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2006-10-13 19:10:24 · 17 answers · asked by lavender 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
Basically, you don't have to do much of anything... If he raped you, then you probably have physical evidence to attest to that fact....
But then again, its's a "he said" "she said" controversy...
Which means, that you will be going through a whole lot of bullshit with a man that is not only physically abusive to you but also emotionally abusive as well.
Questions such as "Do you still live with him?" and "If he's such a jerk, why haven't you moved out?" are bound to come out!!
I'm not saying he didn't rape you, but I have been through this whole gamut with an ex and the only way you can really get him is on Domestic Violence. The question will be "Did he hit you or abuse you in any other way?"
And the answer must be (for you to win) is that he beat me up and then raped me.... (or a plain old beat me up will do).
I'm not saying that you should lie.... What I am saying is that if you feel that he physically abused you (in a marital relationship, especially) that it usually has to be of the sort where it was violent physically (which to the cops means externally - bruises, etc.) and that you called IMMEDIATELY to report it.
I hate to say this, but I will, I have been dealing with a Stalker for 4 months now and he has yet to be convicted of his physical violence to me.
I go to court at least once a month!!!
If you're gonna make him catch a case, make sure it's a good one. A lot of abusive men have learned how to work the system and they win because they take every other avenue to avoid prosecution.... A husband is much worse than a boyfriend...
Again, I hate to say it, but if he wants to take that booty- make sure that it looks like he took it!
Months and months of court are exhausting and humiliating and just plain crappy!
If you make the call, you best be ready to stand up for it!!!
Good Luck!
2006-10-13 19:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Martial rape is a very serious thing and few knows that it does exist. If you are worried it will happen again you can go to any shelter or salvation army safe house they will help you file a temporary protective order (TPO). You will need no proof on the first TPO. You will have a hard time proving it, but if it hasn't been to long you can go to the ER and explain the situation. A doctor can examine you and tell the difference in your body between forced and consented to sex. There is some states that believe that the husband has the right to take it if the wife refuses but now a days they don't usually practice that due to the family violence. Just look for your local battered women's shelter they can help you. If you are having trouble finding your shelter, call the police they have to tell you the number. Good Luck to you.
2006-10-13 19:24:03 · answer #2 · answered by Dcham81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I've been there. But did nothing about it. Now i know better. You can go to your local police substation or even call your local police dept not your 911 but find out the adrress to go to to file a complaint. Also if you don't like geeting raped then file for deforce or get an order of protection right away. One way or another you're going to have to have a cell phone where you can call the police ouside afterwards and see what happens. Wish you the best.
2006-10-13 19:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by cecili o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question. Firstly, well done. Secondly, just report it. Go down to your local police station and report it. How would one prove it? Well, that's a bit more difficult and is dependant on the time that has passed between crime and report. If a woman has consentual sex, the walls of her vagina will be damaged at 5, 6 and 7 o'clock. Rape victims will usually exhibit injuries at 11, 12 and 1 o'clock. Additionally, there are defensive wounds both on the victim and the perpetrator that collaborate the rape claims.
2006-10-13 19:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Besides some of the good advice here, PLEASE do two things more. 1) Read "Armed & Female" by Paxton Quigley 2) try out handguns at a shooting range that sells them & get help choosing one appropriate & comfortable for you (lots in the book on this). The police can't always be right there each time you need them, and there WILL, unfortunately be a next time. You need to be confidently armed and ready to defend yourself against this man, husband or not. Make sure he knows that if he attempts to harm you again, he will be the happier one of the two of you to see the police arrive.Hesitate to take care of this & you will only regret it. You are wiorth it. If you have kids, they are worth it .
2006-10-13 21:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by gettin'real 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have great difficulty why you would consider standing by this man. I suppose it proves the statement love is blind. He is not good news. He may not even get a custodial sentence at the end of all this and will be out there doing the same to some other woman and you will have to ask the same questions all over again. Let the facts speak to you not a damaged heart. If he is bleating and pleading with you at the moment saying what a terrible mistake it all is and how he knows this etc etc. He is bricking it naturally because he has been caught but I guarantee that as soon as it blows over he will blow again.....another victim will suffer. Please please think of yourself.
2016-05-22 00:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless the rape happened several minutes prior to your posting and you went to a hospital,then you probably can not prove it,unless there was a witness to the crime.
When a rape occurs it is extremely important to get to a hospital and have a rape kit done on you.They can collect evidence such as sperm,take pictures of wounds,and a doctor can make an examination as to whether there was any tearing of the vaginal cavity.
You have to be able to prove a crime was committed,if you can't prove it,then the perpetrator can say it was consensual sex.
Then it becomes a case of he said she said.
2006-10-15 12:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by shaneh235 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you have to do is say that you are. It's up to the district attorneys office to press charges based on your statement and his statement and any factual evidence you might have. For example, if you fought him off, or if there was any vaginal bruising, the crime scene, etc.
We just come out, take the report and possibly arrest your husband. The district attorney is the one who actually presses the charges or drops them. They are the ones who have to believe you.
By the way, you can't use the voice recorder thing where he confesses because it won't be admissible in court. It can only be used if he knows he is being taped and states on the tape he knows he is being taped and is still willing to confess.
2006-10-13 19:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just go down and file a report with the police. If there is any bruising that is a really good thing to tell them or any harm that was done to you and then if it happens again I would be concerned for your safety and the safety of other women that he may be assaulting. Be safe!
2006-10-13 19:13:17 · answer #9 · answered by fancy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Report the incident to the police. Let the police do the investigation.
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2006-10-17 17:43:47 · answer #10 · answered by JAMES11A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋