Hi my name is Trevor and am 24 years old. I was wondering if you girls could help me with something I am curious about. For some reason I don't seem interested to date girls I like or have a crush on. It has to be love or nothing for me. I have only feel in love with someone recently for the very first time and their is no other feeling like it in the world unfortunataly she is seeing someone. So my question is this do you think now that I have found love with someone but is seeing someone els mean that I will be single for the rest of my life or will I have to wait another 24 years to find love. Because love dose not happen for me that often. And I am still trying to deel with my feelings for my first love please help.
2006-10-13 21:45:01 · 16 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi thankyou for answers. I was shocked that some of you thought I was gay I am not I am just to nice for my own good thats all.
2006-10-13 22:26:33 · update #1
One person said just keep masturbating until I find the right one. Well I don't do that anymore to me its a disgusting habit.
2006-10-13 22:50:30 · update #2
it's unfortunate for your part that she's seeing someone already eh, but guess what, you're setting some unreachable criteria for yourself, a lot of times you dont feel "love" till you give the person you are "interested" in a chance for the feeling to grow right? :)
all my boyfriends used to be my friends before i started dating them and the relationship usually worked out well, oh well, apart from the fact that we're not together anymore, but they're still my good friends :D
do give yourself and the ones that you have a crush on a chance ;-)
2006-10-13 21:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by fabbitypo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. First of all, does she feel the same about you? Cuz if she does then why is she w/ someone else? Have you 2 actually talked and hung out? Or do u just 'love' her from a distance? You've gotta be sure that she feels the same, and if so, tell her she's gotta get rid of the other guy if she wants to be with you. NEVER SETTLE FOR 2ND BEST W/A RELATIONSHIP. If you do then she'll know she has you wrapped around her little finger, and she'll never have to really 'commit' to you in a REAL relationship!!! Don't set yourself up for a heartache!! I KNOW BELIEVE ME!!! Talk to her, if she's worth your time, she'll drop the other guy and be YOURS!! If she says no, she ain't worth the time and effort to even bother yourself with!!! You'll find love when it's right, and u deserve RESPECT so respect and love yourself first!!! (I myself am trying to practice what I preach!!) It's hard but that's life!!! GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-10-13 21:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by stardust_angel1123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 24. i dated a guy for 5 years. broke up w/him 2 yrs ago. realized i didn't really love him as much as i though. now looking for the right one. I hate dating just to date. and i also feel lonely sometimes but i also know when the right person comes along I'll no. I don't like wasting time dating and "getting to know someone." don't worry, the one will come eventually and in much less the 24 yrs probably. i personally know what i want and don't want to wast my time w/anyone that is not what i want. why date and get attatched and all emotional, when you know that person is not a good fit?
2006-10-13 21:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by chill'n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe you will find "love" without knowing someone very well or giving them a chance. I believe that if you like someone enough, and give it time, you will eventually love them. I believe that you can love any person, so long as that person is willing to commit themselves and love you in return. Dr Phil agrees, and thinks if you find a person who you can get along with and like 70%, the other 30% will eventually come, and even sometimes the other 40-50%. Love definitely can be achieved and I think its much more common to find love after you date someone and give time and effort towards the relationship. I doubt you will find true love any other way. I think you should try to find a girlfriend and give it time and you might find that things are much different than you anticipated. I think you should try to open up your heart and your mentality to different ways of thinking, it sounds like your ideas on relationships are pretty stubborn!
2006-10-13 21:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by Emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first love is the most confusing and fragile; you don't know how to do it, and it's hard to work stuff out.
You're picky with love! You're probably a really nice guy, but I bet that you might subconsciously be afraid of being hurt. You're probably not interested in dating because you're looking for someone with the same mindset as you. I'm like that, too, so trust me, I can relate!
2006-10-13 21:51:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im not a woman but i will answer the question.....If you think you could do a better job of making the girl happy, tell her you love her. Apart from this you should deal with the emotional stuff from your last relationship first before seeking another, cos it is not fair on the girl to have to put up with your hang ups over lost loves.
Good luck man I hope you work it all out.
2006-10-13 21:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by naughtiest_nurse_of_em_all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
c it 's not all the end of life so dont worry up I happy that there are pupil in this place like you so much down to earth not like other guys who are interested in bf ans gf and just like to date many .as you are in love with some girl its ok just try and try untill you get successed but its ok if she is in relation with another guy ok then certainbly ALMIGHTY has made some other for you so dont get upset over it ok now say COOL i am and i m gonna get some true love of my life one day see the change in yourself you would feel much better.ok bye friend
2006-10-13 21:57:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you are in love with someone you haven't gone out with. I think you may be looking for someone just like her, with her qualities and all, but you haven't even gone out. I would stop looking so hard to fall in love. Live for fun at the moment. Believe me, you don't have to sleep with someone just because you take them on a date. Broaden your view and you might just fall in love with someone you didn't think was your type. Remember, Jesus loves you and knows what's best. Be patient.
2006-10-13 21:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly, judging by technique of ways she's all tangled up in her relationships (2 boyfriends mutually) she might want to say definite and in basic terms use you to cheer up and then unload you. i might want to say it is a touch a grey section. yet in case you actually imagine she's that captivating and also you do not recommendations what occurs later then yep you're accurate 2 perhaps 3 weeks and your golden. the different one will probable get jealous, yet in case you adult males do not communicate she'll get over you and flow on and also you may not in any respect have that probability back... which may suck if she somewhat is that exceptionally :L You gotta settle on which woman you want extra. because in case you flow for one your gonna fail to spot the different. the dancing element: i in my opinion imagine that is really attractive xP yet some women might want to be like.. wtf?? i wager it relies upon on the way you pull it off - like once you're an extremely humorous no longer awkward guy you're golden with that. yet in case you come back of tacky this is recreation over. desire i might want to help :P
2016-12-04 19:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll come..you just have to let time pass. I was like that for a little bit and now I'm head over heels in love (and have found my soulmate)..but it took some time! So don't go searching for it..because you'll never find it. Let it come to you :D
-Nab & Amb
2006-10-13 21:48:58 · answer #10 · answered by think_tink86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋