maybe1-2 days a week. and he gets mad sometimes when I ask... "I'm too tired" but he stays up later playing video GAMES? Weird. And i'm not fat or unattractive. I look almost the same as i did 4 years ago. Do you think hes just bored? I spice up the bedroom all the time!! What is happening? He tells me i'm a spoiled bi*ch when i get upset about it. And to just drop it!
2006-10-13 19:00:59 · 20 answers · asked by heather h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, not EVERYTHING is about sex, to answer that response. Its just the only and a quite LARGE problem.
We aren't married, just long term relationship.
I try talking to him about this but he avoids it and gets annoyed...
2006-10-13 19:17:04 · update #1
1st of all, NO ONE has the right to call you a spoiled bi*ch. learn that and know it. he's selfish and very inconsiderate of your needs. if it's like this now, what about another four years from now? do you really want to be with someone like this? people deserve to be treated with respect, and he's showing you none. i don't know why he's like this, it could be stress, ignorance, or maybe he is just bored. regardless, i would look into other options.
2006-10-13 19:09:47 · answer #1 · answered by lp36420 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are allot of discussions about this subject in discovery. some men just have a low sex drive or maybe he is really tired. sex requires a great deal of energy from a man. playing video games does not. at this point you have three choices. one would be to accept things as they are and do not nag at him about it. not only will that not motivate him to have sex with you but it will damage his self image and he will want it less. anxiety performance is not a manly way to feel. it is best just to avoid the sex thing than to do it in a manner that he feels makes his gf think he is not a normal man.
you could get bob (battery operated boyfriend) and take matters into your own hands. you wouldn't be the only woman in the world that had to use such a device to make up for what is lacking in the bedroom. masturbation is a natural way to release sexual frustration without endangering the relationship.
the last option is to find another partner. someone that you can have a no strings attached affair with. this a growing phenomena in America. some ladies even cruise the clubs in nearby cities to have anonymous sex with men they will never see again. i do not understand why women have not founded some sort of club where they can go to meet men looking for the same thing. always practice safe sex.
2006-10-14 02:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by handyman5218 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe your idea of spicing up the bedroom is different from his idea? Try to see things from his point of view. It's not so much about how someone looks, sometimes it's the little, unspoken things
My ex gf used to tell me that my clothes were dirty and that my job was no good and that I was too messy and then complain when I didn't feel attracted to her
Another ex gf was the opposite, there would be loads of dirtyy clothes everywhere, fleas bussing around the dirty dishes in the sink, unfinished sandwiches collecting mold in the crevices of the bedroom, and then complain when I didn't feel attracted to her.
It all depends I guess
2006-10-14 02:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by rasmalai001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a jerk! Sorry...if my man treated me that way I wouldn't stick around. We make love 4-5 times a week, sometimes more so that makes it easier for those nights that he isn't in the mood or Im not in the mood, it happens sometimes, understandable. But to call you a spoiled b*tch, that's not nice at all.
2006-10-14 02:06:47 · answer #4 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm....He is 24 and rather play video games than have some kick azz sex? Sounds to me like the boy has got his priorities all wrong! I hope he knows that having that kind of attitude will get him lonely and single in a heart beat! Sorry you with a dud....
2006-10-14 02:05:38 · answer #5 · answered by Fort Worth, TX 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's become uninterested, for one reason or another. This would be a "sit down and talk moment" to avoid either of you wasting otherwise young lives in a bad relationship.
2006-10-14 02:05:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has anything else in the relationship changed? a new baby? a new job? Is he different in other ways? Hate to say this but it kind of sounds like his eyes are somewhere else.. and maybe other parts of his body are somewhere else if you know what I mean!
Tee
2006-10-14 02:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by sexymama2420052000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he calls you the "B" word, why are you still there? No one wants what they don't respect. You have allowed yourself to become devalued and disrespected. People take one another for granted everyday. Stop chasing him, let him chase you. Spice yourself up. Spice up interests outside of him. He could feel smothered.
2006-10-14 02:05:50 · answer #8 · answered by Onjel 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He's a Big Kid, Plus why is he calling you a Bi*ch, that is just not acceptable!!!!! Trust me Your not the Problem!!!!!
2006-10-14 02:09:06 · answer #9 · answered by Breann 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did not mention weather you were married or what?I know I would never marry a man whose sexual appetite was not at least close to mine.
2006-10-14 02:06:56 · answer #10 · answered by sosueme534 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋