Why are people just so rude these days?

Question

from food service, any type of customer service, drivers, and even folks on yahoo answers that just can't answer a question without calling the person who asked the question a name

food service is one of my pet peeves as what does it take to simply say thank you after i just spent my hard earned money now i worked in food service for years and I know customers can be jerks and far from what they say the customer should not always be right but come on just a hi, hello, instead of "go ahead with your order", then take my money, "pull up" next window says " here you go" I sit there like is that it and then I say you are welcome and they stare at me dumb founded

for key ring typical of just what i'm speaking of rude people think it's nothing to be rude and disrespectful to others

Answer 1

You hit the nail on the head with that comment!! As one wise responder said, there are always the opposites - yin and yang. I don't think we can come up with any one answer to the whys of this problem, which seems to be getting worse as family values crumble and societal pressures increase. Please and thank you have fallen by the wayside, and today's sour faces and poor attitudes are often the result of putting "me" ahead of "you". Name calling, whether written or verbal, is often due to a lack of self-esteem, and, in the case of these forums, the person's inability to compose an intelligent answer. May tomorrow be filled with :>) "Have a great day!"

Answer 2

I may be off base but my personal experience was this. . .I graduated from HS and went into food service (waiter, bartender, etc.). I was very happy there with my co-workers and my basic life. Society was not. Customers were rude to me (one lady was having lunch with her 8 year old daughter and the daughter told her mom she wanted to work at this restaurant when she grew up and the mother told her no way your dad and I want better for you. . .all while I am standing at their table). My family harrassed me for lack of career success and direction (i.e., go to college or you are a loser). The community college conselor told me it wasn't a career without a degree.

So, I went to college and got a professional job and have been making a lot of money, picking up dry cleaning, getting fat sitting all day and stressed out for 10 years. I've been called a wild success by all those same people who criticized me the waitress so long ago. If it had been treated like a good job worthy of respect by society I would still be in that industry, no matter the financial struggle.

If we don't respect blue collar workers (and my experience is we don't) those doing those jobs will never do them well because they can't get any respect from the customers or their friends/families and it will forever be viewed as a bump in the road, not a job worthy of theirs and our respect.

I hope I was clear. Please don't flame me, I am not saying you deserved their rudeness because you were rude to them. I am nice to the guy at the counter and McD's all the time and he is always rude back b/c he doesn't respect his own job.

Answer 3

Well having been a customer service person myself you do have days where you just love to jump over the counter and say make up your mind already and after a long day of people saying silly things or getting shitty with you because you took 1 minute longer than you should've to serve them it does get hard to be nice to all the customers.

I think it is because lives get so complicated and hectic that people forget that people have feelings and when it comes to manners sometimes stress and ignorance can make those go out the window

Answer 4

People are rude for alot of reasons. People, generally, are rude on here because they don't have to answer the question fact-to-face. Therefore their answers or 'beliefs' tend to be more extreme, because they don't know the asker and don't care, after all they are just typing in a bunch of words. As for rudeness in the outside world, to a certain extent, this is an extension of that principle. People feel detached from one another and have lost the ability to communicate with each other on a human level. It is a shame and frustrating to see. However there are still plenty who work in customer service that still hold onto the principle of 'treat others, as you would be treated yourself.'

Answer 5

Its just the stressful lives we lead these days. We have let nature take a back seat and gotten too excited about all this technology. I guess technology is taking a toll on us in everyway...if the cell phone is out of reach, we swear...if the computer has a virus, we swear....if the credit card is blocked, we swear....if we are stuck in traffice, we swear.....see the amount of stressing we do? Technology has its advantages, but it has taken us so far from appreciating nature that we can't heal ourselves at the end of the day. Only if we get back home and take time to place flowers in the vase, to light a nice candle, to rejuvinate ourselves, I am sure we won't be so lost and confused the next day that we need to be rude.
We are becoming poorer in humanity while becoming richer in economics!

Answer 6

Yes, I feel the same way. The attitude is you owe it to me!!!
I always think that even if you do not like a person you should always be respectful. This means that rudeness is not acceptable.
I always say thank you and please. Regarding Yahoo answers people should be more respectful when they writing their questions that I think are really not respectful and should be addressed to a different type of audience.
However, I am happy to see that there are people that are kind and rudeness is not part of their life. Have a great day!!!!!!

Answer 7

You know people kept being rude to me and it got me annoyed, then I somehow found myself being rude to other people for no apparent reason..

It's like a big cycle. I think most people who are being rude don't mean any harm by it though, they probably don't notice at the time and the person on the recieving end takes it too personally.

Imo.
On here.. it's an entirely different thing. Most of them (answerers) are assholes.
I started being rude because of the sheer stupidity of some of the questions just drove me to it. I am only rude to the questioners who deserve it, and some undoubtably do. But most times I am baffled by the reactions of some.

Answer 8

I don't know but I do know that respect demands respect. If one is stranded in an abandoned place and the only person there with you is a person that you do not like then respect will have to come into play in order for the both of you to survive. People do not appreciate each other until they really need each other.

Answer 9

There are lots of good people but you are right, there are a lot of rude people too. Just the other day we had a rude waiter when we were nothing but polite to him. For the first time ever we left no tip and filled out the complaint card and mailed it to the corporate office. We just felt it was not our fault he hates his job.

Answer 10

This is so true. However, I was shocked when I discovered it here. I think some people are so miserable in their own lives they have a need to spread or infect others with their misery.