my bf is the BEST BF a girl can ever hav..he dont flirt w/ other chiks..doesnt play., loves me so much tht wat makes me happy makes him hapy, advises me n tries to help me in the maturest way possible..and he is always there for me..as a BF and a BEST FRiend..he is soo gr8.no1 has dis type of guy..but the prob is even tho i love him 4 who he is..i don think i feel any attraction for him...as he is not that good looking(sorry to say)..and he has kind of a belly and stuff...so its like wen we make out i dont find myself intersted...so i tend to go toward other guys...and get attracted to them...and recently i started liking this guy...shame on me..but he is a asshole who plays around but still i like him.and hes moving tomorw to some other place and im sitting here sooo sad while my bf is here, being so caring to me...how can i improve myself with my bf n start feeling attraction to him..n wat can i do abt that other guy..Shud i jus drop him...
2006-10-13 21:44:10 · 17 answers · asked by sneha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me get this one straight. You have this great B/F, treats you good, but you are attracted to this a**hole, who plays around, obviously lies through his teeth to get away with it, and he's moving?? Oh, you poor thing!! Why don't you do something REALLY special for your B/F and chase after this guy's car until you can't find your way back anymore? Your B/F will thank you someday. really.
2006-10-13 21:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by Raptor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I'm gonna tell you this like I would tell a good friend...The thing about it is you gotta find the attraction inside of him not the outside because that will come in time....What I would do is write down like's and dislike's of both men and compare them then write down where you would be with this person 2 years down the road...I feel as if writing is a great way to get the truth out don't hold anything back just let the hand and mind do the work....Also a good tip if you do this make sure to completely rip up the paper haha good luck though I think you'll make the right decision
2006-10-13 21:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come on loving someone is not just about looks. How can u love just looks that shallow. I really think being in a relationship is about feel good being with each other. Forget about the other guy.Concentrate on ur BF think of ways to make the relation works
2006-10-13 22:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by Sob Sob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is like the same as what my best mate is going through, and to be honest it doesnt really matter about the inside it the outside. your bf sounds like a lovely lad and i would love to have guy like him, think to yourself who would it last longer with? and who would treat you better? and who would you be most happiest with? i can see where your coming from and i think you just need to think of the good attrations. your bf ovbi cares for you and someone emotions cant b played with, so if you honestly think it aint working out dnt lead him on cause dat is the worst ya could do in this situation
good luck hun! xx
2006-10-13 22:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by Steph 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i dont think that ur shallow. everyone must have their own picture about "perfect boyfriend".
if his belly is a little bit bothering u, why dont u try to go to the gym with him? or doing some exercise stuff together.. make it fun, just like a date.. if he loves u, if he's a good person as u've said. he'll pleasure to do it..
and about the other person, do really will like those kind of people 10 or 20 years later? when they are asshole AND have belly?
2006-10-13 22:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you should drop them both with out a doubt. You can
not force your self to love another any more than you can force your self to be attracted to another person.
The other guys a jerk,
You don't need a person who is a problem. And the other guy is great, but, you want some thing more! It will hurt him, but you should move on be for you hurt him worse!
2006-10-13 21:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the attraction is not there, then it just is not there. But, instead of focusing on other guys, why don't you devote that time to your bf to look at those qualities that make him so special. You may never get another one as good as him if you let him get away. Think about that.
2006-10-13 22:13:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To Be Honest, it sounds like this BF would be better as a best friend with you, and you should find someone else.. They way that you spoke about your BF, seems just the same to how i was feeling with my ex.. so i dumped him, and were now the BESTest of friends, and we both have someone new!!... Go for it, find someone you really really love.. Good Luck! :D X
2006-10-13 21:51:03 · answer #8 · answered by Jemma P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aye'. whatever one may say, you need to be attracted to the other to fall in love. Yes, you may like your BF, he is all great, etc but does not have that extra to appeal you. He will remain your friend and will be there to help, guide +and lend advise but will never become your lover.
Never get confuse in this and do not try to think of falling and doing things to make love happen as if to happen it will and you will come to know of it.
2006-10-13 21:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by shrimal_sandeep 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are going to mess up a good thing. it's true that a good man is hard to find. looks aren't everything and as you grow older and more mature you will realize this. i think you should break up with him and let someone else have a chance at this "great bf." stop wasting his time. you won't realize what you had until it's gone. and by then it may be too late!
2006-10-13 21:54:08 · answer #10 · answered by sweettee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋