What does he want from me?

Question

I met a guy a month ago or so. We've made out, fooled around, but never oral or handjobs or intercourse. I'm still a virgin at age 20, whereas he's what I think of as a "male slut" at age 23. We're both in college. We both just got out of long term relationships. (His was 2 years; mine was 5.) Anyway, he calls me to talk about emotional stuff, to go to his friends' parties, and then he or I spends the night at the other person's apartment, except we don't have sex. He tells my friend that "I'm a smart, cool girl who challenges him, except he doesn't trust me and that I'm a "liar."" He thinks I lie about my virginity and my relationships. We both date other people.

So the other night we were fooling around, and I told him I'd never have sex with him. I told him to get a slutty girl or some prostitute. He tells me "that's disgusting." He then says "he has denied so much ***" and he likes challenges. He calls me a challenge, yet then says it was never his plan to have sex with me

He calls me up to ask about my emotions and if I would ever hurt him. We then talk about our past relationships, emotions, our goals in life, and how to achieve happiness, as corny as it sounds.

We talk about deep, intellectual stuff because we're both pretty idealistic and we think a lot. He told me we have a "mental" connection. I don't know what's going on.

I asked him why he still talks to me if he's never going to get any sex, and he replies "why do you come to my apartment if you won't have sex with me?" And I said I don't know, and he says he has no idea either.

I'm just really confused. He also called me to ask me about my motive with him, because he says I'm hard to read unlike others. He asks about what my passions are. We're both still love with our ex's and we don't want a relationship or anything like that.

Answer 1

Sweety, he wants SEX bad. And he knows that you aren't going to give it up unless you feel that thats not what he is after. He wants you to trust him, like him, think you will be safe with him and finally give in to him. Then he is going to have sex with you and leave you. He just wants the prize and is willing to give a lot to get it.
I'd stear clear of him, his intentions are BAD.

Answer 2

Honey, You would not be writing the question if you felt safe and comfortable with this guy. You are a challenge and game that he has to win. As soon as he gets his way, he will drop you. He is saying all the sh** to your friends to break you down so you will sleep with him. He is a player in every way. He is playing with your emotions, and he is playing you to try to get what he wants. Watch out for him, because this could be the biggest mistake you ever make if you give in to this creep. He doesn`t sound very nice to me, so does he really sound all that great to you? Do not settle for less, and always surround yourself with only good friends who do not talk about you behind your back. Write down his good qualities, and his bad qualities, and see if you even still want to date him or even have him for a friend.

Answer 3

Have a feeling he doesn't "believe" you because he wants to get a rise out of you. "Call you out".

If he reallys cares about you -having sex or the lack there of- would not be an issue. Be strong, you are confidnet and will do alot better on your own. Keep him as a friend if you want, but I bet as soon as you cross that "line" there is no going back and is he worth it?

Good luck!

Answer 4

I think that since you both just came out of relationships that you are kind of "feeling each other out" or testing the waters. Just be careful that you don't become the rebound chick. Since you are already friends, if & when you do decide to take the next step, it will be that much more intense & enjoyable.

Answer 5

he wants to slide it in, wiggle around, then roll over and start snoring...lol