Well, this is the second time I have written on this board. I am totally stressed to the max, my heart is throbbing and I am not eating. Bottum line, I have a girlfriend, that I just started to see exclusively. We have spent some toime together, she is new to my town. So she does not have any friend really, jus ta few here and there. Anyways, she attracts a lot of men because of the woman she is. SHe allways like to be friends with these guys, and I understand that, though right ow its Friday night, and she is out withj another guy, and has not said a wink to me at all. I dont think these men know what her disposition is, is she playing me? do I say something. My brain tells me that she is having fun, though my heart tell me that I am ******. SHe is out with another guy or guy's and I was not included. I feel she acts as if we are not together, when she is with other men. She wants her cake, and then wants her frosting on a sep plate. How do I discuss this with her.
2006-10-13 18:51:50 · 28 answers · asked by Brian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hate to break this to you, but when a woman is really into a guy, she doesn't want to spend time with anyone else. She's new in town and she's starting to fish the waters. You're just the first one she caught.
2006-10-13 18:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that you just started seeing her exclusively. Did the 2 of you discuss that you would be exclusive to each other though? If so then maybe you should just be honest and tell her that it's ok for her to have male friends..but suggest that maybe the two of you as a couple could get together with her friends next time she goes out with them. If she thinks you're being possessive or something just ask her if she would be totally cool with you going out with a female friend and not bringing her. Also if she's new to the area then you might want to introduce her to some girls you know so she can make girlfriends too.
2006-10-13 19:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by Moon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are supposed to be together, she's definitely not acting like it. She's out with males. Don't tell me she hasn't met any females she could be friends with and go out with. So what if she is attractive and a lot of guys approach her, that does not mean she has to accept their offers. If I had a boyfriend who was new to town and started spending time out dating other girls, I would not even talk to him about it, i would drop him so quick. How do you talk to your girlfriend/boyfriend about dating other people? you shouldn't even have to. She is playing you and taking advantage of your kindness--she's taking your understanding and kindness for weakness on your part. I think that you should dump this girl because she's only going to continue walking over you and your feelings. If you do it now, even though you may lose a bit of your appetite and maybe a wink of sleep, you will be better off and stress free. Find someone who truly cares about you and who doesn't take you for granted. She's just a 'slutoe' (a slutty *oe). You can't change those types of females no more than women can change doggish men.
2006-10-13 19:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't discuss it with her, dump her now before you get more hurt. You are better than her and it's time you found someone worthy of your attention. Don't even think of taking her flighty disinterest personally. She just isn't looking for what you've got, because she doesn't feel that she's a good person inside, and just wants to escape and pretend to have fun, while hiding from what's really important in life. Love isn't supposed to be a sacrifice, it's supposed to be an even exchange, a contract between two people based on mutual pride, respect, loyalty, honor, and a little lust.
2006-10-13 19:03:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt stand by and watch her go out with other guys. Is it just her and another guy or is it a group of people?
I would try to make friends with these guys so there is no reason you as the boyfriend would not be included.
She may feel that you dont want to go- or dont care she is off with another guy. Its great that you trust her...but you sitting home on a friday nite as she is out with men isnt ok. Is there friends you hang out with so it doesnt look like u are waiting for her to call you? Sometimes if a girl knows her man is out w/o her..she may see the light.
2006-10-13 19:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by KA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Be honest with her - about how you feel and ask her straight are you the one and only - as she is new to the town she is probably just finding her feet - where she fits in etc but you need to know what is going on - if she is going out as friends why cant you be included. I think you already know what is going on with her. If she wont discuss this with you then thats your answer right there. Good luck you sound like a nice guy .
2006-10-13 18:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by 1971sharo n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being played my friend. Set her up for the big break up. Let every one see you are not a sniffling dog. Make her never understand why she got the bullet. Just remember you have your pride and this girl is hurting it. Do not allow that to ever happen. Once it continues you will never have control in your life. Sort it out now. Good luck my friend.
2006-10-13 18:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by Charles Athole M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all calm down.. Good... Listen it doesnt matter that she is with other ppl. Let her.. She is new to town.. let her get friends. However this is making you feel like crap.. Discuss with her what she is doing makes u feel the way u do. U love her, i get that. She might not realise it. Just give it time, talk to her when the time is right,
From experience here, dont bug her about it, tell her u need to talk. Bugging her will only make things worse.
I hope this helps.
2006-10-13 18:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by ca4btts 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Man she has your right where she wants you. Worried about her and what she is doing....Women like this want there man to be able to stand on his own. ( and not doing this makes her lose interest) You need to go and get on some on females and kick it with them dont do anything just yet with them...but socialize enough to where when and if you find out your girl is the new "slut" of your town...you will have 2-3 females in the works that you can go kick it with to make you forget about her....Man up!!
2006-10-13 18:57:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry about this, i would try and talk to her about it, but if she won't fess up and say that she is doing this then i say dump her, the situation is only going to get worse if you don't do anything about it, cause she probably thinks that you don't mind when you really do. So let her know that your not going to take this anymore and if she doesn't stop then dump her.
Good luck
2006-10-13 19:01:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋