any men with vasectomies out there and?

Question

how did change your relationship , or sex life i want my man to have one because i dont want to be on the pill and for health reasons i dont want to have my tubes tied my guy says no

golfer wow i am not trying to make him do anything other than learn about it we have been together many many years and we have stuck together through thick and thin we dont want any more children . i have heart problems and i cant take the pill without having problems and a surgery would be harder on me than him and he agrees , but doesnt want the surery more out of fear i think than anything else i really cant figure out you think i am a bad person but to each their own i think your to quick to judge people without knowing the very full story this something he wanted to ask to for your info hes more scared it will change our sex life thanks for jumping all down my throat though are we a lil sensitive

why is it always on the woman he doesnt want kids nor do i but its always put on us i dont see where you are chewing him for putting my health at risk for all these years because hes scared why are you not calling him selfish for wanting his pleasure's at my risk i am so sick of society putting this all on women it takes two to tango buddy and i cant wait for the man pill to come out

i am sorry golfer too i am just frustrated at our situation it is to easy for everyone to say just dont do anything or dont put it on him when its put on me

Answer 1

it doesn't change anything. i still have just as much and as good sex as i was before, now without the possibility of having anymore children. it's probably a little more intense now knowing that no matter what i will be sterile and everything goes.
we have 3 girls and that was how we wanted it. it is so much easier for your man to have one than for you too. as long as the two of you are both happy with how many children you do or dont have.

Answer 2

I had the operation done in 1978 and I requested a non reversable. My love life jumped up due to the fact that my lovers did not have to worry if the pill was taken or will the plastic tear.

What did happen was that ten years after having it done a son died. I could not have it reversed because I had built up antibodies which meant all sperm cells I produced were attacked as invading viruses.

See a doctor about having the tubes tied but not cut. The want to be a father is strong, Even though being tied may allow him to sire in the future it will not rule out the Anti-Body attack.

Answer 3

If the human beings in question are married then of direction it needs to be a joint determination and not a one sided determination the place one tells the different what to do. although, in basic terms for heads up records.... a vasectomy in basic terms takes some days to recover from, the place as on the different hand a woman is layed up for 4 - 6 weeks. it quite is by utilising no ability much less of a surgical treatment yet once you're a real guy and it quite is a joint determination why wouldnt you opt to take the burden here and keep your spouse 4 - 6 weeks of soreness and soreness?

Answer 4

I'm a man. I've heard how manipulative SOME women can be,BUT THIS IS AN EXAMPLE OF TOTAL SELFCENTEREDNESS. Can you imagine a man
trying to manipulate YOU with an excrutiatingly painful post op from slicing and sewing together your inner vaginal walls so he could still USE your lubricated outer vaginal walls and lybia minora and majora to satisfy his animalistic desires, but escape the responsibilities of fatherhood? He could justify it by saying you don't want a baby NOW and the operation is reverseable later. WOULDN'T HE BE IGNORING what YOU might WANT? YOUR POSSIBLE RELIGIOUS BELIEFS? WHAT GOD MIGHT WANT? AND WHAT YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND MIGHT WANT ?-- since it would soon become obvious to you that "this guy's gotta go", what will he want if he decides my clitoris is ugly? Doesn't he care about me at all?
WAKE UP! Perhaps what you LIKE about the MAN is his unselfishness
or at least common courteousy concerning your FEELINGS! You've stated
YOU don't want the pill; YOU don't want tubes tied but that sorry human male ought to do this and that for ME. Then, you've gone out trying to find ways to manulate him more efficiently by getting others' knowledges so YOU can
MANIPULATE HIM BETTER -- and GET YOUR WAY! Personally, I hope he
grows a second brain cell, cons you for some more juice, and enjoys himself while he looks for a LIVING human being known as a WOMAN. [Didn't ya'll ever here of the term "helpmate"?] Look, I'm 61 and still trying to learn more about being unselfish and considerate of others. Serving others instead of self is what growing up and how to obtain happiness, love, and joy is all about. I'm sorry for the rough talk, but you need to CONSIDER the points. We must change ourselves [and FOR THE BETTER]. We CANNOT CHANGE ANYONE BUT OURSELVES. Ultimately, we are responsible for OUR OWN SELF IMPROVEMENT and we must make tough choices and then either
Gain The Rewards -- or Suffer The Consequences.

Answer 5

Yeah, I had one. After I lost the fear of getting a woman pregnant I cheated on my girl three times in about two months. Finally had to slow down because of a Hep-C scare, but yeah I'd definately recommend having one.

Answer 6

what if you two break up in 7 years and he's stuck with a gun without bullets?... there are plenty of less permanent options... that don't involve the pill.... sex is fun... i like it

Answer 7

Yes ! I got this surgery 2 years back. It is going very fine, rather it has increased my sexual power and stamina. No side effects at all.

Answer 8

i say no too... men think that their penis and balls are everything...its what makes a man a man...if something were to happen to it we know we would no longer be a man...as a man i am proud of my balls...to cut them in my eyes would mean i am no longer a man...many men cant mentally take having themselves fixed.....i will never get it done either

Answer 9

He's honestly saying no and so is every guy...if they think they're men. plz don't be too selfish...if you don't want to damage yourself then don't have sex...though it's really fun, hah?

Answer 10

uuum. here is the question why in the world you want him to have a vasectomy but you don't want your tubes tied!!????? that is probably why he says no. Go and do it together he gets his done and you get yours done.