so my bf and i had a mini breakup for a day.. and we got back together. for the crazy amount of time we hav e been together that was the first time that happened... now that we are back together he is starting to talk about rings!... i dont know wether or not a promise ring.. or engagement ring.. but is this weird? that we break up and then we like each other more than ever? how should i handle this?
2006-10-13 18:06:30 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He temporarily "lost" you and couldn't bare the thought of it. Tread carefully. Many people get engaged after this so-called "honeymoon" stage. This is very much like when an abuser beats the other person and feels sorry. They make up and things are great...for awhile. Not to say he beat you or anything, but just be careful and give this "ring-thing" a lot of thought. Part of being in a mature relationship is having disagreements. HOW you handle the disagreements will dictate the way your relationship proceeds and matures. Just know that it's ok to argue and fight, even over little stuff. It doesn't mean you have to break up.
2006-10-13 18:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by Lesleann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if the break up was something you both agreed on or one of you two decided to end it. if he ended it with you and then started talking about rings he might have panicked and thought wow I am an idiot because I love her so much, I can't live without her and I want to stay with her, I don't want anyone else to be with her. from what you wrote it doesn't sound like you broke up with him. I figure he's coming on strongly because he doesn't wanna lose you and freaked out because he knows how attractive inside and out you are to him and knows someone will want you the instant they find out you're single. SO I figure now you should calm your boyfriend down and let him know that you love him and want to be with him forever and he has nothing to worry about, as long as he treats you with kindness,love and affection then you'll love him and stay with him. let him know even if you fight you will stay with him and that you will not stray that you can not be so easily pursaded and you will be loyal to him always. he just needs ressurance and to build up his confidence again.
though you did say you've been together for a real long time and this is the first you two broke up, so it might have been something deeper so you two should have a long talk to get everything straightened out so you can return happy and confident in love together;-)
2006-10-13 18:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever happened with your "mini" breakup, he probably realized that he really didn't want to lose you. Sometimes a little hiccup in a relationship is all it takes for one person to realize how much they actually want, appreciate, or need that person in their life. It can be genuine or it can be desperate. If I were you, I wouldn't address it unless he keeps talking about it. There's a chance that it could be all talk, and if not, that's when you need to worry about handling it.
2006-10-13 18:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by hawkeye847 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby the same thing happened with me and my now hubby......He realized what he had once it was gone(Which was you)So now he wants to keep you forever.....
2006-10-13 18:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE MAY SEE THAT YOU ARE THE ONE, AND HE DOES NOT
WANT TO LOSE YOU. BUT DONT RUSH ANYTHING SINCE
YOU AND HIM JUST GOT BACK TOGETHER, TAKE YOUR
TIME.
2006-10-13 18:11:51 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋