I am a girl who r confused very much who is the best boy for me papa's chice or ny choice both r too good. Papa allow to me to marry with my choice but by heart he is prepare for this action he so upset becoz his happiness in his choice
2006-10-13 20:18:28 · 8 answers · asked by care 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Dear Aarti--
Summary:
You are confused very much about your marriage.
Which boy to marry; Papa's choice or your choice.
You say both choices are good.
Papa will allow you to have your choice but not happily.
Papa's happiness is in his choice.
This is very, very hard, especially since it sounds like you were raised in a family in which the father rules the roost; father knows best and what father speaks is law! This is probably inbedded in your culture. You have to consider whether or not you are at peace to continue in the line of your culture or consider your willingness to break out of tradition.
1. Arranged marriages have worked for years; some good, some bad.
2. Marrying from the heart also works; still some good marriages and some bad.
3. Your father is not marrying the boy, so it is not his marriage.
4. Sometimes growing up takes making some difficult choices by which father learns that his little girl is no longer under his rule. This can be done respectfully and lovingly regardless of how father takes the change. Be aware that a "roaring" father eventually will have something to eat and go to bed. Never fear.
5. Father may not be won over for years to come; however a grandchild will likely change the climate; especially if the grandchild looks like him.
6. Sit down and set forth on paper the pros and cons of the two choices. Pray
7. On which ever boy you decide, close the book on the other from henceforth. Make a decision that you will love the one of whom you have chosen forever.
I wish you well.
2006-10-13 21:19:57 · answer #1 · answered by lindakflowers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you're not old enough to be married. You are definately still a girl and should give it some time. Don't be thinking about that until you get an education under your belt--oh and be sure to include english classes in your schedule.
2006-10-13 20:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by MACmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are confused about your spelling. Go to a spelling counselor and get help. After you learn how to spell everything will fall into place and your problems will melt away and happiness will begin to grow upon you.
2006-10-13 21:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
evaluate the pros and cons of marrying the boy of ur choice.why is ur papa not happy with ur choice?does the boy have any bad habits?
2006-10-13 20:21:48 · answer #4 · answered by archie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart because you are the one who has to live with the man if you love him marry him if not then do not marry him
can you see you self spending the rest of your life with this man and haveing children with him and growing old togather if so marry him if not then fin some one you can love
2006-10-13 20:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by GINA D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
am i right that your culture is different from american culture? i can see where it would be confusing but if he is happy with either choice which should be yours and the one you love then i would go with what you feel is right in your heart!!!
2006-10-13 20:23:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with your choice. don't make any hasty decision.
2006-10-13 20:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by Friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, divorce him
2006-10-13 20:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋