by 7yrs2go 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. He doesn't deserve good company, if he can flirt behind his girlfriend, and won't say anything about her without you/someone asking first is really BAD news.
2006-10-13 22:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by firedragon_luver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any woman who sends me a letter saying "let's be friends" is still going to be, in my mind, hinting to me that she wants something more. a letter is too much. just wait till you see him, and don't make a big deal of it, or it will make everything kinda awkward and even more tense than it already is. if you wanna be his friend, be his friend. you don't need to tell him so with a letter. just don't get too close.
2006-10-13 22:16:04 · answer #4 · answered by That Guy Drew 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not push something. Letters on no account look to have the comparable result that we could like. We finally end up saying thank you to lots and you finally end up loosing the friendship you have because of fact issues get extraordinary. i could be careful of attempting to pursue something with this guy on the same time as he's in a relationship, because of fact it will make you look such as you do no longer understand him and his female pal OR if he has the same opinion and you 2 social gathering, what is going to shop him from doing the comparable to you interior the long-term. i'm a company believer in letting it take place certainly. in case you attempt to push it or make it take place, it won't end properly. in case you enable issues progression perfect and you instruct which you're supportive and a powerful pal, if he's involved, he enable you understand. this could be a delicate subject, yet i could opt for the close friendship that ought to at last develop into something over the pushy relationship that ought to wreck the friendship and to no longer point out your chamber team.
2016-10-19 09:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you I would ask to meet him and his girlfriend for dinner somewhere.....Check her outand if you think she is a ***** then steal her man!!
2006-10-13 22:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by naughtiest_nurse_of_em_all 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how would u feel if he was your boyfriend and he was acting like this with another girl. what would u think of this guy then?
2006-10-13 22:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it gal.its not worth it.unnecessary headache.move on.
2006-10-13 22:03:28 · answer #8 · answered by archie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this guy is not worth it. look else where.
2006-10-13 22:16:39 · answer #9 · answered by pulgita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it's safe
2006-10-13 22:07:17 · answer #10 · answered by df d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋