i've been going out with this guy for about a year and he moved to another country over the summer. it has been tough and we are getting through. everyone is telling me that it wont work. but i really like him. how long do you think it will last?
2006-10-13 18:29:45 · 16 answers · asked by Frozen_Time 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend and i have been "dating" for almost 2 years now. he is in the states and i'm 1000 miles away in canada. i have a good phone plan and so we talk all the time. we fly to see each other whenever we have the cash. we've been talking about getting married for a while now. i'm hoping it will come along soon:D it's a lot more work than a "regular" relationship. it teaches you how to communicate and it does get you to put a lot of trust in each other. dont listen to what anyone else is saying about your relationship with this guy. do what you know is right in your heart. talk to him, pray for him, trust him, love him.
2006-10-13 18:33:54 · answer #1 · answered by Starry Eyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
America is all about doubt and quick fixes, we should all know that by now but they are people that are stronger minded, have faith, loyality and real strong hearts. if you love someone or care enough for them that no one else is going to be able to make you feel the way that they do then distance won't change a thing, of course its not going to be the easiest thing to do but with strong will and trying to communicate through using the phone or the internet and both, it will be fine as long as one day you two plan to meet again. and you should try to visit, at least in the summer and when you have a vaction coming up. I'm not sure of your age but that should play an important role. if you're under 18 then it might not be so healthy but chances are if you have been going out with him for a year it's serious and you're probably not that young( 16 or under). I agree it is a two way street, if one of you gives up hope or decides it's better to be apart at least for a while, then yes. If you two really want to be together, you'll find ways to make it work out and if you two keep in contact,keep hope alive and are able to stay in love, then it's true love and love can wait. if you take a break you two could find that there's no one else for you and everything will be great. if not then it's good you have a whole country to divide you two and you'll be able to find someone that makes you as happy as you do them. good luck all the way;-)
Tricia
btw if you want you can answer my last question, just click my name. it'll be the first question that appears. it's a relationship question too. thanks:-)
btw a big pot of gold at the end of your rainbow. My friend Bob( well I went out with him in '98 for a few weeks) he met a girl on the instant messneger, he's almost 26 now.they just got married! we live in PA and she lived is Ohio, now they live in Washington DC together and they got married on August 12th and are very happy and they never broke up. I really hope this gives you faith. I wish you all the happiness you can let in;-)
2006-10-14 01:45:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard it doesn't work but it really all depends on commitment and how much a couple feels about each other. The more serious the relationship is, the more seriously it will be taken. In your case, I believe it will work. I've had a similar experience as you and I know it is hard because you don't have that special someone with you. But just keep in touch, have him visit you sometimes or you visit him, and believe me, on the day when you have him in your arms again, it will be like heaven. Goodluck with your situation my friend.
2006-10-14 01:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They dont usually work. Ask they guys in the military. The seperation/divorce rate is really high. Not to mention most men in that situation screw around, like 99%. I am bein honest with you. He may feel like he cares about you but he will still screw something since your not there to take care of that for him. Men are what they are. So in answer to your question I believe NO they do not work.
2006-10-15 00:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
anything is possible. you both just have to be committed and there has to be major trust. my boyfriend moved away last summer, he was only gone for two months, but we seemed to grow closer in that time. so, it just depends on how the two of you act together as a couple and how you deal with being so far apart.
2006-10-14 01:53:58 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can u be with somebody he is in the other country. that is impossible if he moved there for good and he is not coming back anytime soon and you r not going to move there. its hard but u have to let it go. u never gonna know what is he doing there or who is he talking to or anything, and the same thing with him, he wont know what do u do here. so where is the point, its just holding on to something that is never going to go farder than this. it can just go back....and i dont think so u wanna go there...
2006-10-14 01:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by Ashlee_Hbiba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope! Sorry but there is nothing good about a long distance relationship. With time it'll just fade away! Sorry
2006-10-14 01:33:02 · answer #7 · answered by Fort Worth, TX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could last as long as ya make it last and work,i should know i had one for about 2 years.
2006-10-14 01:46:54 · answer #8 · answered by shemika kiker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i started my relationship long distance....and its been goin well for about 10 months....trust me...it works if u trully love each other...its hard....but ull make it through love first of all....and second trust..which is a part of love......and when i say love.......i mean love..not lust....maybe the guy is hot...but that should not be priority......then it probly wont last...cuz theres always someone who could be hotter.....its love hunz
2006-10-14 01:38:03 · answer #9 · answered by damakdadyman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will work jus fine as long as u have the commitment and trust.
2006-10-14 01:31:24 · answer #10 · answered by jaz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋