future advice about being a single mother?
2006-10-13 18:57:51 · 12 answers · asked by Elle 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
make some time for you. This will keep you sane. Your kids do not need "everything' they will make do without an ipod. Make their school sandwiches on the weekend and freeze them. Just pull them out in the morning . Budget budget budget... Camping is a cheap holiday. the house only needs to be clean, not always neat. If you are working then make some meals on the weekend and freeze them so you can pull the out the night before to thaw in the fridge, heat and serve.
The most important is remember time for you. Get the kids to bed and soak in the bath for an hour with a good book. Buy some chocolate(hide it till the kids are in bed) get a good dvd and enjoy. Even if it is just little things you do for yourself it will keep you sane. Most important consistant parenting. If they are naughty punish evrytime, not just the times you can be bothered. You do not want your kids being talked about as the reason kids from single parent are bad kids (this is what i strive to avoid) most of all NO GUILT over the times you make mistakes in parenting. We learn from our mistakes.
2006-10-13 23:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick your battles and don't sweat the small stuff. If she is going out the door to get to the bus stop don't stand and aruge that what she has on isn't appropriate, if the school deems it inappropiate they'll send her home (never happened to my daughter), but there is no point in arguing at the door as the bus drives by.
Secondly, in ANY situation look at it then ask yourself this question "will it matter in 10years?" If the answer is "no" then don't worry about it.
Third, if you're working fulltime and the house is a mess don't worry about it, do what you can do and leave the rest. If someone complains hand them a dust rag or the vacumn cleaner and tell them to have fun.
(actually I did this when I was married, we had a "Family room" downstairs that was ALWAYS cluttered, I worked nights and spent the time during the day before I went to work with my daughter rather than cleaning, on weekends I did what I could to catch up, I had a husband who figured I should do all of the housework since he took care of the outdoor work and the cars...funny I always seemed to manage to change my own tires though....), anyway one day my mother in law made a comment about how the family room always had toys and "kids stuff" cluttering it up and that the room needed a dusting, I handed her the dust rag and told her to make her self happy, that I felt it was more important to spend time with my child...She looked at my semi well adjusted toddler put the dust rag away and told me that at least I had my priorities straight...Anyway what this means is that it is more important to spend time with your children than worrying about the clutter, and in 10 years it's not going to make a difference whether the house is clean, but in 10 years the memories of you spending time with your child will...
2006-10-13 22:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 33 and I'm a single mother for already a year and a half.I have 7 children(the oldest is 15,the youngest is 2).I'm not sure about what advice exactly are you looking for,but if you need any advice about disciplining children or handling with life without your husband,you can write me:)I'm Julia,email - rabotoholi4ka@yahoo.com
I know being a single mother is not easy but if you have organised your life together with your children,it may be one of the best thing that have ever happened to you.Good luck!
2006-10-13 19:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i can.....first and foremost love your kid.
never talk bad about the absent parent...
Don't bring guys home in front of your kid because before you know he/she has already met 10 guys!!
Create a positive image of the absent parent for the child.
Make sure you have a good babysitter, that will not let you kid run wild.
Start your own buisness so you dont have to work 2 jobs.
Dont make dating your new hobbie. 2 times a month is a good start.
Take time to help with homework.
And remember dating and being single becomes addictive, later on when the time comes you'll find youtself even more scared to be in an exclusive relationship more than ever.
2006-10-13 19:07:45 · answer #4 · answered by Kristi A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always do your best and strive for greatness. Manage your time well. Spend plenty of time with your child and do lots of activities together. Being single isn't all that bad if you have a good support group. Just always remember that you are trying to give your child the best and he/she will appreciate it later and respect you for it. Don't get involved with men that don't want to get to know your child also don't bring lots of men around to be in and out of their life it really hurts them. Always when you meet some one new tell them you have a child and that way you can tell whether they are worth your time or not. And last always enjoy your time with your child cherish every moment because they grow up so fast. Just all ways do your best. It will be hard at times and you will get stressed out but remember that your child is depending on you to be there and keep them safe.
2006-10-13 19:05:42 · answer #5 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a single mommy for 7 years, raising my son Ty alone. All I can tell you is love that baby, ask for help when you need it, accept help that is offered from trusted people and make YOU happy. If you aren't happy then your baby will sense it. You need to make time for you, when possible. You will be a wonderful mom I am sure!!!
2006-10-13 19:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was once a young single mom. Dont depend on the Sperm Doner. Depend on yourself. Get a job and do everything you need to do for your child. If the guy wants to be there great, if not, his loss. Dont go out, hang out with your child. Always love them and try to be there for them. I met my husband when my son was one and we got married. My husband adopted my son and, he is 6, he doesnt know anything. to this day, the sperm doner hasnt given one penny, but then again, he gave up all his rights. be strong and dont give up. it will get easier.
2006-10-14 02:19:44 · answer #7 · answered by missy524 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me tell youwhat bill needed, love from his mother, ten he would know what true love is.... anyways i am a single mother by choise and the best advise is to be there for your kids , love them and support them and never forget that you will teach them well, so trust them.... and also dont forget we are all human and we will all try to get away with the same things you did, so be patient....
2006-10-13 19:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by tjdeya24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have faith in yourself firstly!
If you need help, don't be afraid to ask for it. That was one mistake I made.
Don't listen to any negative comments about single parenting.
Lastly, enjoy your little one, they grow up so damn quick!
Goodluck to you :)
2006-10-13 21:53:59 · answer #9 · answered by Not_a_toothless_pirate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies deserve a stable home with two responsible adults. This is a big responsibility.
2006-10-14 03:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋