im alittle discouraged in this relationship (if i should even call it one). I've been dating this gut for about 3 months, in the beginning it was fun, we hungout a lot, went to lunch all that. He told me he would have a lot on his plate before all this, and told me it wouldnt be a problem. Now, i bearly see him and we never go out, with all the things he has going on( school, work, his business). i love and respect that he is so ambitous, but i feel he doesnt have time for me. I feel that if he really liked me he would make the time.
So last week i went to talk to him about it and he actually brought up first, he apoligized and said it would get better, and explained how he was a "complex" person. So, a week has gone by and no change. Should i move on? and find someone who has the time? Or should i give his a ultimatum? Is it so wrong to think that i deserve better?
2006-10-13 20:18:02 · 12 answers · asked by flo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, I would definitely try and talk with him about it one more time. There's nothing wrong with a last ditch effort. It does seem a little unreasonable that he is continually putting his school,work and bussiness in front of you. When you talk to him explain exactly how you're feeling. Try to offer some type of compromise. Maybe you could help him in someway with his business or hobbies. The more you have in common the more time you will be able to spend together. If none of this works in your situation you'll have to make a decision about whether to continue this relationship. Look down the road into your future. If this is how he is now, how will things change if you ever become more seriously involved? Is this an example of how he views his priorities? If he has a family, will he put them first or his work? Can you live like this for another year or even more if there isn't a change? Things change and we either change with them or we move on to something else. What you need to do is figure out which direction is best for you, regardless of the feelings attached.Best Wishes
2006-10-13 20:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by rebelicious_angel228 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a dude who has got it together,or maybe a bit of an over achiever,from what I get.here is a way to look at this;if you can see this through,and think he will slow down abit,give him some more time than a week,then this time,YOU bring it up,be cool about it,though.if still gives you the same"I`m too complex for you"speech,he might be a self centered prick,who has no time for anyone but himself,but if he realizes there is more to life than his own affairs,he might come around and give you some attention.
PS rebeliciuos said it better than I did.
2006-10-14 04:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by swamp angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I can't live knowing you could be having fun with a great guy and then you're stuck inside because your guy is too busy.
I'm not saying you should do this, but if I wore you I would move on, find the guy who appreciates me, loves me and never wants to leave me.
You're worth way more than what you're being treated right now! Don't you want to be treated and loved more than now?
Really good luck, but don't go finding someone- he won't be the one. The one is the one who thinks you're pretty wearing sweats and says you're beautiful of sexy and hott.
Good Luck! =)
2006-10-14 03:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by x_Super_Social_Superstar_x 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do is.....do not call him or see him for about 2 weeks. If he calls do not answer his call, let it go to voice mail and return his call about 6 hrs later and let him know you where busy doing stuff and you could not get back to him right away.
2006-10-14 03:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by Holly G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contrary to popular belief guys know what women aer going to talk to hem about, so you were correct to assume that if he wanted to he would make time, id give it a week, just observe his manerisms, and if you dont even see teh most minor effort to make room for you, dump him. or if you arent ready to give up, do your damndest to drag him away, maybe to a dinner or justa walk.
2006-10-14 03:31:57 · answer #5 · answered by irishthunda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave it a enough time. If he wants you he would make the time. MOVE ON fine some one who has time for you.
2006-10-14 03:25:19 · answer #6 · answered by baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if he is stalling. If he had time for you initially, he should still have time now. Give him the brush-off and move on.
2006-10-14 03:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by Serendipity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on sounds like his plate is full of other girls.
2006-10-14 03:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by saturn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move on,end of story.
2006-10-14 03:21:44 · answer #9 · answered by triniqueen40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably have another woman and doesn't want you to be hurt by it so he just makes excuses
2006-10-14 03:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by Desert Rat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋