He's threatening to slit his wrists in jail. He hasn't done anything wrong. He's my brother. He feels abandoned and as though we're not doing all we can to help him.
I am dying inside.
2006-10-13 20:25:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
coming from a person that has spent time in jail, it is a difficult road to go down. The best thing you can do is write him often and see him every time that it is possible. Maybe he can purchase phone cards to call home? Its much cheepier than collect calls. Most of make sure you tell him howm much you support him and love him!
2006-10-13 20:32:06 · answer #1 · answered by mullet3k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you've got to do is to have a good and peacful talk with him. [Make sure you bring someone who he trusts most!] Howver, it is not just another conversation when you two are arguing and accusaing one another about what had happened! At this time, at whatever, he is accusing you or your family of, don't deny it. Wait until he had finished talking then that's when you calmly and peacefully EXPLAIN to him why do you think he is wrong in some points. The point here is to make peace, and DO NOT start to argue!!! Just have a peaceful conversation with him.
2006-10-13 20:32:53 · answer #2 · answered by Tan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourge him not to do that. That it will be selfish to attempt to kill himself because he has family like you. But I can tell you first hand, jail is hell on earth. You feel like a caged animal. Everything you do someone tells you what to do, when to eat, when to take a shower, etc. So stay in his ear about what he has to live for and that you are doing everything possible that you can do. ( and I hope you are) I really hope the both of you be ok.
2006-10-13 21:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by Young Vito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to make him understand that you have & will always love & support him. Convince him you are trying your hardest to do what you can. Tell him to be strong & not to cut his his wrists. Tell him how that would just destroy you if he did. Tell him exactly how you feel. Sorry I could not be of any more help.
2006-10-13 20:35:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't do his time offer all support possible...but if he insists on being a martyr then remind him to slice wrist to elbow on a vein preferably on both arms...doing it right creates least angst for survivors...
2006-10-13 21:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't done anything wrong then why is he in jail? I'm confused!
2006-10-13 20:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by *~BETHY~* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sad, you need to tell your parents and where he is locked up at, so they can watch him 24-7 for his sake..keep writing to him, it must be real sad, you on the outside looking in...good luck God Bless...
2006-10-13 20:29:15 · answer #7 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
about 5 years ago i went to prison for 18 months behind being stupid anyway this guy that i was with i did everything under the sun to him that was wrong and totally unforable but dont you know when i went to prison he stood behind me and came to see me wrote me weekly and kept money on my books cuz he believed in me and knew that stuff i was doing was'nt me because he knew me before i started getting high and saleing drugs anyway when i finally got to prison and got a chance to reflex on everything on everything did or said i wanted too truely kill myself and was mainly depressed but because he stood by me and he forgave me not to be forgotten and because of him i made it through prison and 2 years laters we got married and happier than ever everyday i prove myself to him by doing the right thing showing him that his faith in me wanted wasted saying all that if you believe in him and care just keep supporting him and having his back and let him know what ever he is going through is not worth killing himself over everything that he is going through is meant to make him stronger and teach him a leason and hang in there it will get better promise i made it if you ever need to talk to someone who really understands feel free to e-mail at nolipgordon@yahoo.com and i will e-mail you back keep your head up
2006-10-13 21:30:03 · answer #8 · answered by twilla l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I first would let the jailers know so they can put him on suicide watch, plus let him know that he is still loved by you and your family no matter what and that you will stand by him after he gets out.
2006-10-13 20:35:58 · answer #9 · answered by long_hard_thick9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have been arrested for things they did not do. My problem with this is why he cant prove he didnt do it but yet he wants to kill himself. Sorry doesnt make since.
2006-10-13 20:34:41 · answer #10 · answered by saturn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋