I guess its a process and not free of pain.But if you end up in bygones be bygones and are not too full of pain its done.
But 'truly'.....the week after, truly will mean something else and the best i can say on that is to yourself be true.
2006-10-13 20:32:46
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answered by idiotjim 3
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forgiveness is NOT a feeling. You will not experience a "feeling of forgiveness", it is an Act .You may have to do it daily, hourly, or even every minute. Satan does not like you to be forgiving, so he can actually make you think of it more, and more. Also in different ways that you have never thought of the situation. But believe me the LORD will allow you to eventually forget it and go on. So just daily tell yourself that you forgive this person, action, or what ever the situation maybe. It does get easier though, and you will feel much, much better every step of the way! And forgiveness of others and different things will become easier. GOD bless you and have a wonderful weekend!
2006-10-14 03:41:59
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answered by angel76 2
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Sometimes it is hard to let go of a wrong that somebody does to us. It is a serious matter when we can't let go and one that is not easily solved.
We say we forgive them, but can we forget? We say we'll overlook the wrong, but we won't forgive them. That's not forgiving, is it? But the saying, " what's done is done ' does not ring true, because it's impossible to forget what was done! Or can we?
Let's put the two together and we come up with " forgetful forgivness", is this possible?
Forgetful forgiveness, what exactly is it? It's not erasing the past; it's not psychological shock treatments that blot out memory.
Forgetful forgiveness is a healing action applied on the wound that cures the infection and takes out the pain, When the incident comes to mind, we don't live it over again. We don't let memory reopen the wound and reinfect the relationship. What's past is past; it can't be undone. But its effect on us can be fantastically changed, by forgiveness! Then and only then are we freed to learn tremendous lessons we would never have learned without the injury.
True forgiveness has wonderful healing powers. It restores eye-sight; we suddenly see ourselves much more clearly. The person who cannot forgive must be blind to his own faults. You'd think that he'd never done anything that needed to be forgiven
But when we really see ourselves, we discover that all our lives others have quietly been forgiving us. Every day our partner, our friend, our brother/sister, parents have been over-looking our faults that we've hardly noticed. Also forgiveness allows us to see the person whom we are forgiving more clearly.
Unforgiveness distorts our vision,and everything goes out of focus. Faults are magnified out of proportion, while good points blur into oblivion. But once we forgive, our vision is restored and we gain our perspective back.
Then that other miraculous healing occurs - the healing of the wound! Until the rift is mended, forgiveness is not complete. Forgiveness is total acceptance. This includes acceptance of the injury and of the suffering and acceptance of the one who caused the suffering.
To forgive is to give oneself, asking nothing in return. It is to love where to hate woud be the natural response. It pardons the one who deserves only punishment! It frees him/her from the burden of guilt.
This is the way God forgives. Anyone who comes to Him honestly will receive complete, unreserved forgiveness and acceptance. Here is His promise, " I will remember their sin no more " ( Hebrews 8:12). When God forgives, He forgets!
2006-10-14 04:19:59
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answered by trieghtonhere 4
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Note ***A Christian's perspective****:
Unfortunately true forgiveness is one of the hardest things for a person to do. It's one thing to forgive someone and try to put the deed out of our mind. It's hard for us to forget the past. Sometimes we like to rehash old pains that were supposed to have been forgiven and forgotten. This is human nature. I'm not saying that we as humans don't have the capacity to truly forgive. It's just that I believe it is a task a lot more difficult then people would like to let on. It is easier if you know that God has forgiven you, so what is it to you that you should forgive someone, that has harmed you. We must forgive as we were forgiven. The offense is not against you anyway, but against God as you belong to Him.
2006-10-14 03:45:45
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answered by JohnC 5
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Innocence of consciousness. Can you forgive a shark for eating someone. Sometimes people dont know any better either. Havent you ever done something cruel and only realised the consequences afterwards, from a higher perspective. Its not easy to forgive at times, but dont we all learn something from these experiences. Perhaps its a gift- we know how to protect and what to trust next time.
2006-10-14 04:46:29
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answered by sunline 3
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YOU don't do it. God through you does it. God will actually supply the forgiveness you need to forgive someone!! If it is forgiveness for others you need, ask God and he will give you some of his!
2006-10-14 03:31:03
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answered by Monique 3
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Acknowledge that forgivenes is a process. And remember that God can forgive us so we have to at least try to forgive others.
2006-10-14 03:32:21
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answered by Jassyjuju 2
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This may sound terrible but I'm for real. My father once told me that if you're holding a gun to their head, but decide not to kill them, then you've forgiven them. It's not true forgiveness if you're always have an opportunity to crush them, but never do.
2006-10-14 03:32:52
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answered by Wonder Weirdo 3
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easy, you say I am sorry. But there is no such thing as true forgiveness. As long as you can remember you cannot fully forgive.
2006-10-14 03:31:00
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answered by Southie9 5
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forget their wrong doings and remember them no more, when you forgive, that's it. there is no remembrance, there is no record, when it is done with all your heart then it is like the wrong doing never happened.
2006-10-14 04:13:59
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answered by Eloy B 2
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