2006-10-13 19:01:12 · 9 answers · asked by Eric O 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
So sad! I'm so sorry for you. I'm a Catholic. I've learned that God only takes a soul at the moment that it will have the most possiblity of making it to heaven. We believe that a soul never dies if he's with God--we call that a saint--sancta--means holy one. Since they are not dead, we can talk to them. I don't know what type of person your friend was but I would pray for him and say to him what your heart feels. Or tell God to tell him if you feel that is wrong. He is only in a different demension and he can see you and knows how you feel. Since you can't go to the funeral, write a heartfelt note to the family and then go to a quiet place and talk to him and maybe journal your feelings. Write him a poem, song or letter. Remember all the good times you had and hold the memories close. You now will carry on his memory to others so he won't be forgotten. He was lucky to have your friendship and he still is lucky to have you. God Bless you Sweet one!
2006-10-13 19:16:40 · answer #1 · answered by belladmma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should send a bouquet of flowers to the funeral home. If you can't attend the funeral, call the family and send your regards. A brightside to this is that you will get to remember that friend the way they were when they are alive. A lot of the times when peopl eattend the funerals it will provide closure, but leaves a bad memory of the way the looked. I am sorry for your loss and hope you do well in coping with this matter.
2006-10-13 19:07:33 · answer #2 · answered by amandaped25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I hope you have a legitimate reason for not attending the funeral, otherwise your friend's family might be disappointed with you. But if you can't make it simply write a letter or talk to the family in person within the next week. Share some of your memories of your friend, and tell the family what your friend meant to you. That will make them feel at least somewhat better.
2006-10-13 19:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jimmy Two Shoes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just lost a long time friend. I sent flowers to the funeral site and have been keeping in touch with the family members. I know this doesn't help your pain, but it may help the others knowing that you care.
2006-10-13 19:23:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please understand that your friend will not get upset over this. If he/she is your true friend, he/she shouldn't find that attending her funeral is an upmost important thing. Your friend knows that in your heart there's always a place for him/her. Any outward rituals and traditions are just man made. Funerals are just for the ones alive to come together in his memory. Know in your heart that your friend will always be with you- just in another form. He/she is now at peace surrounded by many angels.
2006-10-13 19:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by Renee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confident and all of us went to college at the same time ... and that i've got attended 5 of those and no my chum it would not get any further handy once you do it. So unhappy to assert see you later to somebody you knew all those years yet you have those concepts of them . the way they appeared , the way they talked will flow with you till you your self die..So sorry my chum yet you comprehend thats existence. we cant stay constantly.
2016-12-13 07:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by zell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal it like how the family does. You're family to him. Does he/she wants you to be there? I know for sure, he/she want you to be well and happy.
Death is another part of life that everyone have to deal with it. have a big cry becos of the loss. How to go on with your life? Think of all the sweet/fun/memorable moments you guys shared, and be blessed that he/she was once making you happy. God sent them back cos he think they've accomplished his/her angel work.
Now call/go to his family and give them your best regards, they need help as well, and I believe you are strong enough to. Give them a tight hug, they will appreciated it as much as you will.
Email me if you need, I will be here to help.
Stay Strong Eric.
2006-10-13 19:14:55 · answer #7 · answered by CindyHoneyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Light a candle for your friend in a quiet place. Sit and remember them for a little while, the fun times you had, the things you liked about them.
If you are religious, say a prayer for their safe journey. Be glad they were a part of your life, and say goodbye in your own way.
Your friend will know that you are thinking of them, and will be glad you were part of his/her life too.
2006-10-13 19:28:07 · answer #8 · answered by belmyst 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just realize your friend has moved on and though you might make the funeral he/she won't
2006-10-13 19:25:04 · answer #9 · answered by larryclay2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋