there's a previous question about my relation with this guy.. he's really changed and i want the old him back..but i know that's not possible.. i feel really bad i havent went out for a week now, he acts as if he's great without me but all of his friends told me he's depressing..please help..i can't stop thinking about him
2006-10-13 20:47:10 · 16 answers · asked by Karine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i called him yesterday so that we could see eachother to talk..but he said he was too busy and that we could talk on the phone cause he wouldnt be able to take it live..in a very cold way..then he said:"if u want i can see u tomoro".. and i told him i was busy and we that will talk on msn or sumettin and he just said ok...
2006-10-13 21:40:28 · update #1
A teacher at school told me one time. You
will always meet someone that will make you
forget about the last one. It is true.
Give it time.
2006-10-13 20:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by CODY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is do you really want to get over him? Introspection is the key word here. Do what your gut feeling tells you to do so you don't go through life thinking what you have missed out if you would have taken the first step. If it doesn't work out than God has ordained that it was not meant to be.Other possibilities: he is not serious about the relationship. He realized he made a mistake. He is seeing someone else. He really is overloaded with work. He does not want the relationship to get to the marriage state. He thinks you are too good for him and that he does not deserve you. His feet smell and he does not want to wash them! LOL cheer up it will pass as soon as you find someone who is nice.Then this guy will be erased from your map; that is what's so lovely about life.
2006-10-14 07:33:30 · answer #2 · answered by mhmd_badran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sort of thing happened to me. I desperately wanted to talk to my ex about what on earth went wrong because I thought we were so good together.
The thing is, the more you go after him, wanting to speak to him, the more frustrated you'll get because he says he's "busy". The truth is he's probably loving all your attention but you're making yourself look desperate.
I haven't seen on heard from my ex for about a year now, but if I'm honest with you I still think about him. Every single day.
My heart ached so bad when I split up with my ex and like you I stayed indoors for a long time, at least 2 weeks. I took me that time to grieve for the great relationship we had but somewhere along the line it just disappeared.
I won't lie to you, I had to drag myself out of bed other wise I think I may have stayed there forever. But I worked out who my real friends were and they stuck by me and helped me through a difficult time. Even when I didn't feel like it they'd drag me out and I'd end up having a good time and not think of my ex so much. If it wasn't for them I don't even want to imagine where I'd be now.
If he's such a jerk, like you say, then you are worth more and deserve better than. Its a shame this guy couldn't see when he had the chance that you cared so deeply for him.
It will get better, eventually. I am at least proof of that. But as the old saying goes....Time is a great healer.
Give yourself time and I promise these feelings will fade.
Best wishes for the future...x
2006-10-14 08:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by *Care Bear* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just so you can know, guys don't ever want a woman to know they hurt, or miss, or feel, but he is very immature, so you need to just let this guy go sweetie, your better off without him, he can't be honest to you..he is acting like a punk..Move on...you will forget him...you will wonder later why did you ever like him in the first place....good luck
2006-10-14 03:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boy we sure do fall for some jerks dont we ? i find the only thing is when you find someone else the JERK ! will suddenly leave your mind and heart. i know how hard it is to forget someone and there is really nothing you can do except WAIT eventually he will not stay in your head 24 hours a day, the bad thing it doesnt happen overnite. untill you find someone to take his place cry, cry cry and thank God hes out of your life, its so damn hard tho......
2006-10-14 04:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have confidence in yourself as a person and a strong will, you will get over anything. You have to believe you can and will find someone you can love and who can love you without worrying. If you believe you have those two attributes, you just need to decide when to start getting over him.
2006-10-14 06:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by Baba Ganoush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to meet you for coffee or a drink and hash things out.
If he refuse to change, draw a line and move on to another guy!
2006-10-14 04:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, you can't stop thinking about a jerk
because you want the old him back.
why aren't you talking to him instead
of seeking our two points worth?
did he cheat you?
if not .. really, where's the problem?
2006-10-14 04:38:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people change. outlook on life and love changes.....you can't prevent it or force it back to what it was.....and there's too many other nice guys in the world for you to dwell on just the one....
2006-10-14 08:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by xepov 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesnt sound like you are ready to get over him yet, if your just going to stay home and think about him and talk to his friends about him.
2006-10-14 03:51:59 · answer #10 · answered by saturn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋