I have a quick thought and question.
I was watching Bill O'Reilly on Fox News last night, and he had Gerardo Rivera on there. They where on the topic of Mel Gibson and his remarks about the Jews. Now through out the discussion, Gerardo said that there where two people that he could not forgive, and Mr. Gibson is one of them.
Why?
Because he did not ask!
Which he did come on T.V. and asked people to forgive him sometime back
Now to my Question.....
Does a person have to ask you to forgive them in order for you to forgive them?........Or can you forgive them and let the water continue under the bridge......
Thanks to all who answer
and God Bless you all
...........=)
2006-10-13 19:06:49 · 22 answers · asked by snuggels102 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My feeling is Geraldo said he would not forgive Gibson because he's on t.v. He thinks that's what people want to hear. He's kowtowing to the audience. Furthermore, Geraldo has no room to talk about this issue. He should look internally, instead of questioning Gibson's sincerity.
No, you can and should forgive someone whether they ask you to or not. This is because the only person that needs to know is God. He hears you. That is all that matters. You forgive them as God has forgiven you.
2006-10-13 19:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not forgiving someone is like being chained to a monster. You need to get loose. Sometimes I can only forgive a little at a time, but I will get the thing forgiven eventually. Have a wonderful morning wherever you are!
2006-10-14 02:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Good question.
This reminds of a beautiful incident that took place in the life of our Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him).
Once the Prophet (peace be upon him) was sitting in a mosque with his companions, and he said that the next person who will enter the mosque is going to go to Paradise. Another companion of the Prophet (peace be upon him) entered the mosque. One of the companions who was already in the mosque thought whats so special about this person that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said he will go to Paradise. So this curious companion asks the one who entered the mosque to live with him for few days so that he could see what is that special thing he does which has earned him Paradise. After spending a few days, he doesn't notice anything different or extraordinary, so he then asks him about it. This companion, whom the Prophet(peace be upon him) gave glad tidings, says that I don't do anything extraordinary, except that before going to sleep, I forgive everyone who has harmed me or said anything bad to me or offended me in anyway.
SubhanAllah (Glory be to Allah), this is an example of the great lives of Sahaba (the companions of the Prophet (peace be upon him).
The sole reason that this companion was rewarded in such a big way is that forgiving is one of the traits of God, and God is really happy when someone among His creation is forgiving. God is The Forgiving, so He forgives the person, because that the person was so considerate.
2006-10-14 02:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by mutmainnah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgivness is within a person. It should be given freely, regardless of being asked or not. Mel Gibson hates Jews...so what.
-Pedro
2006-10-14 02:11:46 · answer #4 · answered by plferia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
True forgiveness will come from the heart whether asked for or not. Just look at the Amish and how they forgave the killer of their beautiful innocent children. The Amish are an example for all.
2006-10-14 02:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by Proud to be an American 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a gift to the other person and also to YOURSELF when you choose to forgive. I think that one of the toughest things to do is to forgive someone in your heart, when they are not ASKING to be forgiven. I am working on this concept and hope to make it a reality in my life.(I had NO IDEA it was 2 am until you pointed out the time!!)
2006-10-14 02:11:47 · answer #6 · answered by I am Sunshine 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness, in true value, is not a fomality. Its essence consists in the capacity to contain the limitations and weakness of the mind.It is the outcome of unlimited effection. Unlimited effection is capable of containing even bigest adversery. Harshness and religiousity cannot go together as water and fire can not go together. True forgiveness make the hearts soft. Softness of heart and water under the bridge cannot go together.
2006-10-14 02:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by thinkpose 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can forgive them without their asking or even their repentance. To forgive does not mean to forget, it means the transgression will no longer be held against them.
For example, A family member borrowed money from me. After a long wait, it was obvious he would not pay me back. Rather than let it come between us or irritate me, I chose to forgive the debt. I will not see it that he owes me any longer. He didn't ask for this or deserve it . I chose to do it.
But even in this there are consequences to actions. I choose to forgive that debt. But I also choose to not lend him money again.
2006-10-14 02:15:52 · answer #8 · answered by dave 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Geraldo always was just a publicity seeking jerk with no respect for people or fact. There are only two people I can not forgive, Geraldo's Mom and Dad. And I really don't give a rat's a** what a drunken Aussie says as he is being arrested for drunk driving, which I think is far worse than what ever drivel was being uttered by him.
2006-10-14 02:11:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Jesus already forgave jews and romans on the cross with this phrase " Father, forgive them, because they dont know what they do" luke 11:34
2006-10-14 02:11:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋